Multiple times in the past, my boyfriend has promised not to watch porn, been good a few months, and then went back to watching it/lying to me about it despite knowing that it kills me inside (full backstory here). He relapsed again recently and I reached a point where I started to completely lose hope. However, he says he really sees things differently now and he is finally really going to reboot and commit to never watching porn again, not just for me but for himself. I want to believe him and support him in making this positive change. I spent a ton of time researching PA and sent him lots of articles and resources to use, including this website. Right now he says he feels really good and has been P free, but I can't shake the feeling that it's only a matter of time before he relapses. I know that people on this site have remained porn free for many months or even years (effectively "rebooting" their brain) but then have relapsed anyway. As an SO it makes me feel really hopeless, because I feel like I'm just waiting for the other shoe to drop. That relapse is always inevitable. Is it really possible for someone to remain porn-free for the rest of their lives? Society hyper-sexualizes women at every turn (there are tons of triggers everywhere) and it also normalizes porn use and implies that men have a "need" for it and simply cannot do without it for long periods of time. I have been told by many people (both men and women) that asking a partner not to watch porn is unreasonable and only sets us up for failure, especially if I'm not having sex with them all the time (as is the case in my current relationship, which has recently become long distance). I'm starting to feel like my only option is just to accept that my partners will always use porn and I should just "get over it". I really don't want to believe this but I'm kind of starting to. I don't know how to maintain my hope that long-term, permanent recovery is truly possible.