Often times, I think grief is associated with negative energy. It can accumulate and begin to drag you down as they continue to go about your week not dealing with this problem head on. Our unconscious is half of our existence yet we completely ignore it by choice, and by that not of our own. Realizing that our thoughts can have a affect on our life is real is something that helped me. I struggle each day, but by having faith in God I have been able to have my cup filled to the brim. But each time I sin, I spill till there is nothing left, then I feel the affects of my self induced dehydration. Everything falls from there, but If I repent, then my mind is cleaned and I feel better. You might not believe in a Creator, but at least it works for me. If you feel as if you can't quit porn on your own, give it to a higher power. Faith is something that comes when you work on it more, each and every day. Like a tree. You must water it, or it will dry up.