Just dont know how to stop

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ak47_uk

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everytime i try stopping I always end up back to square one and relapse. Its like I know porn is wrong but my mind just doesnt accept its wrong. Soon as I go facebook look at some hot friends im fapping away and start looking at other stuff like instagram etc then end up in porn.

I even ended up not logging onto this forum for months as I relapsed. I need some real help, just dont know what to do
 
Clearly you see the route of terrible ideas you keep going down, now you just need some backbone and some willpower to follow through with not making the detour. You need to sit down and decide if this goal is truly worth your time and dedication, if you're not 100% dedicated then you might as well go back to PMO because you will do nothing but fail and be discouraged until you hit bottom.

If you decide this is what you truly want then the answer is simple....STOP DOING THAT. Consider all those sites blocked, you no longer WANT to go there because it only causes problems, no bullshit excuses for yourself, you know you shouldn't for any reason go to any of those sites, period. You need to actively stop thinking about the past and porn in general, by forcing those thoughts out, you increase your willpower and over the course of a few weeks you put that little bitch of a brain into it's place and it will start to behave. You will still have moments here and there but they will be gone just as quickly. End of the day you can only rely on yourself, no one here is going to be there for you in the moment, this challenge is 90% mental, if you don't lock your brain down you will never streak high.
 
zeekland said:
Clearly you see the route of terrible ideas you keep going down, now you just need some backbone and some willpower to follow through with not making the detour. You need to sit down and decide if this goal is truly worth your time and dedication, if you're not 100% dedicated then you might as well go back to PMO because you will do nothing but fail and be discouraged until you hit bottom.

If you decide this is what you truly want then the answer is simple....STOP DOING THAT. Consider all those sites blocked, you no longer WANT to go there because it only causes problems, no bullshit excuses for yourself, you know you shouldn't for any reason go to any of those sites, period. You need to actively stop thinking about the past and porn in general, by forcing those thoughts out, you increase your willpower and over the course of a few weeks you put that little bitch of a brain into it's place and it will start to behave. You will still have moments here and there but they will be gone just as quickly. End of the day you can only rely on yourself, no one here is going to be there for you in the moment, this challenge is 90% mental, if you don't lock your brain down you will never streak high.
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Of course I want to acheive the goal, I understand what you are saying. Just find it so hard not to use a phone or ipad etc. I thought giving up p was hard enough but when p m and o it multiplies the difficulty.

I have decided today is the day im giving it my best shot. Just cant believe im so week. Im going to try finding other activities to try keeping busy. I think my biggest weekness is when im alone my brain just pings and says alone alone alone, time to wank wank wank.
 
ak47_uk said:
everytime i try stopping I always end up back to square one and relapse. Its like I know porn is wrong but my mind just doesnt accept its wrong. Soon as I go facebook look at some hot friends im fapping away and start looking at other stuff like instagram etc then end up in porn.

I even ended up not logging onto this forum for months as I relapsed. I need some real help, just dont know what to do
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Get rid of Facebook. And stop looking at this as a test of your willpower. You're relying on your willpower to quit. Don't. Willpower alone IS NOT GOING TO CUT IT. You will fail if you put yourself into a situation where you are alone with your computer. You will fail if you keep going to facebook. So, fix it. Make it difficult on yourself to even end up in a situation that puts you alone with something that could give you P, and make it so damn hard to get on facebook that when you are in a situation where you are alone, its not really an option. You have to put down some roadblocks to stop your "future self" from relapsing. You cannot rely on yourself in the "now" to be able to stop yourself: that is why you are addicted in the first place. I eventually resorted to not even keeping a computer in my house, and switched to a flip phone to quit. I knew if I didn't I'd keep relapsing, because my willpower alone was not strong enough to fend off the powerful urges that can hit. This is a battle my friend, and going into a fight unprepared is going to have bad consequences. Even if you are prepared its not easy! Be prepared to take drastic steps to win!
 
Invictvs said:
Get rid of Facebook. And stop looking at this as a test of your willpower. You're relying on your willpower to quit. Don't. Willpower alone IS NOT GOING TO CUT IT. You will fail if you put yourself into a situation where you are alone with your computer. You will fail if you keep going to facebook. So, fix it. Make it difficult on yourself to even end up in a situation that puts you alone with something that could give you P, and make it so damn hard to get on facebook that when you are in a situation where you are alone, its not really an option. You have to put down some roadblocks to stop your "future self" from relapsing. You cannot rely on yourself in the "now" to be able to stop yourself: that is why you are addicted in the first place. I eventually resorted to not even keeping a computer in my house, and switched to a flip phone to quit. I knew if I didn't I'd keep relapsing, because my willpower alone was not strong enough to fend off the powerful urges that can hit. This is a battle my friend, and going into a fight unprepared is going to have bad consequences. Even if you are prepared its not easy! Be prepared to take drastic steps to win!
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Yes to the above. Also to what you said in your post above about finding healthy things you enjoy to replace PMO. In addition, get yourself into a good daily routine in which you take care of yourself. Finally, as someone else said above, journal here often. You need to continue with some of the deep reflection you've done to work things out. As you can see, you have guys here who will encourage, give advice, and even dole out the 'kick in the pants' that one occasionally needs. I've been addicted for 35 years. If this lammo can make some progress, I'm sure you can put your nose to the grindstone and do it too.

Pick up the shield and ax. Don the viking helmet, and forward to the fray my friend!

AAAAAAaaaaarrrrrrr!!!

HD
 
Im seriously considering the flip phone option or basic phone or even no mobile phone. Anyway first 24 hours almost complete, no pmo for day 1. I will journal my progress on here, thanks for all the advice. I need to somehow do something else when alone, its these alone spells that get me going simply because I know I have the tools and time.

I will keep you guys updated on progress, thanks once again.
 
If you are alone a lot you must have blockers on your computer. And flip phones aren't bad, I have one because I always had one. I never owned a smartphone and don't want one. Good luck and keep reading and posting.
 
ak47_uk said:
Of course I want to acheive the goal, I understand what you are saying. Just find it so hard not to use a phone or ipad etc. I thought giving up p was hard enough but when p m and o it multiplies the difficulty.

I have decided today is the day im giving it my best shot. Just cant believe im so week. Im going to try finding other activities to try keeping busy. I think my biggest weekness is when im alone my brain just pings and says alone alone alone, time to wank wank wank.
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You don't have to give up the devices, just stay away from the sites and places you know you will relapse at. Willpower is the only tool you need to do this, you just need to start training it and it will get stronger. If you jerk off at night then start a new routine to break up the old one, go read a paperback book or cruise nofap trying to help others or encourage those in your same situation. I use to do my handy work at night, so I row 5000-10000m every night instead during the 30-40 minute window I would have normally fapped. I hardly even think about porn anymore, it's not a crutch to me or a reminder, it's just something I use to do and no longer want to do. I know it sounds stupid but when I fully dedicated to this and deleted my decade long stash something clicked in my mind and it's been cruising speed ever since, this is why I throw out the 100% commitment, because it has worked wonders for me so far.
 
I been on porn since i was 14, started with the mags from the spar shop that they allowed me to buy. I think they even knew i was underage at the time but where just interested in taking the money. Im going to find this so hard, but im determned I will stop.
 
You have to stop it, Some time erectile dysfunction also responsible behind it. So you have to reduce it first.
 
jacklury said:
You have to stop it, Some time erectile dysfunction also responsible behind it. So you have to reduce it first.
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I already have this jack cant get excited with the mrs. Only to curvy ladies on instagram/porn etc. Milfs are another weakness
 
ak47_uk said:
I already have this jack cant get excited with the mrs. Only to curvy ladies on instagram/porn etc. Milfs are another weakness
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I sure know how that is.Sometimes I feel like a horny old man that wants a young hot chick, just like Harvey Weinstein. Giving up jerking off and looking at porn seemed to help this old guy
 
zeekland said:
cruise nofap trying to help others or encourage those in your same situation
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Doing this reminds me of where I've been and what I'm trying to accomplish. Helping others helps me and gives me strength.

Good suggestion bro,

HD
 
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