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It's like whack a mole...no pun intended

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Fresh81, Sep 11, 2020.

  1. Fresh81

    Fresh81 New Fapstronaut

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    Let me start by saying my life is amazing today. I am a recovering alcoholic and addict and due to my higher power and the tools of recovery I have created a great life for myself. I am blessed to be full time employed as a recovery coach in the field of addiction. I get to share my experience, strength and hope with others that are struggling. I have amazing relationships with family and friends that I never thought I would save. And found an amazing, healthy woman to share my journey with (she might be a little nuts...she is with me after all).
    Aaaaannd, now to the problem. When I got into recovery I always said I was so lucky not to be cross addicted to anything else. Well I was dead wrong. This POM shit got me bad right now. It is a game of whack a mole, one addiction subsides and another pops up. And I am setting up bear traps left and right to sabotage my relationship and job. Uncontrollable over the last 4 months and getting worse. My girlfriend knows and is supportive. But that is only gonna last so long. I struggle with all of it. Intimacy, inability to finish, some intermittent E.D., choosing porn over the real thing. All the signs of the addiction taking over. And I've seen this too often before and worry that it might bring me all the way back. And that's why I am here. I'm sick of the shame, the guilt, the sneaking around. I feel like I am using again, and that is a severe flag. I probably could be doing more for my recovery in general. We can get complacent over time, and I am in one of those stages. So I am here to tell on myself, because that was the first step towards the miracle happening a few years back. Thanks for reading and feedback is appreciated.
     
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  2. RazRelief

    RazRelief Fapstronaut

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    Hey Buddy!

    Let me start by saying that I think it's extremely brave of you to come out here and share your story with us. I too have experienced the whack-a-mole syndrome of moving from one addiction/addictive behavior to the next. For me it went from overeating/food consumption to the PMO stuff. I find that even just acknowledging that I can be so frantic and wavering has helped me feel a bit better when it comes to the shame. As for moving forward, I think that you taking that first step is probably a big step, and I'm here cheering you on as you move forward. Best of luck to you, and I hope that you continue to share your journey with us!

    Cheers
     
  3. SoaringEagle

    SoaringEagle Fapstronaut

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    You have free yourself once and you will do it again!
    The reason you were addicted in the first time was probably because you had a hard life/childhood or emotionally neglected. But I think you already have the necessary tools and not only will you beat this addiction but you also learn more about yourself and the reasons that cause your addictions in the first place.

    Good luck on your journey and I welcome the better and stronger version of yourself which have chosen to be free of all addictions.
     
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