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Hello there! I literally just discovered this site and made a spontaneous decision to sign up. For a long time now I've been putting off having to address this problem had no idea until now that there was a place online where people talked openly about this stuff together. Today is Day 1 and I have no idea how things are going to go, but at the moment I'm feeling cautiously optimistic.
 
Hey guys, I'm just some days clean, but nevertheless I'm glad and proud to report some small improvements:
First of all I have way less sexual thoughts than before.
Then I definitely have become more secure talking to women. Even if they're attractive (and sometimes sending signals to me) I don't think of anything to do with them and... yes, I can say that I haven't fantasized of any girl that I have got to know over the last month. I think my "feeling" of their attractiveness, their "female aspects", has improved. I can feel it but it is not in the groin and I don't get confused by it, I enjoy it.

Tonight (friday night at home) I had some urges half an hour ago. But no pictures on my mind. I just felt horny and also a craving for doing more than just fap - to watch porn.
Sometimes it seem to help when you have "seen it all", bc porn is no novelty for you but mere repetition (o.c. the mind soon tricks itself into taking it for something new and search for "novelty" in the same old shit)

BUT THIS TIME it was not fantasy after fantasy storming my mind and the question "don't want you to see it in real pictures? don't you want the experience (of pmo zombie state)?"
THIS TIME the tempting thought was "don't you want to have some hot mental nude scene" And although I struggled before I pushed that thought away and the thought come back, no image came into my awareness!

Nevertheless the urges are there. In my mind. Suddenly there are all these connection like ... you think 'dog' then 'doggystyle'. You think of just anything and suddenly there's a vague connection to some porn stuff. But there the training comes into force: the next thought is "oh shit, I'm thinking of porn". And that's like a cirle. But the urges want you to leave the circle and go on the p-m-o route.

Thinking so intensively about it makes me want to flee usually. But now I realize I can calm down and continue observing these motions in myself. Naturally I can't find out what exactly happens there inside me. Neverthess I feel calm enough to just listen inside me.
I'm not quite experienced in meditation but I will do it now.

I hope my post was helpful or inspiring or just interesting for you.
 
Hi everybody,

Just wanted to share with you this image. These are the post-it i had been using in this self health process, in this battle for myself. The cells represent the 90 days of no pmo that decide as my objective. The checks are the days of nofap I achieve. The "p" and the "w" in some cells (sorry for the quality of the image) represent my watching-porn relapses and the days I had a wet dream.

I found this exercise somewhere in the nofap community and its has helped me a lot. To visualizing the whole process and how much I achieve, to remember the day when all the cells where empty and I was so depressed and anger after a deep relapse (a half day of pmo) which left me also empty, gives me a lot of motivation. Today the situation is completely different and even if the fights and the urges are still there, I feel that I did recover a lot of myself and that is just priceless.

I hope this can be useful for others. Cheers and the better energies for all of you guys!
 

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Hey guys, I'm just some days clean, but nevertheless I'm glad and proud to report some small improvements:
First of all I have way less sexual thoughts than before.
Then I definitely have become more secure talking to women. Even if they're attractive (and sometimes sending signals to me) I don't think of anything to do with them and... yes, I can say that I haven't fantasized of any girl that I have got to know over the last month. I think my "feeling" of their attractiveness, their "female aspects", has improved. I can feel it but it is not in the groin and I don't get confused by it, I enjoy it.

Tonight (friday night at home) I had some urges half an hour ago. But no pictures on my mind. I just felt horny and also a craving for doing more than just fap - to watch porn.
Sometimes it seem to help when you have "seen it all", bc porn is no novelty for you but mere repetition (o.c. the mind soon tricks itself into taking it for something new and search for "novelty" in the same old shit)

BUT THIS TIME it was not fantasy after fantasy storming my mind and the question "don't want you to see it in real pictures? don't you want the experience (of pmo zombie state)?"
THIS TIME the tempting thought was "don't you want to have some hot mental nude scene" And although I struggled before I pushed that thought away and the thought come back, no image came into my awareness!

Nevertheless the urges are there. In my mind. Suddenly there are all these connection like ... you think 'dog' then 'doggystyle'. You think of just anything and suddenly there's a vague connection to some porn stuff. But there the training comes into force: the next thought is "oh shit, I'm thinking of porn". And that's like a cirle. But the urges want you to leave the circle and go on the p-m-o route.

Thinking so intensively about it makes me want to flee usually. But now I realize I can calm down and continue observing these motions in myself. Naturally I can't find out what exactly happens there inside me. Neverthess I feel calm enough to just listen inside me.
I'm not quite experienced in meditation but I will do it now.

I hope my post was helpful or inspiring or just interesting for you.
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Hey! I'm glad to read you that positive. And yes, I know also those chains of thoughts. The best you can do, in my point of view, is to accept that they are just that, thoughts and that YOU are capable to chose then or to chose others. Each time I let myself thinking in something with a little of sexual content I felt the risk of fall in the thought chain to pmo, so I decided to cut that thought from the beginning, and pass to another subject, object or idea. Its like the bad weed, its better to cut it from its root.
 
Hey Everyone!

First post. I've done 90 days before but relapsed and have fallen off since. It's been about a year of being inconsistent and I need to try something new. Hopefully checking in with you guys as much as I can will help.

Cheers!
 
I'm on my 66th day and still doing fine. There are stronge urges and today I actually felt them a bit harder then usual but there is also an awareness that I never had in my previous attempts. I think because I understand and accept my body and these urges it just seems logical that I can chose not to go along with them :) Keep it up guys!
 
Hey guys just checking in, still clean. Third week No PMO. Also, wanted to bring a Great app on the Android market to you guys it's called FocusOn. For those of us that have our smartphone as our biggest PMO triggers, but still need to use them. This soon allows you to block apps as well as websites for predetermined amounts of time. I have my black timer set for 90-days. Might want to give it a try or at least look at it.
 
Almost 2 months here, feeling great!

I've tried several reboots but failed with streaks of 2 weeks tops, it happened because I wasn't strong enough to give up on P and tought that just a little "peak" of some websites would have "helped" me to stay strong.. writing it now makes me realize of how stupid I was :P
If you wanna quit PMO you have to quit P, otherwise your brain will still have a weak spot and it will always be only a matter of time before relapsing :)

Stay strong, guys!
 
I'm thankful for:

  1. that I always have something to eat and drink
  2. that I have friends, family and people who care about me
  3. that I'm able to improve and that my stubborn me really is changing step by step

Successes this year:

  • made it into a new town (find a flat and all)
  • reduced drastically my porn use and M. Roughly estimated I spend ten times more of my time on this forum than with P, five times more with sport :)
  • began to study (second time) and am serious about it

I want to improve:

  • my focus and my readiness to turn every day into a good one
  • my social skills. That means basically: care more for other people, talk to them, dare out of comfort-zone
  • confidence
 
The last 69 days were of no use as I ended up relapsing 24 hours ago. Jerked off multiple times since then. I don't think I should continue with this as I see no end to it.
 
theDoctorSmith said:
The last 69 days were of no use as I ended up relapsing 24 hours ago. Jerked off multiple times since then. I don't think I should continue with this as I see no end to it.
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69 days thats a very long time. It's more than what scientists say about repetitions to learn something new (between 22 and 66 days) and it exceeds the bibical 40 days. It's more than many of us have ever reached.
Has it been your longest streak so far? Have you celebrated it?
I recommend to celebrate such big steps. And of course you need to understand what went wrong on day 70!

Don't continue fapping! Continue NoFap. Or do something else and forget about nofap and pmo for some time.
 
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