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kraven999

kraven999

Fapstronaut
Hey guys,
Life has been monotonous. I can see and visualise the life that i want and ik is waiting for me but somehow all these years I can't reach. I just turned 24 and some things need to change.
First is obviously fapping. Its been a while that I havent watched porn but I've ben fapping almost everyday to some slightly hot and explicit reels (ik some would count it as porn).
I mean come on i want to be the ideal man that's ik has always been calling for me all this time.
It starts today.
I will journal everyday, shifting the gears on improvement. This journal will contain my records on urges/nofap and manifestations/visualise on the life I want.
And I would welcome anyone who wants to join this journey with me.
Cheers!
 
Hey Kraven!
It's always good to see someone with this determination.

I'm just on my second day but this month has been the best this year, thanks to God.
I think you're on a the same stage as me, in the sense that we've been relapsing very constantly and now we're just exhausted and tired of the same cycle.
For me this is the right moment to do a change because we're conscious that PMO is trash and it doesn't bring any value at all!
The only thing I used to think that fap was doing for me was giving me pleasure.
But then I understood that there's not any other kind of pleasure in life that makes you feel sad, makes you second guess yourself and that you want to get rid of forever.
That's not genuine pleasure, that's addiction.

This is the best decision we're making, no matter how many times we relapse, this will always be the best decision to make!
 
GsusHelps said:
Hey Kraven!
It's always good to see someone with this determination.

I'm just on my second day but this month has been the best this year, thanks to God.
I think you're on a the same stage as me, in the sense that we've been relapsing very constantly and now we're just exhausted and tired of the same cycle.
For me this is the right moment to do a change because we're conscious that PMO is trash and it doesn't bring any value at all!
The only thing I used to think that fap was doing for me was giving me pleasure.
But then I understood that there's not any other kind of pleasure in life that makes you feel sad, makes you second guess yourself and that you want to get rid of forever.
That's not genuine pleasure, that's addiction.

This is the best decision we're making, no matter how many times we relapse, this will always be the best decision to make!
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Hey there,
Glad to hear that things and going great for you. I believe that we can end this cycle together. It's so frustrating right? To set this goal and fail again and again.
Talking about pleasures, I heard this quote somewhere that's somewhat says
"Men either life a life of pleasure or purpose"
Its really helping me and hope it helps you too in your journey.
All the best. Let's win together.
Imagine the life that's waiting for us. This decision is ours could be it..
 
DAY 0
Feeling better knowing that I have such an amazing place to share anything.
First if all, I have to set myself some rules.
  • I need to read more. Can't believe there was a time when I used to read the whole day and how did it feel? Better than anything! This has to start again and the only things stopping me are these bad habits of watching t.v and gaming.
  • I will watch instagram reels only before I sleep kind of like a reward.
  • Watching YouTube only while eating.
  • I will make sure to take rests while working and not sit in the same place for more than an hour. I feel like sitting in the same place sometimes gives me urges.
  • Will meditate everyday
Idk what my goal is on the no of days of abstinance but porn and hot reels on facebook is completely out. I have to promise myself.
But my reason is clear. I want to be more spiritual and be closer to the absolute or my true self everyday and have the life that I know I want. And for that I have to sacrifice some negative things. This I have to remind myself again because I seem to forget.
I might write multiple entries in a day to be more present and share my insights.

Btw @GsusHelps are you looking for an AP??
 
No urges today as expected. On counting the days, what I've thought is starting small, ie one week of nofap. And even if I decided to release after that, it will obviously without porn, not even hot images. Pure imaginations only, there's on phone in the picture.
One big reason I relapse is I give in to peeking, thinking that "just one peek" that I'm sure everyone's familiar with. Then what happens everytime is I relapse coming across some explicit content.
No peeking at all here, like I said phone is out of the picture. No good always comes from peeking.

It was quite a good and productive day working, meditating and I've decided to reward myself with a movie.
When I look at my life from a journaling perspective, maybe I need to meet and network with more people, gain knowledge in terms of both material and spiritual.

Excited for day 1.
 
Hey man, I would just like to say that I've hit the bottom of PMO addicton and when I was younger I read this book called "How to quit porn" by Celibate Yogi

I've had the same thing going on for a lot of years noticing that I should stop but I just stop feeling the need to keep myself on the right path after a few days.
There's a very good book that helped me I will attach it to this message.

It debunks all the reasons why our conditioned mind always return to this habit once we are not on the dopamine rollercoaster anymore and shows you how to not desire this addiction anymore.

You can decide to quit at day 1 but day 2-3 you feel like this wouldn't make a difference so you fall back into relapses, thinking that this nofap thing isnt something to worry about. This book shows you how this poison that always seems so pleasurable tricks you to relapse and will answer all the underlying questions that comes to mind. For example social media, social circles, or "This is the only pleasure I have, let me enjoy it so I can relax.."

The aftermath though is always the opposite and instead of relaxing us and giving us pleasure, it saps our ability to enjoy the normal pleasures of life and makes us uneasy instead of relaxed in the future because we're craving the next numbing hit! From each relapse we crave something more!
 

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Hey @kraven999, I just read your latest updates on your journey...
I saw your question about an AP, but I don't know what's that...

By the way, the book recommended by @bdaw213 it's pretty good!
I haven't read that one, but it seems to be very very similar to (TheEasyPeasyWayToQuitPorn)
The idea behind the method is to realize that we're not losing anything when quitting porn.
Instead, it's a win or win. It deconstructs those lies or myths around the benefits/ilusions of porn in our lifes.
 
bdaw213 said:
Hey man, I would just like to say that I've hit the bottom of PMO addicton and when I was younger I read this book called "How to quit porn" by Celibate Yogi

I've had the same thing going on for a lot of years noticing that I should stop but I just stop feeling the need to keep myself on the right path after a few days.
There's a very good book that helped me I will attach it to this message.

It debunks all the reasons why our conditioned mind always return to this habit once we are not on the dopamine rollercoaster anymore and shows you how to not desire this addiction anymore.

You can decide to quit at day 1 but day 2-3 you feel like this wouldn't make a difference so you fall back into relapses, thinking that this nofap thing isnt something to worry about. This book shows you how this poison that always seems so pleasurable tricks you to relapse and will answer all the underlying questions that comes to mind. For example social media, social circles, or "This is the only pleasure I have, let me enjoy it so I can relax.."

The aftermath though is always the opposite and instead of relaxing us and giving us pleasure, it saps our ability to enjoy the normal pleasures of life and makes us uneasy instead of relaxed in the future because we're craving the next numbing hit! From each relapse we crave something more!
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Hey @bdaw213
Thanks a lot for the book! I will surely go through it. I hope you're doing good.
Quitting porn is one of the hardest things I've ever done, I mean quitting cigarettes is nothing compared to it right? When I said I wont drink or smoke, its easy for me to not touch it ever again but porn, damn.

You said you've hit the bottom of pmo addiction? Really sorry to hear that brother. What helped me get a bit better in this journey is, if I for a really hard urge, I would just MO. I did that for a long time and its become a habit. Its at least better than watching porn right and after a session there would rarely be that guult or brain fog etc. Anything is better than porn. Hope this helps

And I believe find through this journey with mates is always a win.

Happy to help
Happy to help!
 
GsusHelps said:
Hey @kraven999, I just read your latest updates on your journey...
I saw your question about an AP, but I don't know what's that...

By the way, the book recommended by @bdaw213 it's pretty good!
I haven't read that one, but it seems to be very very similar to (TheEasyPeasyWayToQuitPorn)
The idea behind the method is to realize that we're not losing anything when quitting porn.
Instead, it's a win or win. It deconstructs those lies or myths around the benefits/ilusions of porn in our lifes.
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Hey @GsusHelps
AP means an accountability partner who your share your relapses, urges and how your journey is going on. I've found it really helpful to have an AP and when I have one, I even get less urges.
 
Day 1
After a long time (can't remember since when) I finally let myself to a whole day of movie and series and I think I should often let myself do this.
No urges tkday as well and I'm confident I won't have for quite some time now. However what I'm scared of is usually I wake up randomly (usually after just an hour) after sleep and have this uncontrollable urge to peek and relapse. I must stay aware for that.

I need to visualise and be more clear on the life that I want, a life of abundance and spirituality. This nofap must be followed and even if I have to relapse, I will do it without any stimulation from my phone but after a week only.

Tomorrow I will read more, meditate and manifestations.
I feel the change already.
 
kraven999 said:
Hey @GsusHelps
AP means an accountability partner who your share your relapses, urges and how your journey is going on. I've found it really helpful to have an AP and when I have one, I even get less urges.
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Hey @kraven999
I hope you're doing good bro!
Oh right, I get it. I've had APs in the past but I don't have one currently.
And as you say, it's completely beneficial, you can definitely feel a change when having a good AP.
I must look for an AP if I keep relapsing so constantly again.
Actually, I should look for one now, but I don't know who could it be.
 
GsusHelps said:
Hey @kraven999
I hope you're doing good bro!
Oh right, I get it. I've had APs in the past but I don't have one currently.
And as you say, it's completely beneficial, you can definitely feel a change when having a good AP.
I must look for an AP if I keep relapsing so constantly again.
Actually, I should look for one now, but I don't know who could it be.
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Oh you had APs before? What hapened?
We can also be aps. What day are you on?
 
Day 2
Today I found how even mo everyday had already become a habit for me. Before I kept a rule for myself that I will mo everyday but a month ago, I developed this bad habit of doing it everyday. Lots of urge and even now while I'm writing, I'm having urges.
I have to break this new bad habit

My purpose should stand taller then my pleasure.
 
Relaped today
But of course without porn or any visual material. I did read one eroctic story but the progress this time was really good. It was actually day 3 but I usually write my entries late.
The urges yesterday was really strong and I felt I had to release this energy and I did today morning.

I will practice being aware and mindful at all times, know more about it and will never stop. Mindfulness and awareness is something I've found to be very important, something that shapes our life itself.

The thing that is worrying me lately is that I don't have a source of income and I've been trying hard to find a job, but the job market today is really bad.

I also must be very focused on my purpose.
 
kraven999 said:
Oh you had APs before? What hapened?
We can also be aps. What day are you on?
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Yes, I've had a couple of APs.
It was really helpful, mainly because they're friends of mine. So, the fact that I knew them and they knew me in real life was good.
Sometimes it can be shameful to tell about your relapses to a friend, but I think that is precisely the good thing, because it kinda forces you to try better and at the same time you don't want to lie or hide your relapses because that wouldn't make sense (why an AP then?).
Actually the porn addiction feeds and grows on secrecy.

I'm through the third day. Sure, we can be APs if you feel that can help you, but if you have a close and accountable friend, I encourage you to tell them about your addiction and your desire to leave it.
Again, it's not easy, but it's worth it!
 
Day 0

I'm back after a long time and hope everybody is doing great. So sorry for this long abscence because of my own fault and ig laziness for not journaling. I admit I was absent because of my laziness which brings me suffering.
So here it is again, another journey and as always welcoming anyone who wants to join and do this together! @GsusHelps hope you're still here although its been so long and this time I'll try my best to stay here and be consistent, fuck I have to.

So the reason for my relapse was because of my job, it was off season and I wasnt getting paid at all and I felt like a deep hole that was eating me I'm my heart in the form of sentence like I'm 24 years old and just somewhat lost a job. I could feel that heavy burden in my heart but I wasnt present in that feeling. So as usual, it turned into an urge and I relapsed.

Next time whatever feeling I have, I must stay in the present moment with it and not escape it. Porn is an escape all the time.

I might give multiple entries in a day to share my feelings and stay in the present moment.

To a new journey!
I welcome anyone here
 
Day 1

Had a good workout session in the morning which I missed a lot last week because of these same problems. Anyways, there weren't a lot of urges today although I did feel that heaviness you feel after relapses which for me lasts till day 1.

Currently I feel better and hopeful starting a new skillset for finding another job and I will try my best at it. Yes there's fear as always but there might be something better ahead for me.

That said I want to set some rules for my nofap journey that I've decided.
1. I will MO only after a week has passed like a cycle so I get a pass for doing MO every 7 days.

2. This MO is counted as a "non relapse" only if I do it without any external peek that is I usually open facebook reels to peek. So even if I peek only for one second on any website even if its some bikini, bra etc photos, It is counted as a relapse and I will report here.

3. If I peek "slightly" and don't MO, its not counted as a relapse but it should be only slightly and once I'm aware, I have to turn it away instantly.

This is my own good. Porn is behind me now and not a part of my life anymore.
 
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