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She's told me (in general conversation) that she isn't emotionally ready for that kind of relationship with anyone so I doubt that'd go over well.

 

A few urges today, but open dns stopped me.

 

I relapsed. It was induced by curiosity. I need to learn how to quash curiosity.

 

It appears as if I'm back at a 3 day breaking point. Gotta find a way to get past day 3.

 

I'm starting to get frustrated :/ there's no way I can 100% block P and I'm so bad at avoiding it... I don't know what to do anymore... I need to sit down and make a plan... a good plan that can allow me to stop myself easily without second thought or I'm not going to get very far...

 

Hey, glad open dns worked for you somewhat.
As far as a plan, there are a couple things I do. When I feel the urge I do other things that I enjoy. I play guitar, read, work on stuff. I do stuff that maybe distracts me for a bit. I'm in this for the long haul. Once you get a few days under your belt, the urge to not have to start all over again becomes greater. I'm not saying that the urge dies down at all though, as you'll see in my following post.

 

Day 60 I think.
Is anyone else on this forum thread. If not I'm going to find a more lively one. Nomorefappingforever, how are you doing?

 

Hey, haven't seen you on this thread. How are you doing?

 

hello ! i'm new in this site. can i join u guys ? i'm starting day 1 now or please navigate me to somewhere more appropriate

 

Sure your welcome to join. I don't know how active this thread is though. I'll try and be on here a bit. What are you doing to stop pmo? How long are you going for?
I have found the timer below my comments to help keep me in check plus all the new energy and focus I am getting. Good luck.

 

Sorry. I tend to get in a groove where I feel like I've never fapped before in my life and that its a foreign concept and it tends to make me forget to update here, not that its a bad thing to feel that way, but I should update more often. I have a girlfriend now and just the thought of her has helped me keep my addiction under reign. I have WAY more self control now and the urges are less often and less strong. I relapsed today for some reason and I felt AWFUL emotionally afterwords. I got mad and started telling myself of how my girlfriend thinks the world of me and that what I've just done is somewhat cheating and could have been stopped (which it REALLY could've, in fact I almost did) but in the end settled on "What happened happened, its not worth it it makes me feel shitty and like I've screwed up my relationships with friends and family a bit. It makes me awkward around my own girlfriend (who started as my best friend, and still is) whom I care about very very much and really don't want to be awkward around, it makes me awkward around my bros whom I am very close with and it makes me awkward around my family. I know your brain tells you you need it, but you really don't, so for the sake of yourself and others around you you have to be sure you're strong" and I felt way better. I'm getting way more social time now and have done way more interesting and fun things as of late which has helped a lot, as well as I've been sleeping in my basement living room to keep cool, which has also helped a lot. Even now, as I type this, I feel like I really don't want to PMO. I'm revolted by it, disgusted and feel as if its just awful for my friends and family as well as me. I can't even imagine doing it again. I hope this time was a fluke even though I can't count on it, but I'm going to do everything in my power to stop it from happening again, and when I say everything I mean EVERYTHING.

 

Hey nomorefapforever, way to make it 13 days. It sounds like your getting a handle on this, that is great. It sounds like your relationship is going well, that's great. The no pmo for me is a roller coaster. I still haven't fapped since day 1 but that doesn't mean I don't think about it. If the urge is strong, I just do other things. I'm currently trying to learn how to design an android app. I had a business idea and think I can design an app without to much trouble. I am amazed at the energy and focus I now have from not fapping. Good luck to you, keep me updated.
Asyraf 96, how are your first few days going of no pmo? Good luck to you as well.

 

If you don't mind me asking... I am in the business development world, and I would love to here about your app and if there is anyways I can help you get it rolling! Private message me (if it exists?) if you would be willing. I don't care about the money, I won't steal your idea. Just want to help when I am able.

 

Hi 8bits, thanks for the interest. I could not find any way to directly pm you or send you email on this forum. I would certainly be interested in your input and whatever knowledge we can share. I see double entry occurring in the industry I am in that is not necessary. I am attempting to build what I think would be a simple app consisting primarily of drop down menus, and tables for inspectors to use to enter in information. Then that info could be sent to a database on a server in the cloud to store and for others with a password to retrieve. I spoke with an app programmer a couple days ago and he said app development and someone that does web design and database setup would be needed.
I have downloaded android studio and am looking at you tube videos to try and learn it. That is how far I have gotten. I'd love to chat more privately or if necessary put this conversation in the misc category on this site. Let me know if you can find an email option on here otherwise I could give my email out on here I guess but I'd prefer not to.
Learning new subjects and the excitement I am getting from starting a business are helping to change my thinking about pmo. I am just focused on something else and I know I have more energy by not pmo. What have your experiences been?

 

discovered nofap today.. newbie! hope it help quit my addiction

 

I definitely find it is a helpful tool. Look up open dns to help block sites. Please share how your progress is going.

 

Day after urges hit like a freight train.... I relapsed. The joys of being exhausted and lazy at the same time >_> I didn't have the energy to get rid of the urges and now I'm feeling a bit crappy. Oh well, tomorrow is a relaxation day so I'm going to at least have the energy to not screw up.

 

8 days and 23 hours. My girlfriend is really good motivation and being with her gives me new strength to fight these shitty urges. I gave in today, but I wasn't aroused by the porn nor was it a strong O. It was weak as weak can be and fully not worth it to my brain, no after effects, no foul thinking its a pretty great feeling, but that won't make me start PMO again, no, I'm going to quit 100% because I want my girlfriend to be the only woman in my life who can ultimately get me going. I may find other women attractive, but shes the only one I want to turn me on therefore P and M have to go away 100% forever.

 

Good for you nomorefapping, congratulations on 12 days. How's it gong? I was gone for a long weekend, and no pmo but I'm catching myself trying to find that dopamine rush in other ways. I'll write about it in a bit if there are still other people on this thread.

 

Relapsed today. No P or imagination used though. Still not happy about it, but at least no after effects.