That's really sad, I'm so sorry for you. if it gives you any solace I use to be the same way. it took me a long time to figure out that what's important to kenzi is important to me. I realized that I chose her, all her worries, all her concerns, everything. when something bothers her or something hurts her it also hurts me. you're not insignificant and your pain is real. I hope he can become a man and be there for you. I read this in an article yesterday. Boys take. Men give. Boys create problems. Men solve problems. Boys complain. Men figure it out. Boys pout. Men endure. Boys blame. Men own. Boys wish. Men do. Boys start. Men finish. Boys stiffen their neck. Men bend their knees. hope this helps you.