Jagliana's Journal | An S.O's perspective

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  1. Jagliana

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    Thank you, I appreciate hearing that, I hope you are doing well!
     
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    I'm doing well. Even with the pandemic, I'm strong and happy. Husband is still going strong, no relapses or lies. He's working strong and I am very grateful for that, makes me respect him lots. Still separated, takes so long to build the trust, even with him being honest. We might make it!
     
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  3. Jagliana

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    It is great that you are strong and happy, that's all one could ask for, especially in the middle of a crisis! and especially when your significant other is also going strong too - no lies, couldn't ask for anything more. Yes, it does take a longgggggg time to build trust, but it seems you guys are well on your way <3
     
  4. Jagliana

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    DAY 820: 04/26/2020

    DAILY OBJECTIVES MET:
    • My husband has been honest with me.
    • Daily talk with my husband.
    • Worked on Self-Care as defined here.
    • Currently Reading: "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel Van der Kolk
    • Current Daily Podcast: "7 Good Minutes"
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    Dailies | Self-Care Completed:
    Self-care is not an indulgence. Self-care is a discipline.
    Morning routine / Verbalized my feelings
    Journal / Daily talk with hubby / Regulated my sleep.

    Tony Robbins List of Basic Human Needs | Text explanation here / Sound.
    1. Certainty 2. Uncertainty/Variety 3. Significance 4. Connection/Love 5. Growth and 6. Contribution.


    3 Things I am Grateful for Today:
    1) Self-care.
    2) Healing.
    3) Humor.

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    Last night, he gave me another trifecta, it really helped at the end of a really long, a really painful (for my back) day. We did have a little spat about his health, but then we ended the night on a good note, we really enjoyed the show we finished watching "Luna O Nera", then we headed to bed.

    Today on the 7 Good Minutes podcast I listened to “5 Things You Do Daily That Are Damaging Your Brain", in this episode, Tim from Success Insider talks about 5 things you do daily that could be damaging your brain; 1) sleeping with your head covered, 2) lack of sleep, 3) dehydration, 4) stress, and 5) lack of mental stimulation and physical exercise. Remember, the mind is the source of all suffering, and it is also the source of all happiness.

    This morning, we finished listening to "What The CORONAVIRUS Means For Your LOVE LIFE & Relationships" an interview with Matthew Hussey, on The School of Greatness with Lewis Howes. Matthew Hussey is an internationally recognized speaker, entrepreneur, human dynamics specialist, and dating expert. Then I finished all of my work, FINALLY, knocking on wood that they don't send me anymore lol because I do not know how much more my back can take.

    Today is a rainy day, we couldn't go for our walk. I'm not feeling 100% anyway, plus I have worksheets to create for the upcoming 'school' week.

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    For any PA's interested in having someone to talk to, check in with and a safe place to talk about all things recovery... my husband @Wade W. Wilson, who has been in real recovery for over two years now, has created a dedicated Facebook group [click here] and Discord channel for PA's, all are welcome to join and he is looking forward to getting to know and helping each of you. You can join the channel by clicking this link: https://discord.gg/gXPuU9q
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    For SO's interested in having someone to talk to, check in with and a safe place to talk about all things healing and betrayal trauma... here is my Discord channel: https://discord.gg/XwhaBTg [this channel is for SO's ONLY, anyone there for malicious reasons will be removed].
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    What I liked about myself, today:
    (I am trying to find one positive thing to "like" about myself and make a mental note of it, every day. No matter how small or insignificant)
    :emoji_two_hearts: Lazy day, don't feel bad about it.:emoji_ok_hand:

    #Video
    5 Bad Habits That Damage Your Brain


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    Recovery Setback Dates | Inconsistencies or Lies
    5/25/18 | 6/08/18 | 8/18/18 | 9/19/18 | 1/09/19
    1/19/19 | 1/21/19 | 1/24/19 | 1/27/19 | 2/08/19
    4/27/19 | 6/13/19 | 7/06/19 | 8/05/19 | 2/08/20

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  5. Jagliana

    Jagliana Fapstronaut

    DAY 821: 04/27/2020

    DAILY OBJECTIVES MET:
    • My husband has been honest with me.
    • Daily talk with my husband.
    • Worked on Self-Care as defined here.
    • Currently Reading: "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel Van der Kolk
    • Current Daily Podcast: "7 Good Minutes"
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    Dailies | Self-Care Completed:
    Self-care is not an indulgence. Self-care is a discipline.
    Morning routine / Verbalized my feelings
    Journal / Daily talk with hubby / Regulated my sleep.

    Tony Robbins List of Basic Human Needs | Text explanation here / Sound.
    1. Certainty 2. Uncertainty/Variety 3. Significance 4. Connection/Love 5. Growth and 6. Contribution.


    3 Things I am Grateful for Today:
    1) Self-care.
    2) Healing.
    3) Morning Car Ride.

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    Last night, an order I made on Amazon, some time ago came, I had ordered it for our Wedding Anniversary and forgot about it lol. It is a stary sky projector that spans throughout your entire ceiling (or wherever you aim it) and it moves too, it was so beautiful, both of us were floored and mesmerized... now, I ordered it in the first place because I knew we would be stuck inside, so I wanted whatever we did to be special, memorable (esp after last year) and when I saw this, it just wow'd me and I wanted it for that night. Then a few days ago, Wade really soured my mood for any kind of 'celebration', so I guess it's just a good item to have in general. He wanted to take it for a test drive, so we did, he turned it on and we had a slow dance under the stars, the trifecta too which was so soothing. We spoke for a little on and off throughout and then he kept saying he still wants to do something special, even if I don't toast or acknowledge the day, he wants to. I don't know what to do, I want to celebrate and after sitting under those stars (my initial plan), the tryout felt so magical, but I'm torn because every time I think about the 29th, I keep remembering his reaction to the gift I got him and ended up just giving to our little one and it just upsets me.

    Today on the 7 Good Minutes podcast I listened to “Become More Successful: Focus On One Thing At A Time", in this episode, we have an inspiring message explaining why it's important for you to focus on one thing at a time. Remember, focus on the things you can change... let go of the things you can't.

    This morning, during our car ride we began listening to "If You Feel Lonely & Want To Find “The One” Perfect Partner" an interview with Justin McLeod, on, On Purpose with Jay Shetty. Justin McLeod is the creator of the dating app "Hinge", during this interview he shares his intent to take online dating past swipe right or swipe left to a deeper and more authentic level. We only got a few minutes in, but even in those few minutes we paused and spoke a bit about dating, the idea of dating again and Wade explained that he doesn't even want to think about it because the only person he wants to date is me (and why), that was cute, made me smile on the inside lol. One thing that is clear for us both, it is all about communication, being honest and connected. There is no “perfect partner”; you’ll always have to learn to accept both the good, as well as the bad parts - which you can only truly get to know if you get vulnerable with each other.

    Now, back to... adventures in homeschooling!

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    For any PA's interested in having someone to talk to, check in with and a safe place to talk about all things recovery... my husband @Wade W. Wilson, who has been in real recovery for over two years now, has created a dedicated Facebook group [click here] and Discord channel for PA's, all are welcome to join and he is looking forward to getting to know and helping each of you. You can join the channel by clicking this link: https://discord.gg/gXPuU9q
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    For SO's interested in having someone to talk to, check in with and a safe place to talk about all things healing and betrayal trauma... here is my Discord channel: https://discord.gg/XwhaBTg [this channel is for SO's ONLY, anyone there for malicious reasons will be removed].
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    What I liked about myself, today:
    (I am trying to find one positive thing to "like" about myself and make a mental note of it, every day. No matter how small or insignificant)
    :emoji_two_hearts: Wade's words in the car made me smile, on the inside, it was sweet.:emoji_ok_hand:

    #Video
    THE BEST ADVICE ABOUT LIFE YOU'VE EVER HEARD


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    Recovery Setback Dates | Inconsistencies or Lies
    5/25/18 | 6/08/18 | 8/18/18 | 9/19/18 | 1/09/19
    1/19/19 | 1/21/19 | 1/24/19 | 1/27/19 | 2/08/19
    4/27/19 | 6/13/19 | 7/06/19 | 8/05/19 | 2/08/20

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  6. Jagliana

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    DAY 822: 04/28/2020

    DAILY OBJECTIVES MET:
    • My husband has been honest with me.
    • Daily talk with my husband.
    • Worked on Self-Care as defined here.
    • Currently Reading: "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel Van der Kolk
    • Current Daily Podcast: "7 Good Minutes"
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    Dailies | Self-Care Completed:
    Self-care is not an indulgence. Self-care is a discipline.
    Morning routine / Verbalized my feelings
    Journal / Daily talk with hubby / Regulated my sleep.

    Tony Robbins List of Basic Human Needs | Text explanation here / Sound.
    1. Certainty 2. Uncertainty/Variety 3. Significance 4. Connection/Love 5. Growth and 6. Contribution.


    3 Things I am Grateful for Today:
    1) Self-care.
    2) Healing.
    3) Antibody Test.

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    Last night, after a long day of cleaning and homeschooling, Wade was exhausted - I was in pain for various reasons, so we laid in bed to decompress, we spoke, vented about politics and people... shortly after we watched some TV and he gave me a nice foot and hand rub, then it was time for bed.

    Today on the 7 Good Minutes podcast I listened to “How To Keep The Spark Alive In Your Relationship", in this episode, Lee Perez gives us ten quick and easy tips on how to keep the spark alive in your relationship. Remember, all relationships go through hell. Real relationships get through it.

    This morning, we found out urgent care was doing antibody tests! and I've been wanting to get one, especially because my husband is a first responder and that risk is consistently at my feet. There was a line and of course, because I have the "best luck", there was a trigger standing right in our line of sight. Wade, of course, noticed her and I can only imagine what he thought of her, she was his usual prime type... anyhow, given the situation and when I saw how many people were ahead of us, I was a bit distracted and able to talk myself down. It got a lot easier when we decided to go wait in the car since it was going to be at least an hour before we get seen. While we sat in the car, we continued listening to "If You Feel Lonely & Want To Find “The One” Perfect Partner" an interview with Justin McLeod, on, On Purpose with Jay Shetty. Justin McLeod is the creator of the dating app "Hinge" - where his motto is, the one dating app you'll want to delete after using it aka because you'll meet "the one" and have no use for it anymore. It is an okay interview, the more it went on the more we realized it was more of a fluff piece than an in-depth look at love, like say a Mahettew Hussey one usually is.

    Going through this whole pandemic together has been an interesting experience for both of us... although we weren't able to be physically close for a long time, we still did not get or feel disconnected, something both of us have been pleasantly surprised by. Now, we are both going through the uncertainty and after-effects of him having Covid, beating it, and testing for antibodies this morning together... now waiting anxiously for the results. I will say one thing though, I am so proud of him for donating plasma, hopefully saving someone's life.

    Time for a lazy day BBQ and some more homeschooling! ...

    As tomorrow marks our 14th Wedding Anniversary, having said that, him being in recovery has changed the dynamic of our relationship in so many ways, so perhaps it is really our two year wedding anniversary, because I told him we were over in 2018, and the only reason we still have a wedding anniversary tomorrow is because of all the work and effort he has chosen to put into himself/recovery, and the effort we have put into building our *new* relationship.

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    For any PA's interested in having someone to talk to, check in with and a safe place to talk about all things recovery... my husband @Wade W. Wilson, who has been in real recovery for over two years now, has created a dedicated Facebook group [click here] and Discord channel for PA's, all are welcome to join and he is looking forward to getting to know and helping each of you. You can join the channel by clicking this link: https://discord.gg/gXPuU9q
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    For SO's interested in having someone to talk to, check in with and a safe place to talk about all things healing and betrayal trauma... here is my Discord channel: https://discord.gg/XwhaBTg [this channel is for SO's ONLY, anyone there for malicious reasons will be removed].
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    What I liked about myself, today:
    (I am trying to find one positive thing to "like" about myself and make a mental note of it, every day. No matter how small or insignificant)
    :emoji_two_hearts: I did get triggered, but I worked myself through it.:emoji_ok_hand:

    #Video
    How To SPICE UP & Keep The Spark Alive In Your Relationship


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    Recovery Setback Dates | Inconsistencies or Lies
    5/25/18 | 6/08/18 | 8/18/18 | 9/19/18 | 1/09/19
    1/19/19 | 1/21/19 | 1/24/19 | 1/27/19 | 2/08/19
    4/27/19 | 6/13/19 | 7/06/19 | 8/05/19 | 2/08/20

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  7. Jagliana

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    DAY 823: 04/29/2020

    DAILY OBJECTIVES MET:
    • My husband has been honest with me.
    • Daily talk with my husband.
    • Worked on Self-Care as defined here.
    • Currently Reading: "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel Van der Kolk
    • Current Daily Podcast: "7 Good Minutes"
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    Dailies | Self-Care Completed:
    Self-care is not an indulgence. Self-care is a discipline.
    Morning routine / Verbalized my feelings
    Journal / Daily talk with hubby / Regulated my sleep.

    Tony Robbins List of Basic Human Needs | Text explanation here / Sound.
    1. Certainty 2. Uncertainty/Variety 3. Significance 4. Connection/Love 5. Growth and 6. Contribution.


    3 Things I am Grateful for Today:
    1) Self-care.
    2) Healing.
    3) Wade.

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    Last night, he gave me another trifecta, which I truly do appreciate and we spoke throughout. He still wants to mark the occasion and I am still at a crossroads because I want to go through with what I had set out to do, but I have the issue of his reaction to the gift that is still bothering me, even though he explained why, it doesn't erase the hurt of his outburst during the incident. Then we went and watched some TV, before heading to bed.

    Today on the 7 Good Minutes podcast I listened to “Things That Should NOT Be Part Of Your Morning Routine", in this episode, we hear nine things that should not be included in a good morning routine; 1) Don't enjoy a cup of steaming hot coffee early in the morning, 2) Don't set multiple arms or constantly hit the Snooze button, 3) Don't check social media first thing in the morning, 4) Don't skip breakfast or opt for a meal that doesn't contain protein, 5) Don't start your day by checking your email, 6) Don't turn on the TV right after you wake up, 7) Don't keep your curtains or blinds closed, 8) Don't twist and bend your body as soon as you wake up and 9) Don't make your bed right after you leave it. Remember, the secret of your future is hidden in your daily routine.

    This morning, I woke up in a better mood, we did our usual morning hustle and bustle, when I came back to my seat, there was a handwritten letter from Wade, it was touching and beautiful. I had posted a collage and note I made for him on social media... both of us expressing ourselves in our own elements lol. Our little one was super excited, she gave us so many gifts, of course, most of them her own toys and crafts she made, it was adorable, she is so thoughtful and kind. She wants us to "have a party", so we decided we will order something and eat with the family. Wade still wants to have a movie night under the stars tonight, I am trying to work through my own issues, so I can enjoy the day as I had planned, but I don't get over being hurt so easily, so it is though and I don't know for sure what mood I will be in tonight. I guess we shall see? maybe the festivities throughout the day with set my mood in a better direction for tonight.

    In any event, I do have an anniversary message for @Wade W. Wilson ... 14 years ago today, we walked down the aisle as two naive kids... now, look at all we've been through and grown through... all of the highs, lows, and everything in between. Even with all of our trials and tribulations, I am grateful for what we've gained... two beautiful & bright girls, the love, connection, and intimacy we now share, all of our lifestyle changes; personal, recovery, healing, and relationship, and our shared experiences that we are now seeing with new eyes, but I am especially grateful for you. For both of us, home isn't a place. It is a person. And we are finally home. Happy 14th Ivory Anniversary.

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    For any PA's interested in having someone to talk to, check in with and a safe place to talk about all things recovery... my husband @Wade W. Wilson, who has been in real recovery for over two years now, has created a dedicated Facebook group [click here] and Discord channel for PA's, all are welcome to join and he is looking forward to getting to know and helping each of you. You can join the channel by clicking this link: https://discord.gg/gXPuU9q
    _______________
    For SO's interested in having someone to talk to, check in with and a safe place to talk about all things healing and betrayal trauma... here is my Discord channel: https://discord.gg/XwhaBTg [this channel is for SO's ONLY, anyone there for malicious reasons will be removed].
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    What I liked about myself, today:
    (I am trying to find one positive thing to "like" about myself and make a mental note of it, every day. No matter how small or insignificant)
    :emoji_two_hearts: In a better mood today, than I expected to be in.:emoji_ok_hand:

    #Video
    You Do This Wrong Every Morning, But You Could Live Better


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    Recovery Setback Dates | Inconsistencies or Lies
    5/25/18 | 6/08/18 | 8/18/18 | 9/19/18 | 1/09/19
    1/19/19 | 1/21/19 | 1/24/19 | 1/27/19 | 2/08/19
    4/27/19 | 6/13/19 | 7/06/19 | 8/05/19 | 2/08/20

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  9. Jagliana

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    Thank you <3
     
  10. Jagliana

    Jagliana Fapstronaut

    DAY 824: 04/30/2020

    DAILY OBJECTIVES MET:
    • My husband has been honest with me.
    • Daily talk with my husband.
    • Worked on Self-Care as defined here.
    • Currently Reading: "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel Van der Kolk
    • Current Daily Podcast: "7 Good Minutes"
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    Dailies | Self-Care Completed:
    Self-care is not an indulgence. Self-care is a discipline.
    Morning routine / Verbalized my feelings
    Journal / Daily talk with hubby / Regulated my sleep.

    Tony Robbins List of Basic Human Needs | Text explanation here / Sound.
    1. Certainty 2. Uncertainty/Variety 3. Significance 4. Connection/Love 5. Growth and 6. Contribution.


    3 Things I am Grateful for Today:
    1) Self-care.
    2) Healing.
    3) Morning Time.

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    Last night, we had a lovely time... he gave me a full trifecta, all at one time, but before we did that, we danced under the stars to "Everything I Do, I Do it for You" by Bryan Adams. It was calm, peaceful, romantic, and barely cost a pretty penny. During the massage, we had a good and long discussion about various things, but mostly on what is "attraction" to us and how I see other men/people in a mechanical way, while he says he is finding himself becoming more rational in that department too - becoming more like me. He also explains again, how he sees me these days, and even if he notices someone that would trigger me, it does not matter to him anymore, because only I am on his mind... I still don't know about all that, I hope so though. Then, we went and had some wine, also under the stars, as we began to watch "Groundhog Day", then we went to bed in each others arms and it was just cozy, I really felt loved.

    Today on the 7 Good Minutes podcast I listened to “How To Deal With Disappointment In A Relationship", in this episode, Freddy Fri shares an encouraging message on how to deal with disappointment in a relationship. Remember, it's not what happens to you that breaks you, it's the not being prepared for it that breaks you.

    This morning, there was a downpour, so we went to BJ's to walk lol, yep we want to walk that bad. On the ride there, we began listening to "Functional Medicine Practitioner Reveals The Sobering Truth About the Coronavirus" an interview with Chris Kresser, on Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu. Chris Kresser is a health coach, author, and one of the most influential people in nutrition and fitness. He has also studied and practiced functional medicine for years. During this interview, he details the consequences of lifestyle and diet-related disease, a topic that is garnering significant attention because of the connection between pre-existing conditions and COVID-19 mortality. He delves into the mystery of why diabetes is an even more severe problem than lung disease for COVID-19 sufferers, details the kinds of lifestyle changes we should all be making, and explains why his approach to health and medicine is ultimately always individualized. So far, during this discussion, we heard him distinguish between food quality and food quantity, why are people so dogmatic about dietary beliefs that seem obviously false, the connection between pre-existing conditions and COVID-19 mortality, why Diabetes is an even more severe risk factor than lung disease for COVID-19, he talks about B12 and why it matters so much and he explains why we should be very concerned about blood sugar levels.

    Then it was back to adventures in homeschooling and spring cleaning... we have an educated, acrobatic mouse to catch...

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    For any PA's interested in having someone to talk to, check in with and a safe place to talk about all things recovery... my husband @Wade W. Wilson, who has been in real recovery for over two years now, has created a dedicated Facebook group [click here] and Discord channel for PA's, all are welcome to join and he is looking forward to getting to know and helping each of you. You can join the channel by clicking this link: https://discord.gg/gXPuU9q
    _______________
    For SO's interested in having someone to talk to, check in with and a safe place to talk about all things healing and betrayal trauma... here is my Discord channel: https://discord.gg/XwhaBTg [this channel is for SO's ONLY, anyone there for malicious reasons will be removed].
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    What I liked about myself, today:
    (I am trying to find one positive thing to "like" about myself and make a mental note of it, every day. No matter how small or insignificant)
    :emoji_two_hearts: No triggers today.:emoji_ok_hand:

    #Video
    Who Pays on a First Date? - Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy


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    Recovery Setback Dates | Inconsistencies or Lies
    5/25/18 | 6/08/18 | 8/18/18 | 9/19/18 | 1/09/19
    1/19/19 | 1/21/19 | 1/24/19 | 1/27/19 | 2/08/19
    4/27/19 | 6/13/19 | 7/06/19 | 8/05/19 | 2/08/20

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  11. Jagliana

    Jagliana Fapstronaut

    DAY 825: 05/01/2020

    DAILY OBJECTIVES MET:
    • My husband has been honest with me.
    • Daily talk with my husband.
    • Worked on Self-Care as defined here.
    • Currently Reading: "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel Van der Kolk
    • Current Daily Podcast: "7 Good Minutes"
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    Dailies | Self-Care Completed:
    Self-care is not an indulgence. Self-care is a discipline.
    Morning routine / Verbalized my feelings
    Journal / Daily talk with hubby / Regulated my sleep.

    Tony Robbins List of Basic Human Needs | Text explanation here / Sound.
    1. Certainty 2. Uncertainty/Variety 3. Significance 4. Connection/Love 5. Growth and 6. Contribution.


    3 Things I am Grateful for Today:
    1) Self-care.
    2) Healing.
    3) Morning Drive.

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    Last night, after Wade had spent the whole day cleaning out the closets, filling in holes and chasing mice... he was exhausted, so he skipped his usual massages and relaxed. We decided to finish watching Groundhog Day and then call it a night.

    Today on the 7 Good Minutes podcast I listened to “How To Overcome Distractions And Get More Done", in this episode, Wendi Blum shares some great tips on how to overcome distractions so you can get more done throughout your day. Remember, you can't do big things if you're distracted by the small thing.

    This morning, we continued listening to "Functional Medicine Practitioner Reveals The Sobering Truth About the Coronavirus" an interview with Chris Kresser, on Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu. Chris Kresser is a health coach, author, and one of the most influential people in nutrition and fitness. This time we heard him discuss the many different forms of fasting, and why they all may be useful, then he theorized about why the carnivore diet works for some people but not others, how much do genes affect the results of various kinds of diets, he talks about which factors are more important than genetics, he advocates starting with testing, particularly extensive blood testing.

    Today is Wade's last day of vacation, then it's off to work again and then the floodgates of uncertainty will open back up again. I really wish he could stay home with us... me, foreeeevvvverrrrr but I know that is not realistic.

    Now, back to our adventures in homeschooling...

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    For any PA's interested in having someone to talk to, check in with and a safe place to talk about all things recovery... my husband @Wade W. Wilson, who has been in real recovery for over two years now, has created a dedicated Facebook group [click here] and Discord channel for PA's, all are welcome to join and he is looking forward to getting to know and helping each of you. You can join the channel by clicking this link: https://discord.gg/gXPuU9q
    _______________
    For SO's interested in having someone to talk to, check in with and a safe place to talk about all things healing and betrayal trauma... here is my Discord channel: https://discord.gg/XwhaBTg [this channel is for SO's ONLY, anyone there for malicious reasons will be removed].
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    What I liked about myself, today:
    (I am trying to find one positive thing to "like" about myself and make a mental note of it, every day. No matter how small or insignificant)
    :emoji_two_hearts: How my hair is flowing and is super soft.:emoji_ok_hand:

    #Video
    How to OVERCOME Distractions


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    Recovery Setback Dates | Inconsistencies or Lies
    5/25/18 | 6/08/18 | 8/18/18 | 9/19/18 | 1/09/19
    1/19/19 | 1/21/19 | 1/24/19 | 1/27/19 | 2/08/19
    4/27/19 | 6/13/19 | 7/06/19 | 8/05/19 | 2/08/20

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  12. Jagliana

    Jagliana Fapstronaut

    DAY 826: 05/02/2020

    DAILY OBJECTIVES MET:
    • My husband has been honest with me.
    • Daily talk with my husband.
    • Worked on Self-Care as defined here.
    • Currently Reading: "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel Van der Kolk
    • Current Daily Podcast: "7 Good Minutes"
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    Dailies | Self-Care Completed:
    Self-care is not an indulgence. Self-care is a discipline.
    Morning routine / Verbalized my feelings
    Journal / Daily talk with hubby / Regulated my sleep.

    Tony Robbins List of Basic Human Needs | Text explanation here / Sound.
    1. Certainty 2. Uncertainty/Variety 3. Significance 4. Connection/Love 5. Growth and 6. Contribution.


    3 Things I am Grateful for Today:
    1) Self-care.
    2) Healing.
    3) Morning Walk.

    ---------------------------------------------------

    Last night, he was feeling better and I got to experience a wonderful trifecta, yet again and it felt awesome. It was our last night of some kind of certainty because then he goes back to work and the old protocol for this quarantine has to begin. We even made out, something we haven't in like forever and it was great - while it could last.

    Today on the 7 Good Minutes podcast I listened to “Haters Gonna Hate: Here Is How To Deal With Them", in this episode, Evan Carmichael reminds us that haters gonna hate, it's just what they do. Remember, there are over 7 billion people in this world. Not everyone is going to like you.

    This morning, we began listening to "How To Release Your Toxic Beliefs & Getting Back To Your Higher Nature" an interview with Robin Sharma, on, On Purpose with Jay Shetty. Robin is considered to be one of the top 5 leadership experts in the world. He believes the way you begin the day sets up the way the day unfolds and consistently having great mornings cascade into amazing days, build great weeks, quarters, months, and years. A wonderful quote that both Wade and I really liked was "you can change the world or you can be liked by everyone you don't get to do both".

    Tonight Wade goes back to work, it is going to be so weird, we've done it so many times; adjusted and readjusted, but these days, it doesn't get easier. Both of us like when he is home, doing things together and getting into a good routine/teamwork, but work is work, I guess.

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    For any PA's interested in having someone to talk to, check in with and a safe place to talk about all things recovery... my husband @Wade W. Wilson, who has been in real recovery for over two years now, has created a dedicated Facebook group [click here] and Discord channel for PA's, all are welcome to join and he is looking forward to getting to know and helping each of you. You can join the channel by clicking this link: https://discord.gg/gXPuU9q
    _______________
    For SO's interested in having someone to talk to, check in with and a safe place to talk about all things healing and betrayal trauma... here is my Discord channel: https://discord.gg/XwhaBTg [this channel is for SO's ONLY, anyone there for malicious reasons will be removed].
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    What I liked about myself, today:
    (I am trying to find one positive thing to "like" about myself and make a mental note of it, every day. No matter how small or insignificant)
    :emoji_two_hearts: Hair still flowing and it feels super soft.:emoji_ok_hand:

    #Video
    3 Ways to Beat the HATERS


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    Recovery Setback Dates | Inconsistencies or Lies
    5/25/18 | 6/08/18 | 8/18/18 | 9/19/18 | 1/09/19
    1/19/19 | 1/21/19 | 1/24/19 | 1/27/19 | 2/08/19
    4/27/19 | 6/13/19 | 7/06/19 | 8/05/19 | 2/08/20

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  13. Jagliana

    Jagliana Fapstronaut

    DAY 827: 05/03/2020

    DAILY OBJECTIVES MET:
    • My husband has been honest with me.
    • Daily talk with my husband.
    • Worked on Self-Care as defined here.
    • Currently Reading: "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel Van der Kolk
    • Current Daily Podcast: "7 Good Minutes"
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    Dailies | Self-Care Completed:
    Self-care is not an indulgence. Self-care is a discipline.
    Morning routine / Verbalized my feelings
    Journal / Daily talk with hubby / Regulated my sleep.

    Tony Robbins List of Basic Human Needs | Text explanation here / Sound.
    1. Certainty 2. Uncertainty/Variety 3. Significance 4. Connection/Love 5. Growth and 6. Contribution.


    3 Things I am Grateful for Today:
    1) Self-care.
    2) Healing.
    3) Morning Walk.

    ---------------------------------------------------

    Last night, even with the little amount of time that we had, he still found the time to pamper me with a trifecta, while listening to me vent too and I appreciated both. Afterward, we watched "Upload" an awesome Amazon Prime show. Then, he was off to work and I was off to bed, where it was very lonely and cold.

    Today on the 7 Good Minutes podcast I listened to “Taking Risks In Life Is The Pathway To Your Best Life", in this episode, we listen in as Jim Rohn explains why taking risks in life is the pathway to living your best life. Remember, it's not important how long you live. What's important is how you live.

    This morning, we finished listening to "How To Release Your Toxic Beliefs & Getting Back To Your Higher Nature" an interview with Robin Sharma, on, On Purpose with Jay Shetty. Robin Sharma is one of the world's premier speakers on Leadership and Personal Mastery. He continued to be full of wisdom and tries to appeal to the masses that they need to live their best lives and if they are not, it is only because they themselves are in their own way. Then when Jay asks him how he is able to live his best life and continue to grow his mind etc., he began going into a regimen that most people can not do, and I am not saying this to have an "excuse" not to, but most just can not afford that type of lifestyle. For example, massages 2x a day, daily acupuncture sessions, etc. Anyhow, it was a good interview, with good quotes/insights, but not one of my top favorites. I also asked him about how his first night back at work was, we spoke about that for a bit and then headed back home. Where he went to bed and I got ready to entertain our kids lol.

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    For any PA's interested in having someone to talk to, check in with and a safe place to talk about all things recovery... my husband @Wade W. Wilson, who has been in real recovery for over two years now, has created a dedicated Facebook group [click here] and Discord channel for PA's, all are welcome to join and he is looking forward to getting to know and helping each of you. You can join the channel by clicking this link: https://discord.gg/gXPuU9q
    _______________
    For SO's interested in having someone to talk to, check in with and a safe place to talk about all things healing and betrayal trauma... here is my Discord channel: https://discord.gg/XwhaBTg [this channel is for SO's ONLY, anyone there for malicious reasons will be removed].
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    What I liked about myself, today:
    (I am trying to find one positive thing to "like" about myself and make a mental note of it, every day. No matter how small or insignificant)
    :emoji_two_hearts: No triggers.:emoji_ok_hand:

    #Video
    Jim Rohn TAKE RISKS!


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    Recovery Setback Dates | Inconsistencies or Lies
    5/25/18 | 6/08/18 | 8/18/18 | 9/19/18 | 1/09/19
    1/19/19 | 1/21/19 | 1/24/19 | 1/27/19 | 2/08/19
    4/27/19 | 6/13/19 | 7/06/19 | 8/05/19 | 2/08/20

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  14. Jagliana

    Jagliana Fapstronaut

    DAY 828: 05/04/2020

    DAILY OBJECTIVES MET:
    • My husband has been honest with me.
    • Daily talk with my husband.
    • Worked on Self-Care as defined here.
    • Currently Reading: "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel Van der Kolk
    • Current Daily Podcast: "7 Good Minutes"
    ---------------------------------------------------
    Dailies | Self-Care Completed:
    Self-care is not an indulgence. Self-care is a discipline.
    Morning routine / Verbalized my feelings
    Journal / Daily talk with hubby / Regulated my sleep.

    Tony Robbins List of Basic Human Needs | Text explanation here / Sound.
    1. Certainty 2. Uncertainty/Variety 3. Significance 4. Connection/Love 5. Growth and 6. Contribution.


    3 Things I am Grateful for Today:
    1) Self-care.
    2) Healing.
    3) Technology.

    ---------------------------------------------------

    Last night, he gave me a trifecta, which felt really good, I spent most of the day entertaining the kids, aka sitting hunched over coloring with them, etc and afterward, it was difficult to adjust my neck out of the pretzel shape it became. Then he had a one on one conversation with our eldest, yet again, because of her nonstop outburst and unsavory behavior. He asked me to join him and we spoke to her together, again, I hope something sticks because she is really becoming more and more difficult to handle. Then we finished "Upload" and now we can't wait for season 2 if they make it.

    Today on the 7 Good Minutes podcast I listened to “How To Have More Fun In Your Life", in this episode, Brendon Burchard talks about how to have more fun. Remember, if the sun isn't shining where you are, be the sunshine where you are.

    This morning, the weather was so nice! a lot of people were out and -not in masks, ugh- anyhow... during our walk we began listening to "Most people don't LEAD their life, they ACCEPT their life!" an interview with John Maxwell, by Ed Mylett. John Maxwell is a High-Achieving Leader, an author, speaker, and pastor who has written many books, primarily focusing on leadership. During this interview, he divulges the top business leadership strategies, tips and actionable steps to become the MAXOUT Leader that is living inside you. We didn't get too far in yet, but he already said some awesome and inspiring 'quotables'. He gives us his expert principles on what you need to succeed in order to become a better person, become a better leader, unlock your potential to add value to the lives of others. As I mentioned, the weather was nice, therefore women were in tighter clothing and more exposed, so of course, there was a trigger. She was walking right in front of us, in super tight yoga pants, with a very large plump ass, Wade's favorite kind. :rolleyes: As soon as I saw her, my mood turned for the worse, and quick. My internal struggle began, he was trying to change our path in order to take her out of my line of sight which was smart and a good idea, but the damage had already been done, all I could think about is how he must have just enjoyed his view and how much he prob wishes to be with someone like her but is stuck with me. As he was telling me he didn't "slip" but he noticed her, just enough to know she would trigger me, I told him "oh, I bet you noticed her" of course he denied slipping or even having an interest in looking, but I don't believe that. Don't get me wrong, I want to believe him when he says he no longer gets any thoughts or sensations for these other women, but I'm not blind - I can see what they have and what I don't... what he finds prefers, yet I'm lacking... and I still remember the cartwheels he would do just to get an extra look; in front of me, no less. Spring/Summer use to be my favorite time of year, now I dread them because the chance of getting triggered goes up by 95% as women wear less and less.

    Anyway, back to furthering my headache... I mean homeschooling.

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    For any PA's interested in having someone to talk to, check in with and a safe place to talk about all things recovery... my husband @Wade W. Wilson, who has been in real recovery for over two years now, has created a dedicated Facebook group [click here] and Discord channel for PA's, all are welcome to join and he is looking forward to getting to know and helping each of you. You can join the channel by clicking this link: https://discord.gg/gXPuU9q
    _______________
    For SO's interested in having someone to talk to, check in with and a safe place to talk about all things healing and betrayal trauma... here is my Discord channel: https://discord.gg/XwhaBTg [this channel is for SO's ONLY, anyone there for malicious reasons will be removed].
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    What I liked about myself, today:
    (I am trying to find one positive thing to "like" about myself and make a mental note of it, every day. No matter how small or insignificant)
    :emoji_two_hearts: Finished what I needed to for my mom, don't need to deal with hearing about it all week.:emoji_ok_hand:

    #Video
    How to Have More FUN!


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    Recovery Setback Dates | Inconsistencies or Lies
    5/25/18 | 6/08/18 | 8/18/18 | 9/19/18 | 1/09/19
    1/19/19 | 1/21/19 | 1/24/19 | 1/27/19 | 2/08/19
    4/27/19 | 6/13/19 | 7/06/19 | 8/05/19 | 2/08/20

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  15. Jagliana

    Jagliana Fapstronaut

    DAY 829: 05/05/2020

    DAILY OBJECTIVES MET:
    • My husband has been honest with me.
    • Daily talk with my husband.
    • Worked on Self-Care as defined here.
    • Currently Reading: "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel Van der Kolk
    • Current Daily Podcast: "7 Good Minutes"
    ---------------------------------------------------
    Dailies | Self-Care Completed:
    Self-care is not an indulgence. Self-care is a discipline.
    Morning routine / Verbalized my feelings
    Journal / Daily talk with hubby / Regulated my sleep.

    Tony Robbins List of Basic Human Needs | Text explanation here / Sound.
    1. Certainty 2. Uncertainty/Variety 3. Significance 4. Connection/Love 5. Growth and 6. Contribution.


    3 Things I am Grateful for Today:
    1) Self-care.
    2) Healing.
    3) Morning Walk.

    ---------------------------------------------------

    Last night, he gave me the trifecta, I enjoyed it - even if my mood was in a bad place. He said he was having a difficult time watching me and not trying to talk or fix the situation, but I am glad he didn't and just let me enjoy the moment while listening to soothing sounds. Then we went to watch my show, 90 Day Fiance: before the 90 days - something I never thought he would care for, but he also finds it hilarious and we've been breaking down each couple as if we were their therapists, which has been new and fun. Then he was off to work and I went to bed.

    Today on the 7 Good Minutes podcast I listened to “How To Take Care Of Yourself Emotionally", in this episode, we have a fantastic message on self-care and how to take care of yourself emotionally. Remember, it's not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and to make your happiness a priority. It's necessary!

    This morning, the weather was colder than yesterday, but we still walked. We continued listening to "Most people don't LEAD their life, they ACCEPT their life!" an interview with John Maxwell, by Ed Mylett. John Maxwell is a High-Achieving Leader, an author, speaker, and pastor. This man is full of such sound advice, Wade said he reminded him a lot of Les Brown and yeah I can see that. One thing he said which really stuck with me, was that everyone is a leader, they just don't see it, embrace it, or understand it. His motto is Leadership is influence, if you can influence even one person, you're a leader. This goes for anyone, so if you are a parent, your actions have direct influence over your children, therefore, you are constantly showing leadership. His point is, leadership does not always have to be in a business environment and I believe that is a very good point, I never even thought about it. We have a bit more and I am excited to hear how he wraps this interview up. Then when we got home and parked, I noticed a little snake on the ground, Wade picked it up and saw it was injured, so we decided to move it to a place near grass and water, away from people/cars. I hope the little guy survives.

    I signed up my little one for an online class (through zoom) to add some social aspect to her distance learning, I can not wait to see how it goes. I also found a fun class for our 12-year-old, also on zoom - a pokemon escape room where you need to use your pokemon skills, math, and reading to advance.

    Now back to my scheduled programming... #homeschooltime

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    For any PA's interested in having someone to talk to, check in with and a safe place to talk about all things recovery... my husband @Wade W. Wilson, who has been in real recovery for over two years now, has created a dedicated Facebook group [click here] and Discord channel for PA's, all are welcome to join and he is looking forward to getting to know and helping each of you. You can join the channel by clicking this link: https://discord.gg/gXPuU9q
    _______________
    For SO's interested in having someone to talk to, check in with and a safe place to talk about all things healing and betrayal trauma... here is my Discord channel: https://discord.gg/XwhaBTg [this channel is for SO's ONLY, anyone there for malicious reasons will be removed].
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    What I liked about myself, today:
    (I am trying to find one positive thing to "like" about myself and make a mental note of it, every day. No matter how small or insignificant)
    :emoji_two_hearts: No triggers.:emoji_ok_hand:

    #Video
    Love Yourself - Les Brown


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    Recovery Setback Dates | Inconsistencies or Lies
    5/25/18 | 6/08/18 | 8/18/18 | 9/19/18 | 1/09/19
    1/19/19 | 1/21/19 | 1/24/19 | 1/27/19 | 2/08/19
    4/27/19 | 6/13/19 | 7/06/19 | 8/05/19 | 2/08/20

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  16. Jagliana

    Jagliana Fapstronaut

    DAY 830: 05/06/2020

    DAILY OBJECTIVES MET:
    • My husband has been honest with me.
    • Daily talk with my husband.
    • Worked on Self-Care as defined here.
    • Currently Reading: "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel Van der Kolk
    • Current Daily Podcast: "7 Good Minutes"
    ---------------------------------------------------
    Dailies | Self-Care Completed:
    Self-care is not an indulgence. Self-care is a discipline.
    Morning routine / Verbalized my feelings
    Journal / Daily talk with hubby / Regulated my sleep.

    Tony Robbins List of Basic Human Needs | Text explanation here / Sound.
    1. Certainty 2. Uncertainty/Variety 3. Significance 4. Connection/Love 5. Growth and 6. Contribution.


    3 Things I am Grateful for Today:
    1) Self-care.
    2) Healing.
    3) Morning Walk.

    ---------------------------------------------------

    Last night, we laid in bed and talked for a bit, he asked me what was on my mind and well, it's been all over the place meaning: overwhelmed; between the lack of sleep, dealing with the kids all day, my parents, weight gain that won't come off [no matter what] and still nursing the trigger [and all those thoughts] from the day before... I'm running on empty.

    Today on the 7 Good Minutes podcast I listened to “Improve Your Thinking And Improve Your Life", in this episode, we have Dr. Joe Dispenza with a 7 Day Mental Challenge that is sure to help you improve your thinking and improve your life. Remember, the more radically you can change your thinking, the more radically you can change your life.

    This morning, Wade was stuck at work, as I was about to head out the door, he calls that he was finally done and could be home to join me for my walk, so I waited for him. During our walk, we finished listening to "Most people don't LEAD their life, they ACCEPT their life!" an interview with John Maxwell, by Ed Mylett. John Maxwell is a High-Achieving Leader, an author, speaker, and pastor. It was a wonderful interview, Mr. Maxwell is an inspiring figure with a lot of great advice, really worth a listen, whether you are in business or not. I believe the skills he talks about could be applied throughout all aspects of life.

    Short entry today, gotta go 'teach'...

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    For any PA's interested in having someone to talk to, check in with and a safe place to talk about all things recovery... my husband @Wade W. Wilson, who has been in real recovery for over two years now, has created a dedicated Facebook group [click here] and Discord channel for PA's, all are welcome to join and he is looking forward to getting to know and helping each of you. You can join the channel by clicking this link: https://discord.gg/gXPuU9q
    _______________
    For SO's interested in having someone to talk to, check in with and a safe place to talk about all things healing and betrayal trauma... here is my Discord channel: https://discord.gg/XwhaBTg [this channel is for SO's ONLY, anyone there for malicious reasons will be removed].
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    What I liked about myself, today:
    (I am trying to find one positive thing to "like" about myself and make a mental note of it, every day. No matter how small or insignificant)
    :emoji_two_hearts: No triggers.:emoji_ok_hand:

    #Video
    DO THIS FOR 7 DAYS AND YOU WILL SEE INCREDIBLE RESULTS!


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    Recovery Setback Dates | Inconsistencies or Lies
    5/25/18 | 6/08/18 | 8/18/18 | 9/19/18 | 1/09/19
    1/19/19 | 1/21/19 | 1/24/19 | 1/27/19 | 2/08/19
    4/27/19 | 6/13/19 | 7/06/19 | 8/05/19 | 2/08/20

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  17. Jagliana

    Jagliana Fapstronaut

    DAY 831: 05/07/2020

    DAILY OBJECTIVES MET:
    • My husband has been honest with me.
    • Daily talk with my husband.
    • Worked on Self-Care as defined here.
    • Currently Reading: Various
    • Current Daily Podcast: "7 Good Minutes"
    ---------------------------------------------------
    Dailies | Self-Care Completed:
    Self-care is not an indulgence. Self-care is a discipline.
    Morning routine / Verbalized my feelings
    Journal / Daily talk with hubby / Regulated my sleep.

    Tony Robbins List of Basic Human Needs | Text explanation here / Sound.
    1. Certainty 2. Uncertainty/Variety 3. Significance 4. Connection/Love 5. Growth and 6. Contribution.


    3 Things I am Grateful for Today:
    1) Self-care.
    2) Healing.
    3) Wade staying up.

    ---------------------------------------------------

    Last night, Wade gave me his trifecta, as usual, I loved each phase and appreciate it very much - even those it's frequent these days, I still can not get used to it. I don't know how he knows what spot to hit, but he does and it really makes me sleepy, which is kind of a big deal, because I use to need NyQuil just to have to fall asleep, not anymore. Anyhow, we had a bit of trouble with getting our little one to bed, she somehow got it in her head that she didn't want us to 'go away, into the sky' 'what will she do if she can't drive' and we had to explain everything to her, calm her down but it took a while until she finally fell asleep. It was an, umm, interesting discussion to have, but - it is what it is. After we began watching Outlander... then Wade went to work and I went to bed.

    Today on the 7 Good Minutes podcast I listened to “Self Neglect: Are Your Needs Being Met In Your Relationship", in this episode, Freddy Fri gives an important message on self-neglect. Remember, you cannot serve from an empty vessel.

    This morning, we listened to "This Simple Trick Can Turn Anxiety Into a Powerful Ally" an interview with Jewel, on Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu. Jewel is an American singer-songwriter, musician, producer, actress, author, and poet. She has received four Grammy Award nominations and, as of 2015, has sold over 30 million albums worldwide. Jewel’s story of fame and success starts with an abusive household and a stint of homelessness, combined with all the anxiety and negativity that you would expect from those beginnings. But her story takes an unexpected turn when she shares the way she overcame all of that negativity. She explains how she taught herself to be addicted to positive behavior, describes what constitutes real change, and shares the fascinating question she learned to ask herself that transformed her whole life. During this interview they discuss, when she was homeless, how she decided to change her life one thought at a time, her rationalization of "if we can be addicted to negative things, then we can become addicted to positive actions", she also describes some of her simple methods of controlling her thoughts and emotions, they discuss the importance of diet and exercise, she defines exactly what constitutes "change" and what she learned after being adopted by Native Americans at 15. It was a great interview so far, she makes a lot of good points and the best part was when she talked about the three T's: transformation, transmutation and transcendence - which she breaks down really well around 22:47.

    I'm so happy Wade was super energetic today after his shift, we were able to get our grocery shopping done and he even decided to stay up, so we could grill up some lunch and he could help me with the homeschooling. I have to say, I'm shocked because the last few days he was super tired - I wasn't expecting him to stay up, but like I said it made me happy. I've had a really long week, readjusting and not sleeping, so this really helps.

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    For any PA's interested in having someone to talk to, check in with and a safe place to talk about all things recovery... my husband @Wade W. Wilson, who has been in real recovery for over two years now, has created a dedicated Facebook group [click here] and Discord channel for PA's, all are welcome to join and he is looking forward to getting to know and helping each of you. You can join the channel by clicking this link: https://discord.gg/gXPuU9q
    _______________
    For SO's interested in having someone to talk to, check in with and a safe place to talk about all things healing and betrayal trauma... here is my Discord channel: https://discord.gg/XwhaBTg [this channel is for SO's ONLY, anyone there for malicious reasons will be removed].
    _-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_

    What I liked about myself, today:
    (I am trying to find one positive thing to "like" about myself and make a mental note of it, every day. No matter how small or insignificant)
    :emoji_two_hearts: No triggers.:emoji_ok_hand:

    #Video
    Are Your Needs Being Met


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    Recovery Setback Dates | Inconsistencies or Lies
    5/25/18 | 6/08/18 | 8/18/18 | 9/19/18 | 1/09/19
    1/19/19 | 1/21/19 | 1/24/19 | 1/27/19 | 2/08/19
    4/27/19 | 6/13/19 | 7/06/19 | 8/05/19 | 2/08/20

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  18. Jagliana

    Jagliana Fapstronaut

    DAY 832: 05/08/2020

    DAILY OBJECTIVES MET:
    • My husband has been honest with me.
    • Daily talk with my husband.
    • Worked on Self-Care as defined here.
    • Currently Reading: Various
    • Current Daily Podcast: "7 Good Minutes"
    ---------------------------------------------------
    Dailies | Self-Care Completed:
    Self-care is not an indulgence. Self-care is a discipline.
    Morning routine / Verbalized my feelings
    Journal / Daily talk with hubby / Regulated my sleep.

    Tony Robbins List of Basic Human Needs | Text explanation here / Sound.
    1. Certainty 2. Uncertainty/Variety 3. Significance 4. Connection/Love 5. Growth and 6. Contribution.


    3 Things I am Grateful for Today:
    1) Self-care.
    2) Healing.
    3) Morning Walk.

    ---------------------------------------------------

    Last night, Wade was in physical pain, his knee was acting up, so he skipped the massages. We laid in bed a little after watching Extraction on Netflix, talked a bit about randomness, and what a difference this connection thing has been, even from last year. Then it was off to bed; together, and I actually slept through.

    Today on the 7 Good Minutes podcast I listened to “Decision Making: How To Make Good Decisions In Life", in this episode, we hear some very useful information with us about how to make good decisions in life. Remember, your ability to make your own decisions is the ultimate power.

    This morning, we listened to "This Simple Trick Can Turn Anxiety Into a Powerful Ally" an interview with Jewel, on Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu. Jewel is an American singer-songwriter, musician, producer, actress, author, and poet. She has received four Grammy Award nominations and, as of 2015, has sold over 30 million albums worldwide. During the rest of this interview, they discuss, she explains how she learned to tell the truth instead of being positive or negative, they discuss the experience of grief and letting go, forgiveness as she sees it, and perfectionism and having a point to prove are rocket fuel, but they also limit you. What a powerful interview, so many get metaphors to consider. Her website is worth a look: https://www.jewelneverbroken.com - especially for those looking to heal.

    Today's my mom's birthday, so we are going to sit and celebrate together, as best as we can - given the circumstances. Then it is back to homeschooling! yippie! :rolleyes: can't wait for 8:00pm, Wade is going to color my hair (I've been dreading looking old!) and we'll drink some wine. :D

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    For any PA's interested in having someone to talk to, check in with and a safe place to talk about all things recovery... my husband @Wade W. Wilson, who has been in real recovery for over two years now, has created a dedicated Facebook group [click here] and Discord channel for PA's, all are welcome to join and he is looking forward to getting to know and helping each of you. You can join the channel by clicking this link: https://discord.gg/gXPuU9q
    _______________
    For SO's interested in having someone to talk to, check in with and a safe place to talk about all things healing and betrayal trauma... here is my Discord channel: https://discord.gg/XwhaBTg [this channel is for SO's ONLY, anyone there for malicious reasons will be removed].
    _-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_

    What I liked about myself, today:
    (I am trying to find one positive thing to "like" about myself and make a mental note of it, every day. No matter how small or insignificant)
    :emoji_two_hearts: No triggers today.:emoji_ok_hand:

    #Video
    The Art of Making Good Decisions


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    Recovery Setback Dates | Inconsistencies or Lies
    5/25/18 | 6/08/18 | 8/18/18 | 9/19/18 | 1/09/19
    1/19/19 | 1/21/19 | 1/24/19 | 1/27/19 | 2/08/19
    4/27/19 | 6/13/19 | 7/06/19 | 8/05/19 | 2/08/20

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  19. Jagliana

    Jagliana Fapstronaut

    DAY 833: 05/09/2020

    DAILY OBJECTIVES MET:
    • My husband has been honest with me.
    • Daily talk with my husband.
    • Worked on Self-Care as defined here.
    • Currently Reading: Various
    • Current Daily Podcast: "7 Good Minutes"
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    Dailies | Self-Care Completed:
    Self-care is not an indulgence. Self-care is a discipline.
    Morning routine / Verbalized my feelings
    Journal / Daily talk with hubby / Regulated my sleep.

    Tony Robbins List of Basic Human Needs | Text explanation here / Sound.
    1. Certainty 2. Uncertainty/Variety 3. Significance 4. Connection/Love 5. Growth and 6. Contribution.


    3 Things I am Grateful for Today:
    1) Self-care.
    2) Healing.
    3) Morning Routine.

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    Last night, he gave me the trifecta and it was lovely and much appreciated, as usual. We also talked about how Wade could possibly change his approach with our eldest and how doing that may help him with his other goals when it comes to connecting with her. Then we continued watching Outlander, before heading to bed.

    Today on the 7 Good Minutes podcast I listened to “Choices That Lead To A Happy And Fulfilling Life", in this episode, we a message on making the choices that most often lead to a happy and fulfilling life. Remember, focusing on what's right with our lives rather than what's wrong with our lives is the best way to fix what's wrong with our lives.

    This morning, the weather had really taken a turn for the FREEZING! so we decided to stay home. I listened to "8 Self-Care Tips and Tactics that You Can Implement Right Now" a compilation video with various speakers from older interviews, on Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu. While working on some worksheets for the coming 'school' week. Tom believes (and I agree) in times of quarantine, pandemic, and isolation, self-care is more important than ever. In this mix of awesome speakers, we hear Les Brown explain why you need to believe that you can get out from under the labels, Kelly McGonigal explain why movement is so critical to mental well-being, Cal Newport talks about why we need to take breaks from social media, Lori Harder advocates staying in touch with your playful, goofy side, Brendon Burchard describes his methods for forming and keeping great relationships, Tucker Max explains why you have to connect to and acknowledge your emotions, Ed Mylett advocates the power and necessity of stacking gratitude, James Altucher shares his story of learning to deal with failure and depression. To sum it up: 1) Stop negative self-talk 2) Exercise 3) Take a Break from Social Media 4) Stay playful 5) Connect with others 6) Connect with yourself 7) Stack Gratitude and 8) Learn from your mistakes.

    Then, we are bracing ourselves for a day of NOTHING, maybe some activities/games with the kids but that's it.

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    For any PA's interested in having someone to talk to, check in with and a safe place to talk about all things recovery... my husband @Wade W. Wilson, who has been in real recovery for over two years now, has created a dedicated Facebook group [click here] and Discord channel for PA's, all are welcome to join and he is looking forward to getting to know and helping each of you. You can join the channel by clicking this link: https://discord.gg/gXPuU9q
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    For SO's interested in having someone to talk to, check in with and a safe place to talk about all things healing and betrayal trauma... here is my Discord channel: https://discord.gg/XwhaBTg [this channel is for SO's ONLY, anyone there for malicious reasons will be removed].
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    What I liked about myself, today:
    (I am trying to find one positive thing to "like" about myself and make a mental note of it, every day. No matter how small or insignificant)
    :emoji_two_hearts: Couldn't walk, didn't feel shame, even after the weigh-in.:emoji_ok_hand:

    #Video
    How To Have More Self-Discipline


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    Recovery Setback Dates | Inconsistencies or Lies
    5/25/18 | 6/08/18 | 8/18/18 | 9/19/18 | 1/09/19
    1/19/19 | 1/21/19 | 1/24/19 | 1/27/19 | 2/08/19
    4/27/19 | 6/13/19 | 7/06/19 | 8/05/19 | 2/08/20

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  20. Psalm27:1my light

    Psalm27:1my light Fapstronaut

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    Freezing?! It’s been in the 80-90 here and we’ve been swimming every day since beginning of April. Lol. Hiking and riding every day too. One thing about Northern California, you can’t beat the weather! Hate the politics and taxes but man I love the amount of time I can spend outside year round.
     

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