keeep relapsing

Somebody here said that in order to succeed, you must hate porn.

What has porn taken from you that you cherished?

What has porn brought into your life that you despise?

You are 30 - isn't it time to decide what your life will be?

 

In my experience, @betterlife1, this is part of the process. It's the part in which we relearn over and over just how dysfunctional and unsatisfying those old habits are, in which we realize again and again just how much we want something different.

Be honest - but ever so gentle - with yourself though this. And keep at it!

 

I can very much relate! When I first started to heal from this addiction eight years ago (!), I gave myself six months to accomplish this task. At that point it had taken almost than thirty years of acting out to get me to where I was; pretty good bet to suggest six months was a bit off base!

One of my biggest struggles in recovery has been surrendering to the fact this is a long, long, long term process. In fact, the people whose sobriety I most admire all consider it a lifelong process. My face to face sponsor - what has more than seven years clean - actually says, 'I'm as addicted now as I was then, I just deal with it differently...'

All the best, then, in slowing down. In letting this process be what it needs to be.

 

I just wanted to add that I am 63 years old. You don't want to look back on your thirties and your forties and your 50s as being wasted with PMO! take my word for it, that is no fun at all.