JOIN ME: The Start of Something Great

Its going pretty good. I've been far more busy and productive lately and smiling way more often and less awkward and more confident, even after a relapse my social anxiety is almost none existent. My girlfriend and I are going strong and approaching a month of dating and I've been gaming again way more often. Things have been good.

 

Great to here man, that's awesome. It is one step at a time. Do you know what cues are causing you to replapse? I read a great subreddit that words are powerful. Now I think of myself as:
I'm six feet tall.
I'm motivated
I don't watch P or M
I play guitar
ect.
See how that changes your mindset? For me my brain doesn't have the opportunity to relapse, it's just not a part of who I tell myself I am. This doesn't mean I get strong urges.
Do you have a different routine you could do? I'm reading the power of habbit and a cue, routine and reward wire in a habbit. Now I'm trying to change the habit.
For example my cue is arousal or I want a distraction. I am trying to change my routine from PMO to mediation or playing guitar. The reward I get from both is more focus, happy, and relaxed.
Why are you gaming if you have a girlfriend? Do you mean your just having fun, flirting, ect?

 

I relapsed today but it'll be good to have someone to talk to when i feel like im about to break.... havent gone beyond 7 days in a long time

 

Relapsed today after 22 days without porn. I think I was stressed and anxious and lonely and tired and suffering strong urges and was finally just like "Ughhh fiiine" cause I didn't have the energy to deal with it. The upside to this is, I have now figured out that porn doesn't turn me on anymore. I couldn't get hard and even when I did it lasted a couple seconds and the O was weak as hell, but its not ED from flat lining or anything like that, because I can get it up for my girlfriend in seconds flat. Anyway, I'm off for another long ass streak.

 

Gaming is playing video games, sorry I worded that odd. I like your idea I think I'll try it out.

 

What day am I on?

 

Holy crap, I made it 91 days. My first personal goal was 90 days.
How to sum up this experience in words may not be possible.
It was and is a lot of emotions and self control. At this point though it just feels natural not to watch P or M, kinda strange.
I'm not going to say the feeling has gone away because damn it I'm a Man and I get horny. I am just now redirecting that energy in a different direction.
Mediation, guitar, learning to write Android apps, going out, having fun, have been the routine I have changed my habit to.
Right now the thought of looking at porn and masturbating just seems like a waste of time. The women are pictures or video, not real.
I think I've had sex or sexual experiences with 4 different women since I have stopped P and M. Damn, it feels good too. My sensitivity is 100% greater than it was in the past. I cum early the first time but I really don't care. I let the women know that too and they are fine with it.
I think my dopamine did get redirected when I started going to POF, Tinder, Adult friend finder, Fling and OK cupid. The swiping became an addiction. I did meet a couple women off of a couple of the sites but I think my brain grabbed onto the dopamine kick so for a week or so I'm trying to stay off the sites completely or at least not make up stories in my head.

This has not been easy but so worth it. I am going to continue another 90 days. The word is nofap, not less fap.
Good luck to all, and feel free to reply with your thoughts.

 

Great job on 18 days use it or loose it.

 

I used to do those too... I did them for a few months. You would be surprised if you just put yourself in front of real people, your desire to use an online dating sit disappears in like 1-3 days. Sure it is in its own way a "dopamine" addiction, but its fairly easy to kick and walk away from I found.

Amen!