It’s time

Hey,

I’m new to the community and am looking for a group to help me grow. I am a porn user and also have had an affair, and told my wife and am in the process of repair with my wife. The affair lasted for quite some time and there are red flags for me everywhere. I am completely ashamed, and didn’t come here to be judged.

I am heavily triggered lately and and have relapsed. I need a place to be honest with myself and set some goals.

My goal is to be a faithful husband and get some control in my life, instead of acting on impulse.

My first challenge is to myself is just a 7 day PM challenge. I need a small win.

 

Three weeks today! So far I've been successful which feels really awesome. The longer I am successful the more I have to loose if I relapse which is helping keep me on track. I beat the 7 day challenge I set up for myself, and now I'm going for 90. My marriage has been better, the sex has been better, I've been more motivated in other areas as well.

Another thing I need to start changing is drinking. It is a problem for me, and I know I would be better off giving it up all together. Starting today I am not drinking for 7 days (min).