all people have such yearning for the intimacy only sexual powers can create, this is the 'love' they seek. People usually bond with their mate with sex, but obviously higher beings can bond in this way without actual intercourse. That is the real purpose of the universe, what other purpose could there be. ourselves are defined by how we are viewed and perceived by others. how the external universe views us is what we really are, or at least creates the pieces of the totality of what we are. We obviously can feel how people view us externally, we sense it and this makes us feel horrible or great. avoiding flapping obviously gives you greater sexual powers but you can still use those powers for evil which in the end can do bad to your soul but power is usually a good thing, but you will surely gain enlightenment and greater control over your thoughts which will obviously make you do the right thing, whatever you perceive the right thing to be.