Just had anxiety attack, I need advice

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  1. Fenix Rising

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    I've just had panic attack after experiencing severe general anxiety for hours. My heart started racing and my pressure in head skyrocketed. I started to sweat and shake uncontrollably. My vision became distorted and I couldn't think clearly. It felt like fog has covered my mind, if that makes any sense. I managed to calm down with deep breathing 5s inhale, 5s hold, 5s exhale. I was very close to relapsing, just to calm f... down.

    The point I'm trying to make is that I've entered prolonged general anxiety state in last few weeks of hardmode. I'm so anxious that nearly everything derails me. I can't have live conversation with friend without holding my breath, body tension building up, hands shaking… Described panic attack was caused by a phone call from a neighbor telling me about potential job offer. Really nothing to freak about, maybe even positive news, but it totally freaked up mentally.

    I came across this article https://www.psycom.net/when-panic-attacks-how-to-stop ( here I read how to calm down), saying that "a person with obsessive-compulsive disorder may experience a panic attack when their schedule or compulsions are interrupted and for someone with generalized anxiety disorder (GAD), a condition characterized by extreme fear or worry, the unending anxiety can escalate to a panic attack." PMO is compulsive behavior disorder and I'm very anxious person by nature, but not so much. Is that what is meant when they say that underlying unresolved psych issues resurface in "hardmode"? I'd normally resolve such tension with going for a run, but I couldn't do it because of injured leg. I thought "hardmode" would give me more self-esteem, but the opposite just happened, my ego is shattered, even worse than 3 months ago. F... this is brutal.

    Did you experience anything similar during your recovery and if so how did you cope with it?
     
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  2. ForeverStronger

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    Don't know if you know this technique, 4-7-8 breathing technique, but it might help, bro.
    I used to use it for anxiety, however, i got passed that with eating healthy.
    Hope you feel better.
     
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  3. Gota

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    I used to have panic attacks in my early 20's when I worked in a night shift and was not able to sleep every third night. Back then I didn't knew what the panic attack is, just had a brief understanding that something is wrong with my nervous system. I learned to cope with them by concentrating my attention to breathing during the panic attack breathing deeply and slowly. It lasted for few years, then slowly disappeared. Interestingly I still have panic attacks when I need to write in public (filling the documents in the bank, etc.).

    I don't get panic attacks during 'hardmode' reboot, but sometimes I have 'anxiety attacks', these are even worse... Usually I get them in the night and mornings, just after I get out of bed. I suddenly feel hot flashes and very intense sweating, in most cases I almost pass out (I need to lay down asap to prevent fainting). I usually get such anxiety attacks after I have strong stress the day before. The worst part is that they are impossible to stop. After every attack I feel very bad physically and mentally for 1-2 days. I started to get such attacks after going 6 months of 'hardmode'.

    I described more symptoms of this in this thread:
    https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...-with-heat-waves-6-months-without-pmo.153479/
     
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  4. try this technique called "54321"
    • Name five things you can see in the room with you.
    • Name four things you can feel.
    • Name three things you can hear right now.
    • Name two things you can smell or taste right now.
    • Finally take one deep breathe in
    get good at Meditating its probably the best thing you can do to manage a panic attack it has helped me many times

    and drinking drinking alcohol can have me feeling normal the next day but i have not had many axiety attacks and only tried this once and it worked.
     
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  5. Fenix Rising

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    Thanks man for sharing. I can relate to the symptoms very much. It's overwhelming anxiety, existential "angst" of all life anxieties about bad future prospects culminating in one moment. I really need to do something about it or I'll be back in static binge no future PMO rabbit hole in no time. I f... up so many things in life by not actively addressing them. It horrifies me. That's why I've craved for numbing "I don't give a f... attitude" binge PMO has given me. It really was a drug to numb the pain. It's easy to read about it, but you don't truly understand it, until you experience it.
     
  6. Fenix Rising

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    Thanks, I've written in on a piece of paper to have it at hand when/if anxiety attack strikes again. I'll return to Yoga classes ASAP to practice meditation, I need them more then ever. As for the alcohol, it does calm me down, but I don't want to drink it. People become addicted by self-medicating with alcohol.
     
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  7. Fenix Rising

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    Thank you ForeverStronger. Deep breathing helped me calm down. I'll try to practice 4-7-8 breathing technique.
     
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  8. Gota

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    Getting back to PMO won't help you long term. Panic attacks will pass with time. These anxiety issues are really hard to handle, but they will subside. I think when we abstain from sexual overstimulation our nervous system becomes very vulnerable and sensitive, but it must adapt to new circumstances (life without PMO). It just requires time and patience. Personally I see some progress, even it's very slow and takes months to notice.
     
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  9. Vir Rex

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    About a month ago, I was going through two weeks of panic attacks, which I've never experienced before, because I had to deal with my crippling fear of death. I was able to resolve this by talking to my parents, my brother, my sister, my friends and even my boss, which led me to become a Christian. Ultimately, I was confronting my death anxiety, which I tried to ignore for all these years with drugs and masturbation, that only be beaten by confronting it directly and completing any lingering duties in my life, such as my Senior Thesis.

    The problem with these anxiety attacks is that it will feel like you will be stuck there forever. It's a horrible feeling but everyone needs to go through Hell to get to Heaven. Remember that you have your family, your friends, and us Fapstronauts to help you get through this. In a world where it feels like we are alone, it's relieving to talk to others who are suffering with anxiety as well.

    Also, you need to give up all recreational and stimulant drugs; yes, even weed and alcohol and caffeine. These substances are preventing you from dealing with your anxiety, which is probably tied to a deeper existential question that you haven't answered yet.
     
  10. Fenix Rising

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    This forum and all good people on this site is really a godsend to me. I'd never be able to fight this battle alone. You can't talk about these things with people who don't even know that problem of PMO exist. Part of my existential fears is related to my family. I lost my both of my grandparents and my father in last decade. I'm the only child so only relative I have is my mother now. I understand dying is a part of life and I accept it, but I'm really afraid of being alone in this world. I can't explain it why, because I've always been quite introverted person, but somehow thought of having no one close to me terrifies me. I'm not afraid of my own death, but I'm terrified my prospect of living all alone.
     
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  11. Vir Rex

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    Thank you for sharing your story with me.

    Being social creatures, we humans need to interact with others in order to survive. It's not only an evolutionary advantage but it is also how we live life; we need others to witness our glories, and vice versa, and to affirm that we exist. Not meeting this need, especially when our generation is trying to substitute social interactions with technology, has caused depression and anxiety to skyrocket.

    Loneliness is complicated because it comes in many flavors. Sometimes loneliness is a hunger for platonic friendship, people who share your struggle and you can form a brotherhood with, while other types of loneliness is a yearning for romantic friendship with a woman. Your goal is to figure out which social needs that you have which are not being fulfilled.

    I would recommend checking out the "Loneliness" subforum on this website for being able to solve this fear of being alone: [https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?forums/loneliness.30/]
     
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  12. JohnnyWho

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    Are you on meds? Based off of what you are describing, it sounds like you might have moderate to severe anxiety disorder. I have this same issue and my psychiatrist just recently had to take me off of SSRI antidepressants, and he switched me to Wellbutrin. Since being on the proper medication, I haven't had any panic attacks and have only had fairly minimal anxiety (except when I am going through PMO withdrawal in the middle of the night, but not to the point of panic attacks). Don't be afraid to go see a doctor/psych.

    Also, the above-mentioned breathing techniques do help with the onset of panic attacks.

    I hope you get better man, and keep sticking it out!
     
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  13. Gota

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    I feel very much the same. My mother is my only close relative and everytime I think about her death I get paralyzing anxiety. For a long time I was not able to understand the real causes of my fears, only after I abstained from PMO they all came to surface. I'm still in the process trying to accept this and sometimes it looks like I will never will succeed. But I believe I will addapt somehow, even it's very hard. My psychiatrist says it's related to childhood abandonment traumas, this is why we fear abandonment and loneliness so much. Actually most of my anxiety attacks comes from the fear to lose my mother.
     
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    Thank you for recommendation, I'll look into it. I'm aware that social interactions are crucial to our wellbeing. I just can't force myself to me more social. I know I should be, but even making a phone call has become stressful for some reason. I do force myself to go out with few friends I still have, but I can't really "connect" with them anymore. Abstention, as painful as it is, has uncovered my problems and is forcing me to think and start working on them.

    Thanks man for good wishes. I'm not on meds. The only thing that really helps me immediately with anxiety is Helex (alprazolam) but doctors say this drug should be taken only when one gets panic attack because it's highly addictive (benzos) and you need to up your dosage to continue to work if you take it continuously. It really helps me big time, but I prefer not to take it, because I0m afraid I could easily become addicted to it. It's the best thing I have ever tried to elevate anxiety, including alcohol and drugs. I can easily see taking it every day, that's why I'm scared of it. I had a few sessions with psych long time ago, but really didn't "connect" with her. She said I clearly suffer from some deeply buried disorder, but that she can't find diagnose for me and doesn't really know how to help me without years of talk therapy (not covered by insurance). She offered me SSRIs and some antipsychotics (saying that it will help with my compulsiveness but make me a little sick as a side effect). I refused the drugs and that was it. I read that SSRI work only 40 % of the time Vs. placebo working 30 % of the time and can have some serious side effects so I choose to do exercise, vitamin D3 and Omega 3 fatty acids instead. It's not a magic pill but it helps a bit if I'm disciplined enough to do it on daily basis (which I'm often not). I'd love to do CBT therapy, but I can't afford it. Insurance only covers one session every 14 days and I can't afford to pay for private sessions right now.

    I understand you. I don't know if we fear loneliness because of some deep childhood trauma. I'd say it's normal human condition not wanting to live lonely life. We're social beings and thought of having no one left to share your fears and happiness with is terrifying for most of us, I believe. Death of your parents is probably easier to accept, if you have your own family. Sure we have friends, but I can't imagine sharing my deepest fears with them.
     
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