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Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by Real_OGH, Sep 18, 2015.
Strength and a calm mind to all of you!
I definitely agree with you. Generally I relapse when sick, stressed, anxious or frustrated about something. When I'm happy, no need for fap. Fapping creates the same chemicals in brain as love, and heavy drugs like cocaine and heroin. I can understand how exercise helps us through even more now! As exercise also releases chemicals needed for happiness, clarity and good mental health. Chemicamemicals!! Pesky little buggers
exactly but i relapsed again but my new year resolution is to leave fapping and i will do it .
Yesterday I watched Anime late in the night then forgot to set my alarm, overslept this morning. Haven't been very productive since. Still I didn't relapse and I didn't regress other compulsive behaviours. Even after oversleeping I felt well and wasn't angry with myself.
But instead of confronting the situation I spend my time on the computer with no real intention (which equals urges!).
The forum of NoFap has become a fire wall for my addictive mind. Instead thinking of sex I think of NoFap.
I'm very grateful for that.
But NoFap also triggers me on a very subtle level. Of course thats only a factor when I'm already procrastinating.
One moment I write posts, advice others, boast about my improvements, dream about success. The next moment my brain creeps into my pants and this inner struggle begins - with unsure outcome.
My mission is to stay busy with my stuff until February. Today I I failed. But my firewall NoFap saved me from relapsing. But it can't save me for very long. I have to get up. Either go back on track, or take some time to improve planning, affirmations, life goals.
Today I finish 10 days without looking at porn and 8 days without MO. That's good. But I can see my weakness very clear right now.
On the bright side: for the last weeks my sexual thoughts have more and more . Even when I crave for masturbation or "hot pics" my mind doesn't start fantasizing. Only when I escalate or after relapse the mind-porn is unstoppable.
I'm thankful for that positive effect of rebooting!
What a struggle to finish this post without clicking on a new tab and going for edging!
It teaches me how important it is to stay away from the dangers alltogether.
This is my fire wall, my last resort. I hope not to come here back too soon. And that I can celebrate next time instead of problem talk.
I'm also grateful that I could tell you this.
I go for a walk now.
You are real funny, dawg! LEL
We all gotta have a chuckle now and then
100 days challenge, you sure about that? What's your best record bro? I'm looking for someone to challenge with.
Awesome! My longest time without is 58 days. I was aiming for 100 days that time as well. . .
I'm backkkkkk!!! Okay I never went anywhere, but I kinda gave up on this thread because very quickly in the rebooting process I had difficulties going past around 3 days, which then progressed to around 7.
I am now comfortable in my abilities to make it to 90 days! I will past my best streak in a few days and feel like there is no going back. I realize I can slip up very easily, because when I relapsed most of the times it was very quick, no binging, just, o, take a peak, it won't hurt you! I have to be on guard better and this time when the urges hit, learn to fight back and not give in.
Edging used to be my worst enemy, because part of me thought, even after educating myself on the dangers of edging, that it's not bad, because I wasn't doing it nearly as much as my previous, non-nofap pmo sessions (say that ten times fast!!! lol ), but after a disgustingly long edging session to soft-core pictures for about an hour, with no mo, I felt horrible afterwards and for a few days after as well. I KNOW it was from the dopamine release, and that was all it took for me to stand up and say NO MORE!
When you finally start to realize you have a problem, you can then begin recovering from it. If you haven't noticed by my tone in this post, I am in an extremely good mood and am so excited about the possibilities my life is going to hold now that I am fully on my journey to live a life free of pmo. I'm just going to leave this here because when I saw it on the panic button I busted out laughing my ass off because I could hear him singing that! It feels amazing to find humor in little things like this again!
100 days? I was thinking about 90 to start but ...challenge accepted!
Today is a great day, but feeling like I need to MO. Why?! It's like I just get bored every few weeks. lol
It's like nostalgia, we remember the good times and want to live them again. Don't forget our brains are hooked to pmo or just mo, it's going to use every trick of the book to get what it wants, be it pmo or just mo. My advice would be to always stay busy, I try to see my friends as often as possible and go for walks because I know I can't mo in their presence or in the cold nordic winter nights. XD Discover new hobbies, wear a belt. lol I found that by putting a belt, I have to take it off to take off my pants and that works as an additional security where the urges be too strong. It takes a few seconds to take off a belt, maybe just enough to save you from relapsing.
Don't give up, 6 days is good and you said it yourself, today is a great day! Don't ruin it by MO.
100 sounds more of a feat to me than 90 even though its only 10 more days hahaha
oh and good luck
I feel like a looser but I have to report that when I went out it got worse, I started fantasying and at some point I gave in to it. Later I relapsed.
I feel so devastated today. Reporting this, I realize: depression is not allowed. I have to get up and take measures
1) Why didn't I fight the urges with the usual weapons? I don't understand. My fucking brain! After going for a walk I could have taken a cold shower, doing sport, listening to loud music or try to meditate.
- I will put a bowl of hot pepper on my desk. When in really bad urges I will burn them away.
- I need a special towel for cold showers, always visible. So that I'm ready to take a cold shower at every moment
- I didn't use my push-up wheel for weeks! It's another tool to cast urges out
2) my room is a mess. it reflects my whole situation. pending tasks and problems are just to be tackled but my "strategy" is to fall out at some point and then make it all worse. Porn is the symptom that f*cks me up even more.
Today I will make a plan to get me out of this mess. I will tank some energy then work, no distractions!
3) I'm a hypocrite. And I'm the king of hypocrites when it comes to porn. I managed to be always aware of my behaviour when it comes to arousal. But before PMOing it's as I'm a split personality.
I don't want to be a hypocrite anymore!
Ahhh man. . . it is a tough game hey Jodokus!
Try not to beat yourself up!
Take a deep breath and change, I believe in you
I find that I tend to feel rather powerful (strong willed) when I am exposed to something arousing and I tell it no.
It is very challenging to SAY NO and STICK TO IT.
Yet I believe the more we say NO and ACT!! the easier it gets.
Even at the start (maybe a week after a relapse) it could be beneficial to temp yourself and then after feeling the urge STOP.
Even this early in the process,
I think its very very important to acknowledge that yes we will be tempted and yes we will feel horny and yes we will fantasize.
Acknowledge these things.
Allow yourself be tempted. . . and then shout NO in your mind.
Challenge Accepted Bro!
I'm gunna go ahead and start this 90 day thing now...
Anyone up for a 17-day challenge (until Sunday the 7th of February) ?
Lucky I'm not fighting this alone. I'm going to watch my diet since I feel eating too much meat gives me urges. I found success when I lower my meat consumption (especially red meat).
When school starts next week, I will be more busy; Combining with exercise, diet, and pray, I believe I can beat my best 26 days record.
Being in college sucks, summer is coming and...I have to keep my eyes above the horizon to avoid things I don't want to see. You know what I'm talking about.
Anyhow, Challenge ON!
I'm intrigued! I wonder why that is. I haven't noticed it in myself. I'll keep an eye out. Cheers
This is my first post here infact i just signed up.
its my 21 day (started at new year) and its not easy. (best so far)
I have few ques..
1) Though I completely stopped watching porn and masturbating to it BUT does stroking your morning erection comes under PMO???
2) And thinking and playing with peter comes under PMO??
I gues from PMO , I have stoppped P and O