Jerking Off Habit Induced By P ***WARNING TRIGGERS

It isn't going to go away from stopping masturbating and you definitely need to stop doing it for real as the mental damage can make you suicidal if you cure masochism after. PM me for a link on how to get rid of this fetish.

 

It is not dangerous to jerk off if you have something in you a**, as long as it is made to go into your a**. Like a butt plug...

You said you dont jerk off to P or visuals (which I would call P too). However you are likely to jerk off to F (Fantasy) which I consider to be the root cause of porn addiction. If you want to cure your porn addiction, you must cure your addiction to fantasy too.

 

Hello friend. I had a very difficult journey with sissy porn (sP) and similar fetishes. It gave me extreme PIED, shame, and confusion. While I am not 100% recovered, I am not confused about my gender identity or sexuality (I am a straight, cis, male), I have frequent and pleasurable sex with women (when not locked in quarantine lol), and I have overcome the shame of my addiction. You also have this addiction, and you can overcome all your problems as well.

In short, it is very harmful for your recovery to PMO with anal stimulation, even in the absence of other stimulating media.

Right now, there is a web of neurons in your brain's sexual reward centers. While they used to be wired towards, people, skin, courting, socializing, and other normal sexual stimuli, these neurons are wired toward screens, sissy fantasies, anal stimulation, and a host of other stimuli. Even worse, extremely large amounts and upsetting porn has also been wired into your brain, as well as shame, anxiety, and guilt.

While you may be avoiding the porn aspect, continuing to PMO with anal stimulation will not help you recover; PMOing at all will not help you recover. Any sexual stimulation you feel will "refresh" the neurons in your sexual reward center, even if they are not directly activated. While individuals who go on a very strict reboot often find major urges to leave them after 90-100 days, individuals who continue masturbating without porn report years going by to experience the same effects. With the extra stimulation in your anal area, I would guess it would take even longer for you to recover.

 

Continuing to watch porn is not going to help this problem. While it seems impossible, you can go cold turkey and succeed. The first 1-2 weeks are hard, I give you that. On days 9-10 I was literally hallucinating. I ran about 9 miles those days just to exhaust myself, and barely slept due to the hallucinations.

Something that I did, which I recommend solely on my own experiences, is do get some lube or lotion, and MO as many times as you can in one day to sexually exhaust yourself, and then go hardmode. It really helps alleviate urges for the first several days.

Giving yourself leeway to PMO does not help in the long run. Your brain will recognize what you're doing, and try to trick you to PMOing just one extra time. Once extra becomes twice, then thrice, and then using toys, etc. The best thing to do is go hardmode. Even if you fail at hardmode, it's better than continuing to PMO.

If you're fearing for your mental health, you should talk to a professional irl about that.

 

Isn't that the million dollar question??
I can go into fantasy when I'm trying to go to sleep. And, any time at all when I'm not actively engaged with other people. And, as an introvert, I tend to have lots and lots of time for thinking. Why would I think about the meaning of life or what I could have for dinner that night when I can turn to fantasy and get a rush of arousal?
I've struggled with this for years but things that have helped me the most are:
#1 - engaging with real people. Not sexually, just being active in recovery meetings or talking with friends and family. Asking people how they're day is going.
#2 and beyond - no porn, no masturbation, no edging, little or no caffeine and little or no sugar. All of these things feed back into fantasy and the temptation to get high (and escape) with sexual stimuli.
Further, avoid orgasms. Orgasms will only set your body up to crave more orgasms. Read "Cupid's Poisoned Arrow" for a detailed explanation of how destructive orgasm are. Or, just ask anyone here about the "chaser effect"
And lastly, if you catch yourself in fantasy. Stop it! You can stop. Try to think of something else. Chances are nothing you think of will be nearly as gratifying, but you can think of other things. Little by little, you will slip into fantasy less.

 

That's going to cause mental damage if you cure masochism after. If this is a fetish you have please send me a pm.