Its impossible to find a decent looking girl.

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Bandido, Oct 14, 2018.

  1. Bandido

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    It makes sense why, there is simply too much competition from desperate dudes who are constantly hitting up average and above average looking women. Most dudes have no idea how much attention and options an average woman has.

    First of all, most average and above average looking, are taken, they have a boyfriend or married. This is a fact. Men are visual and these women will always have tons of men chasing them. Even if an average woman is single, she is never truly single and lonely like a man is. She will have many options and men who are constantly orbiting around her, trying to get her.

    Many attractive women are single and you would often hear that is because "men are afraid of them". This is bullshit. Many men may be afraid of them, but even if they weren't, they would never have a chance. These are single because they have high standards for men, when it comes to looks, money, status, personality and what feelings are produced in her brain. She is holding out for that perfect guy that has all she wants.

    Most men are disqualified by default. You never had a chance to begin with. You having courage and approaching, won't change anything. Most men don't approach them, though, cause they know they won't have a chance.

    Another problem, many women nowadays believe to be hotter than they really are. Social media is to blame for this. It allowed for men (who would otherwise, wouldn't do it in person) to compliment and shower these women with attention. The result is that a 5/10 average woman believes she is hotter than her equal a 5/10 man.

    There is simply too much competition for most dudes to even have a chance. Let's say you go to a mall. Out of thousand people that may be there, how many women are actually above average looking? Probably 5 or 10%. The rest will be plain, below average, fat, old, etc.

    Now, most men would obviously prefer to be with an attractive woman or at least, cute. Do you really think these women are going to be single? LMAO they get hit on by dudes multiple times a day for months and years.

    Math alone says that it was only a matter of time, till one of those dudes happened to fit into what she is looking for when it comes a man's looks, personality, character, etc. You never had a chance, cause before you met a particular girl, she probably got hit on by hundreds of those, of course, she'll be taken.

    The reality, most men with girlfriend, these suckers only got lucky. There is nothing special about these dudes. They just happened to get lucky that whatever they have, fit into what that particular woman wanted or was looking for.

    I've seen couples, many times, I'm superior to the boyfriend in every way, in looks, money and many other aspects, yet he somehow got himself a cute girl. In reality, he just got lucky, that's all.
     
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  2. Karimtolstoi

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    Nice post man ! but does this mean you don't even have to try to approach an "above average looking" woman?!
     
  3. The Lone Ranger

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    I sum this up as you’re frustrated right now. I think the way you explain things is kind of shallow and there is more to the game than this. I think there are more beautiful women out there than you see right now and you have it in you to meet someone you fancy as well. And note I said “in you”, disregarding how you look. If you continue with your nofap journey you might be surprised to find yourself more charming and outgoing than before, so I’ve heard. This increases your chance to meet the woman that will make you happy. I know you probably think I live in fairyland, avoiding the truth, but this is my experience. Good luck to you my friend!
     
  4. Meditation Monk

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    just stay busy and preoccupied with your life and you will start to think less on these things and be more happier in life. Simple fact. The more busy you are the better off you will be by stop thinking about women or married women for that matter.
     
  5. Ra's Al Ghul

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    This isn't groundbreaking news; attractive women will always have male orbiters around her, bees trying to get into her honeypot.
     
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  6. Meditation Monk

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    lol, good luck with that, you know there are more important things in life than chasing in after women. Life is full of possibilities out there. Chase after them, and you will start feeling less depressed about yourself and the fact that you cannot get women for sex. I mean, go to a massage parlor or strip club and pay them for that. But life isn't always about wome. Imo, haha.
     
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  7. robz13

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    Have you ever actually been rejected by a girl, or are you just complaining about an idea that you haven't verified for yourself?
     
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  8. I used to think like that but I found it just made me mad and resentful. That was before I started to value myself my thoughts and my time I could care less who is dating who now I don't focus on that I know who I am and that's enough for me. note- just because a women is cute doesn't mean the guy is lucky to have her that's loser talk and I have dated a few so called hot women and found that looks are not everything they could be a mental mess realy negative and judgmental and super lame in bed , don't judge people purley on looks its like getting into a sports car that has no engine
     
  9. Jen@8675309

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    This is an absolutely ridiculous statement. Men do not have a monopoly on being single and lonely and I suggest you stop assuming women don't have the same problems with this as men.
     
  10. Ra's Al Ghul

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    Exactly, she could be an undesireable partner in other ways.
     
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  11. stopophilia

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    I strongly disagree with this,you never know what a woman thinks about you until you try...
    I remember seriously crushing on a lady that won a beauty pageantry,everyone said she was out of my league and I kind of believed it but decided to take my chances anyway...
    Today she’s my girlfriend and she’s often said how she was really attracted to me before I said my first HELLO to her..
     
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  12. Ra's Al Ghul

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    Wow dude, nice. You must be a Turbo Chad.
     
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  13. stopophilia

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    Not really...
    I’ve got turned down by ladies once or twice,the idea is to go for what you fancy regardless of being rejected or not..
     
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  14. stopophilia

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    ...and even if you do get rejected,it helps to remind one of the fact that we’re humans at the end of the day,you have to fail at some point..
     
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  15. Ra's Al Ghul

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    How did you get over that whole thinking of hitting on a woman above your league? Which is a concept I think is somewhat bs to a point.
     
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  16. 4DCreator

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    With girls in this world, it is very difficult. Especially for men, they are not informed about the psychology behind relationships.

    Nice looking girls can very likely be disordered by "Narcissistic personality disorder" which is very dangerous and damaging disorder. These women can literally damage the man beyond repairable and many men can finish in hospital on antidepressants or suicide. These women are cold, arrogant, they have no emotions, they feel superior over others, they want a man as a supply only, they don't connect to him emotionally because they don't have emotions, they can discard anytime, they sleep with other men and they feel no remorse and so on. For more information please study it on youtube. A narcissistic woman can damage you much more than 40 years of fapping and watching porn. But many people have no idea about this subject whatsoever.

    When you looking for a woman, please look for a woman which is not arrogant, has a kind heart and is genuinely nice, humble, has manners (doesn't give sex on first meeting) observe her at least 3 months if she is not pretending. If she was spoiled by her parents and is super hot and is expecting you to pay for her lifestyle, sooner or later it will fuck you up mentally very badly. These women are exactly the same thing as fapping and porn but they are real life daemons. They will give you sex you never had in your life, but they will take slowly your life and mental health away. You will never feel a connection with them but you will feel that you are losing your basic sanity. They will only feed your sexual needs. But your life will go to deep fuck slowly (could go beyond repairable) This is a very dangerous subject!

    SPOILER WARNING :emoji_exclamation::emoji_exclamation:

    I had a woman like that in my life. It was the most beautiful looking woman I have ever seen. And I have got my life lesson. It was the worst lesson of my life. And why have I been with her? Because I was watching porn and she looked even better than all porn stars I have ever seen. I didn't understand how can I have such an extremely attractive woman in my life. And she was fulfilling all my desires I ever had. It was an unreal relationship. Addiction to sex and fetishes fulfilled fully in real life by the attractive sexual daemon (but at the same time she sleeps with other men, she had no remorse or anything human in her).

    When I all realized that, I broke up with her as I wanted to be real to myself and wanted to become a strong and healthy man. I was a poor addicted man. She fucked me up mentally, she damaged my self-esteem, my dreams, my self-confidence. Trust me. It is just a walking empty shell looking like a woman but it is a walking daemon (satan) designed for addicted men to fail in their life. It is not a real woman at all. It is there just to show you "Look how extremely addicted you are to her, she is the most attractive you have ever seen, hm?"

    These women are "eating" you alive by being arrogant bitches, for them you mean nothing. They will speak to you like you are the last piece of shit for them, but at the same time, they will give you the sex of your life. So because you are addicted to sex and porn with an attractive woman you are not able to disconnect from this daemon. And slowly you loosing your mental health. It is already 2 years I have disconnected from this sick person and I still have huge vivid fantasies what I have experienced with her (even I haven't seen her for 2 years), because she really gave me everything I ever wanted. I am still addicted to her even after such a long time.

    Guys be careful. Very attractive women can be hidden satan for you to fuck up your life badly :emoji_radioactive::emoji_radioactive::emoji_radioactive: Narcissistic personality disorder is extremely dangerous disorder people have no idea about.

    Look for a woman with a heart, kind woman, humble woman. Believe me on this one. You have life experience here from a first hand. Having sex with a woman is, of course, fantastic experience, just make sure you are very aware with who you are having sex with.
     
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  17. Footballer94

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    I think those guys are not just lucky as you think or your shallow sight made you do so. Those guys have a really courage and positive attitude to take steps forwardly, getting into the girl, talking to her and being nice in way makes him more attractive than you think. And believe me setting in front of a computer and complaining about something that may not even true instead of taking a real good steps in searching for happiness or settlement or whatever is a really bad and may help to put many wrong thoughs in your mind!
     
  18. Bandido

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    I'm a decent looking guy. I do lots of things to improve myself. I go to the gym, I have an athletic body. I read and try to learn more about many subjects. I play instruments and speak 3 languages. I follow many fashion channels and I have a good style. I have a good job and savings. Nice car. I'm always working on improving my life. Whatever the average dude out there is doing, I'm doing twice as hard.

    Of course, I'm going to pursue and be interested in women who are at least on my level when it comes looks. I'm at least a 6/10 in looks, therefore, I refuse to pursue any woman who is not at least average and not fat.

    I've never been rejected per se, this is because I only approach and pursue women who are at least somewhat cute, not even really attractive and not out of my reach, the problem is that all of them are always taken and I have confirmed they were taken through social media and through other people.

    I could have a girlfriend right now if I lowered my standards, but I refuse to do that. Women never do that. Women are bombarded by options and they always hold out for that perfect guy that matches everything they're looking.

    It doesn't mean they dude has to be classically handsome, but every woman has a type of man they prefer wqhen it comes looks, this could be a man that other women may not like or that you and I don't consider attractive.

    That's just one variable. There is simply too much competition and very few women who are quality, not just in looks, but personality, character, etc.

    As I said, math alone dictates that if you see a woman who is at least cute, not even hot, extremely high chances that she is taken, but even if she is single, she surely has many dudes orbiting, waiting for their chances, if you barely know, why would you have a chance over other dudes who have known her for much longer?

    In the end it all boils down to numbers, i would already have a cute girlfriend, if it wasn't for the fact that most men are massively hitting up on only a certain number of women, the cute and attractive ones, of course, they will be taken.

    If by some magic, somehow, they would become single one day, of course, i would get a girl
     
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  19. Bandido

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    courage? lol You have no idea. Sitting on my computer? I've approached many women and they all have boyfriends.

    They did get lucky, why? Simple, they met that particular woman when she was single for a very short time, THEY DID GET LUCKY, and they happened to fit into whatever she was looking for at the time. Anyone can be courageous and have a positive attitude, that's not gonna change your looks, personality, character, charisma, money, things that are pretty much 99% set on stone.

    You can be as positive and courageous as you want, but if you don't fit into whatever she is looking for, it won't mean or change anything.

    Average and above average women, are rarely single for long. They got lucky on the fact that they met those particular women in that particular time and somehow, they happened to be everything she was looking for. They happened to be at the right time and place, and have everything she wanted.

    Otherwise, why did the other men who were also pursuing her during that small time frame when she was single, didn't get to be her boyfriend? How come they didn't make it, but some other dude did?

    Courage? lmao a woman who is single, will always have dude orbiting around her , hitting her up, wanting to be with her, if she chose one particular dude out of the bunch, is because he got lucky. He just happened to fit into what she wanted and the other dudes didn't, plain and simple.
     
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  20. Lol! Great joke man! :emoji_joy::emoji_joy::emoji_joy: Unfortunately, most people on this thread think you're being serious. And if you happened to be serious you have real problems and need to see a therapist ASAP.
     
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