GoldenCardinal
Fapstronaut
Hi all,
I don't know if I am posting this correctly or in the right forum, as I've never posted on this site before, but today I am looking for some advice. I'm reaching out to ask what people do to deal with being alone. For context, I left my home city to go to University, and I am currently in my junior year. For the last couple years I made quite an effort to find friendships and just overall meaningful connections.
Unfortunately, I have had no luck. My major is not very social, and my lecture halls become essentially empty by the 2nd or 3rd week of classes. I outgrew partying and clubbing very, very early. I have attended events or made an attempt at joining groups with interests similar to mine, as well as dedicated a lot of my waking-hours in public places like libraries, the University gym, or taking strolls around town.
I've just found that the people I've come across throughout my University experience are disingenuous/"fake", self-centred, or involve themselves with you for their own gain. I'm not sure about you, but I don't want to involve myself with people as such.
So now most days I find myself a lot more down than usual. Everyone I come across has someone they can talk to, spend time with, or at least have someone to fulfill the basic human need of a social connection.
If I'm not studying or working on a school assignment, I am usually in the gym doing cardio or lifting weights. I am slowly, but surely writing my first novel, and I also enjoy reading self-help books and some philosophical works like the Stoics.
Given I've been doing this for a long time, I feel it's positive-dopamine affects are beginning to wear off, which has caused me numerous times to go back into bad habits and relapse. I will say, however that my addiction with "PMO" is no where near as strong as it used to be. It only becomes overwhelming in times of long periods of loneliness, which have unfortunately been frequent.
So I suppose my overall my question to those reading this, do you have a similar experience like this, and what happened? Or perhaps if you did find yourself very alone with nobody around, and how did you cope with it? I would love to hear your stories.
If you choose to read this, thank you, and all the best to you.
I don't know if I am posting this correctly or in the right forum, as I've never posted on this site before, but today I am looking for some advice. I'm reaching out to ask what people do to deal with being alone. For context, I left my home city to go to University, and I am currently in my junior year. For the last couple years I made quite an effort to find friendships and just overall meaningful connections.
Unfortunately, I have had no luck. My major is not very social, and my lecture halls become essentially empty by the 2nd or 3rd week of classes. I outgrew partying and clubbing very, very early. I have attended events or made an attempt at joining groups with interests similar to mine, as well as dedicated a lot of my waking-hours in public places like libraries, the University gym, or taking strolls around town.
I've just found that the people I've come across throughout my University experience are disingenuous/"fake", self-centred, or involve themselves with you for their own gain. I'm not sure about you, but I don't want to involve myself with people as such.
So now most days I find myself a lot more down than usual. Everyone I come across has someone they can talk to, spend time with, or at least have someone to fulfill the basic human need of a social connection.
If I'm not studying or working on a school assignment, I am usually in the gym doing cardio or lifting weights. I am slowly, but surely writing my first novel, and I also enjoy reading self-help books and some philosophical works like the Stoics.
Given I've been doing this for a long time, I feel it's positive-dopamine affects are beginning to wear off, which has caused me numerous times to go back into bad habits and relapse. I will say, however that my addiction with "PMO" is no where near as strong as it used to be. It only becomes overwhelming in times of long periods of loneliness, which have unfortunately been frequent.
So I suppose my overall my question to those reading this, do you have a similar experience like this, and what happened? Or perhaps if you did find yourself very alone with nobody around, and how did you cope with it? I would love to hear your stories.
If you choose to read this, thank you, and all the best to you.
