I've gay thoughts right now and I need your help

Well, if you post here, I'll see the post and be able to respond.

If you want someone to "push" you, ask for an accountability partner (I'm not available for that, sorry).

You've only done 6 days. You will find, over the next month at least but probably over the next three months, that you will go up and down. Some days, you'll think, "This is easy!" Others, you'll be like, "OMG, why did I start this? I have to PMO right now and don't try to stop me!" Some days, you'll think, "What's happening to me? I'd better PMO just to check that my tackle still works!"

Don't worry about those sabotaging thoughts. We all have them during the reboot. Have faith, and keep going with your reboot. Know that you can do it. When you hit the danger zone, do something — anything — that will take you away from the temptation. Get of the house if you can — you're not going to play in public! Go for a walk. Get out of your bedroom and read a book, do a puzzle, talk to a friend, browse this forum, whatever. Motion is your friend

Therapy will definitely help you. Don't be shy to seek professional help.

 

@Casey i i didn't get what u said, but what im trying to say is that i i stopped doing pmo and started the journey few days ago. There's no conclusion yet.

 

Remember that this applies only to straight masculine men and feminine women, not to people who are bisexual, gay or other.

Yes, that's exactly what will happen! Your obsession with gay porn is because porn has led you into a fetish. In other words, for you, gay porn isn't a sign of you being gay, but instead is a fetish.

The time of 90 days is used because most people get the most results in that time. But, it might take longer. My first reboot was 113 days, and it got rid of acting out my fetish, and mostly got rid of my fetish thoughts. I've decided that I need to do another 90 days to finish off what I started, because the fetish thoughts, even though they are much less than they used to be, don't help.

Remember to be patient, and to accept the confusions, the flatlines, and the ups and downs, as part of the healing process — it's expected and normal to have them.

 

Just focus on one day. Then tomorrow have the same focus again. When six months pass... guess what. At the very least you will have more days of success than not. Failing is not that terrible. Learn from it.

 

yes it's hard but worth it, I have done it before and after 6 months I did regularly masturbate but was not in the least interested in watching porn for a long time. Unfortunately due to heah issues and solitude my addiction returned, hoping to beat it again, but yeah it's hard.

 

Remember that these fetishes will fade with time provided that you stop using porn.

It's not hard to stop using porn — just don't open those websites, and delete your porn stash.

If you feel that you really can't do a hard reboot right now, at least stop with porn. You can masturbate without porn, but do it "vanilla" — no edging games, no death grip, no catering to any fetish. It will at least get you started on the right path. If you find, at the beginning, that you can't make it work, that's motivation — not for using porn, but for you to start a hard reboot!

The time for a fetish to completely disappear seems to take anywhere between 7 months and two years, but after a three-month hard reboot, it will already have faded significantly.

Good luck!

 

thanks.

 

I’m straight, but attracted to transsexual or gay porn (or gay attracted to straight porn). What’s up?

Overview

Porn FAQs

Is my fetish porn-induced?

Does porn addiction cause irreversible damage to the brain?

Why is the idea of sexual variety so enticing?

 

there's more to a relation than sex. are u romantically attracted to guys or girls.. i'm romantically attracted to women. i want to flirt with them. make them laugh at my jokes. though even i struggle with gay thoughts.

 

Maybe just move somewhere in nature and fast for a few days. Starve yourself, and this way it is harder to have sexual thoughts. Of course while doing this you have to be on no pmo. Eat something and then repeat again. After sexual and physical starvation you will be horny on simple things like touch of a woman's hand, that wonderful feeling you once had will come back and you will fell like a teenager. Hope this helped

 

I agree with you, because if a man develop a fetish on incest porn, wouldn't that be something to worry about.

 

I have this same feeling. I can watch gay porn and can get off quicker than I can with straight porn. It's not a fantasy to be with a man but the thoughts of it excites me and thats why I watch it.