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Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by vpapor81, Dec 3, 2014.
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Hmm, well congrats on getting "laid". But is having sex really a success story? You speak of all the benefits of your story purely from the perspective of "getting laid". You mention nothing on whether you actually like this girl, other than the fact that she's willing to have sex with you.
Also please use the Not Safe For Work tags in your post. Some people here may find some of your comments triggering and/or disturbing.
Congratulations, Bro! Having a good sex instead of PMO is a great success How long were you abstaining from PMO?
This story seems odd on this website. I'm glad this method is working for you.
I definitely agree with NoBrainer. But then what.. It might not be best to post stories about sexual experiences on a site about abstaining from watching Porn. I feel we come here to not think about it. Maybe this is more of a relationship post then a success story,
She is a girl and like you were indicating she cares about you as more of a person than a fling or as that guy who is good in bed. The way you write this it didn't seem that way to you. Think about it.
Sorry if my post seemed "odd" on this website for some of you. Its my understanding that alot of people come to this website because of porn induced ED so I thought posting my experience would be beneficial to some. I apologize if it is triggering to some I dont really know the etiquette on the website or how to use those tags but I made a warning at the top of the post. I didnt include my personal feelings for the girl because frankly I felt no need to share that with any of you and it simply didn't come out when I was writing my post. I guess that may have come across as shallow to you guys but thats not where I was coming from.
THe point of posting was to show how even someone as fucked up as me stuck in solitude and isolation for so long can have such a dramatic change in circumstance in as little as 30 days no pmo. Because alot of people complain that wet dreams set them back during their reboot I included that info as well Im sure that part was also maybe odd to some. Anyway I meant for the best and felt like I got flamed....
I don't think anyone flamed you. They just had follow up thoughts on what you wrote and a recommendation to carefully look at what can be triggering. Imo you should post it back. I was just about to read it.
Keep it up. It would be beneficial to post feelings for the girl as well.
You're alright, mate. You got excited about an achievement, I'm still learning the etiquette as well. It's really exciting to hear that kind of success story, and to know that your life is moving in a positive direction with someone that's being so understanding and patient with your troubles.
Fewer details is always safer, I would just tag your post with NSFW or Triggers if you're going to talk about anything specifically. It's very easy to focus on the problem when these kind of things come up, and understandable that you'd think that sharing the mechanical details of your experience would be helpful. I hope that you and this girl are good for one another as you sound, just don't let your life revolve around the issue like it seems you have been. There has to be more in your life than what you reject.
I also think that David might be right in suggesting that this go in the Relationship forum. That might be a good place to recount your progress with her as you guys grow and develop. Never forget who you're doing this for, mate. Self-motivation will last the marathon, cause you'll always have yourself.
I thought it was great to read about your progress! Having suffered from Ed myself for a while, I would be really happy if were you! Keep it up!
I also think you should put the post back up.
At the top of the rebooting section there is a pinned post by Alexander (Nofap creator) on how to use the Not Safe For Work (NSFW) code.
Though you clearly mean well, some of your advice is unorthodox. [NSFW]For example: putting a finger up your arse to clear your prostate would constitute as anal masturbation for some![/NSFW]
Despite your best intentions your initial post did come across as shallow. It came across as though you were still thinking of this girl from porn's perspective: ie have sex, who cares about your feelings for her etc. Including your feelings for her would greatly improve how the post reads.
Congrats on your 30+ days so far! Keep going!
Unfortunately I didn't get a chance to read the post before it was removed. However, I agree in part with most people that NSFW or Triggers tags should be used if you're going to post details about sex.
Still, I think that it doesn't really matter if you had feelings for the girl or not. Everyone of us in this website wants to quit PMO, but we all have different goals. If your goal was to not get ED anymore to have sex, then good for you. You have achieved your goal and I think people shouldn't be trying to change your mind implying that to be free from P you need to have feelings for someone. You will have feelings when you find the right person to have them for, not for any girl you just want to have sex with.
Congratulations on your 30 days!! Keep counting