Karezza: sex without O

Thank you, I have been reading a lot in the SOS group, even thought I don't post much, it has been a great help for me to understand what was going on, what I was feeling and how to really cope with everything that has been happening lately... I am so grateful for this!

 

@Taosbiker have you read this yet sir?

 

Excellent post.

 

I'm pretty sure my wife and I did this on accident for about 50 days while I was doing a hard mode reboot. Finally we couldn't resist each other anymore and both O'd. Afterwards we felt a little more distant from each other and our communication and passion has been worse since then, and we were both pretty confused about it.

I remembered reading about this at the beginning of my reboot, and it popped into my head today after more miscommunication between us. I realized that when we were doing hard mode, we were still very intimate, just not having sex, and our passion and connection was amazing. We had never felt so close to each other, and I think both of us just attributed it to me no longer looking at P. This is starting to make a bit more sense now though. We just constantly had that feeling of pleasure without the final climax happening.

I want to bring it up to her to day and see what she thinks. I think this could really help us with the fact that I seem to have a higher sex drive than her. If we can remain intimate without actually having climax, we will both be able to be satisfied with the our intimacy.

I wonder if there is a middle ground. Those fifty days without O had so much passion between us, but honestly the sex at the end of it was pretty awesome too. Maybe sex needs to be a buildup of multiple days/weeks of karezza and then when you can't resist it, you don't have to. I'm just thinking out loud kind of but this is really interesting, and I'm anxious to try it out!

 

I am yet to learn about karezza... But there is a lot of discussion about hiw many women who never experience O, and how men were quick to have it leaving the female partner unsatisfied. At least I ran into lot of jokes and critic about it in my earlier sexual activity days.
I am just thinking aloud here... Not trying to justify

 

I have never heard of this but My wife and I have been sort of doing the same thing unintentional. I am on day 27 and we have been rekindleing our Intimacy since I came clean to her. I am unable to “O” due to my long porn addiction and other issues such as anti depressants and my age, I am 60 on the 21st. We have been cuddling and she is trying to bring me to Orgasm but we never get there. I have been thinking I should just do hard mode for a faster recovery but I like the intimacy. So I am going to check out your link. I am still not sure if I should do hard mode...Frustrating

 

My wife doesn't O from PIV at all, but I love giving oral and am always able to give her an O. Is that what you call ' performing ' ? I find performing oral actually quite connecting and intimate, perhaps even more than PIV. What do you think?

 

I try this but failed what to do I orgasm I did not control . How to start karezza

 

@ILoathePwife
I am currently reading 'Cupid's Poisoned Arrow'. I like the book and think it makes a lot of good points. But it all sounds a bit too good to be true.

I read your most recent journal post from Oct 2019 and I really appreciate the fact that you and your husband have been on this journey for so long and have tried many things to help your relationship.

I have a question. Looking back, how has your opinion about Kareeza and sex with or without orgasm changed since 2016? What is your opinion now?

Thanks!

 

Hae is this thread still active

 

awesome thread