By "no one", I mean the people outside of NoFap and by "it", I mean fetishes and sexual desires brought about by porn that distress the addict. When you start talking about how it's distressing, they often take a reductionist stance trying to trivialize the addicts feelings about their fetishes by saying, "It's not a big deal" or "You can't change what you like so just enjoy it" Often this is said even though the addict is often suffering due to the internal conflict of wanting to rid themself from said fetish. I often wonder what they'd say to people that havefetishes or fantasies that could lead to more harm such as "knife play, erotic asphyxiation, scat, necrophilia or someone that had pedophiliac fantasies. I'd expect that the tune would quickly change. I'm sure no parent would leave their child unsupervised with someone that fantasies about children, and rightfully so. And I doubt the majority of people that enable lesser extreme fantasies or kinks would continue to say "It's not a big deal". It would be nice if a lot of us that distress about fetishes that aren't as extreme could be met with support instead of being trivialized and enabled because they don't believe we can get rid of the fetishes.