I've got a few questions...

[Ihro]

Hi, I want to ask you a few questions about NoFap.
I am on 28. day of hardmode and I am starting to wonder whether total abstinence has any negative influence on the organism?

1) Every living beeing has sexual needs, which should be satisfied. When we trying to fight with them, are we making any harm to ourselves? I don't have a girlfriend so I don't have an opportunity to release my tension doing sex. I worry that when I fight with my urges now I'll not be able to feel a desire to women in the future or that I'll have some problems "downstairs".

2) I've read that I can masturbate during NoFap, but I don't understand it. Our brains are addicted to dopamine, which is realised when we masturbate, no matter if we watch porn during it or not. When we only watching porn, we don't give our brain a dopamine, so why is the porn more dangerous than the masturbation?

3) After my reboot, when I feel that I've got control over my urges will I be able to watch porn sometimes? A healthy, normal men masturbate to porn sometimes and it is not harmful to them because they can control their desires.

Thank you in advance for any help

 

[SickSicko]

1) Every living beeing has sexual needs, which should be satisfied. When we trying to fight with them, are we making any harm to ourselves? I don't have a girlfriend so I don't have an opportunity to release my tension doing sex. I worry that when I fight with my urges now I'll not be able to feel a desire to women in the future or that I'll have some problems "downstairs"

Quite common worry, that drove me into relapse a few times only to be astonished by the incredible erection like, I don't remember having an erection like that since I was 16, nah mate, that's your brain playing games on you.

2) I've read that I can masturbate during NoFap, but I don't understand it. Our brains are addicted to dopamine, which is realised when we masturbate, no matter if we watch porn during it or not. When we only watching porn, we don't give our brain a dopamine, so why is the porn more dangerous than the masturbation?

Where have you read that? that's pretty much nonsense.
Is a bigger stimulae and the dopamine release and rush is much much bigger watching porn than imagining stuff.
Also watching porn, on it's own, releases dopamine even without you ever touching your willie.

3) After my reboot, when I feel that I've got control over my urges will I be able to watch porn sometimes? A healthy, normal men masturbate to porn sometimes and it is not harmful to them because they can control their desires.

Tricky question, not sure, maybe yes, maybe no.
Is like asking can I will ever drink a beer again? being an alcoholic....
Is tricky, will you fall down back into compulsive behaviour?
Or will you really be able to control and make it be "sometimes?" if so, how often is ok?
Tricky question

I would go with "twice a year is not a big deal" but more than that is probably asking for a downward spiral to happen...

 

[Ihro]

Quite common worry, that drove me into relapse a few times only to be astonished by the incredible erection like, I don't remember having an erection like that since I was 16, nah mate, that's your brain playing games on you.


Where have you read that? that's pretty much nonsense.
Is a bigger stimulae and the dopamine release and rush is much much bigger watching porn than imagining stuff.
Also watching porn, on it's own, releases dopamine even without you ever touching your willie.


Tricky question, not sure, maybe yes, maybe no.
Is like asking can I will ever drink a beer again? being an alcoholic....
Is tricky, will you fall down back into compulsive behaviour?
Or will you really be able to control and make it be "sometimes?" if so, how often is ok?
Tricky question

I would go with "twice a year is not a big deal" but more than that is probably asking for a downward spiral to happen...

Thank you friend! I feel much better. Now I'm ending my 29. day. The last 3 ones were unbearably, because I was dealing with very strong flashbacks from porn video that I used to watch and I was really close to relapse. Fortunetly, I was able to control myself and even that I still thinking about them, these memories are getting weaker and weaker. Well, wish me luck!