Kamasutra and female sexuality

depends on your intention, doesn't it? and the way you interpret and process the content of the reading within your mind.

can you summarize in a paragraph all that you learned in a meaningful way? can you provide any enlightenment on the topic without going into the trigger warning territory? try paraphrasing and see how your mind computes the memory into a presentation for the purpose of teaching what you learned to an audience. if you have a lot of difficulty even producing one or two sentences that contain coherent knowledge then you were not paying attention to the wisdom but consuming the shallow details for mental masturbation.

this is all speculation on my part. i think that it's important not to demonize arousal in itself, but to carefully analyze the mechanism that got us there.

 

Not a relapse but I would not recommend it as it triggers you. You should focus on rebooting. One day you can safely read that stuff but give your reboot some more time first.

 

I bought a copy during my last long term relationship a few years ago. Like most people when I opened it I expected it to be filled with hundreds of mind-blowing sexual secrets. Unforuntately (or maybe fortunately) that isn't the case.

It turns out Kama means something like 'pleasure' in a very general sense in Sanskrit. The sages who wrote the book believed that Kama (pleasure) was an important part of a life that is ultimately fulfilling. A fulfilled life ultimately end in moksha (liberation).

The book covers a lot of different areas like foreplay, flirtation, finding joy in the spontaneous and building emotional intimacy. I found the English translation to be a little over-wrought in terms of its heavy stylization.

At the time I was really just hoping it would teach me how to pipe my gf so good that it would help us overcome the fact that we were emotionally incompatible. It didn't. But now that I think about it, there was probably a lot of more valuable lessons I could have learned from it.