Keep Relapsing... help

[LGR44]

I just turned 17 and have been struggling to quit PMO since my girlfriend dumped me 3 months ago. She was gorgeous and everything I ever wanted but I never could finish with her, which she hated. Also I couldnt stay hard in bed or from BJs. I didnt really realize till we broke up that porn was fucking me up. I also think I have the "death grip" problem because my dick isnt sensitive as it should be. I miss her and she told me that she missed me and has even reached out to me (I didnt contact her for about a month) but I cant get the courage to ask her to hang out because I still have this problem. So ive quit for probably 8 days tops but I keep just getting bored and making some dumb excuse. I jerked off to porn earlier today and I want to be done once and for all so I can start fucking girls again in a few months. I have been here so many times (saying ok now im done) and I really want it to end. I want to start posting frequently because I feel that it helps. I really want to go no PMO for 30 days starting tomorrow and see where it takes me. Any tips?

 

[Tested]

Well imagine P is a block to meeting girls. It upsets your game, makes you less attractive. Push P into an imaginary room and in that room contains loneliness, despair, pain. You can go into the room to use P but you will also experience those other aspects I mention. You have to start to associate P with pain. You wouldn't try to set fire to yourself, because you know burn causes pain. P is fire that we have all played with and all been burned by. You can decide to not touch it, not be burned anymore.

 

[Deleted Account]

If you watch porn mainly on your phone, like me, you've probably realized it's hard to stop. One thing I've done is use the restrictions passcode option to block porn on my iPhone. I go there, set the options to block those websites (block websites like twitter, instagram, Reddit, tumblr, and vsco because you can also find porn on these) and allow the site of nofap obviously.

Now one problem you might have is when your urges get strong enough you just put in the restrictions passcode and unlock everything. So what I've done is forgotten my restrictions passcode. In one hand I would write over and over again a random 4 digits code like 8697, and in the other with my phone I would put in a completely different passcode. This allowed me to forget it right away. Now when I have urges I sit there like an idiot trying to guess it to watch porn, but guess what, I can never get to it!

Also if you have a laptop and watch porn on there too, just get rid of it. Put it under your parents bed, or a place where people usually are. If your parents go out often and you're home alone to go get it, just go out with them. I've used this time to repair my relationship with my mother and spend more time with her. Heck I'm 20 but she seems to appreciate when I go shopping with her and help her with the groceries. It's boring but beats relapsing. Now in terms of if you're at college, leave your laptop at home. Seriously just goto the library whenever you need to use one. I guranteee you'll find your grades will get better, it's helped me.

seeing as you were having sex, it seems you aren't having it as bad as some of us. I couldn't even get hard with a girl and trust me dude when it's a one night stand it gets embarrassing when they tell people you can't get it up. I have gay rumors swirling around me etc, so believe me I know how shameful you feel right now.

I'd say no masturbation for four straight weeks, and then hangout with her. You'll 100% feel a difference in sensation. Be patient. If you feel like she'd understand or cares about you when you do hangout with her after this time maybe you should tell her what you're going through. Just remember no porn ever again! Not worth it

 

[LGR44]

If you watch porn mainly on your phone, like me, you've probably realized it's hard to stop. One thing I've done is use the restrictions passcode option to block porn on my iPhone. I go there, set the options to block those websites (block websites like twitter, instagram, Reddit, tumblr, and vsco because you can also find porn on these) and allow the site of NoFap obviously.

Now one problem you might have is when your urges get strong enough you just put in the restrictions passcode and unlock everything. So what I've done is forgotten my restrictions passcode. In one hand I would write over and over again a random 4 digits code like 8697, and in the other with my phone I would put in a completely different passcode. This allowed me to forget it right away. Now when I have urges I sit there like an idiot trying to guess it to watch porn, but guess what, I can never get to it!

Also if you have a laptop and watch porn on there too, just get rid of it. Put it under your parents bed, or a place where people usually are. If your parents go out often and you're home alone to go get it, just go out with them. I've used this time to repair my relationship with my mother and spend more time with her. Heck I'm 20 but she seems to appreciate when I go shopping with her and help her with the groceries. It's boring but beats relapsing. Now in terms of if you're at college, leave your laptop at home. Seriously just goto the library whenever you need to use one. I guranteee you'll find your grades will get better, it's helped me.

seeing as you were having sex, it seems you aren't having it as bad as some of us. I couldn't even get hard with a girl and trust me dude when it's a one night stand it gets embarrassing when they tell people you can't get it up. I have gay rumors swirling around me etc, so believe me I know how shameful you feel right now.

I'd say no masturbation for four straight weeks, and then hangout with her. You'll 100% feel a difference in sensation. Be patient. If you feel like she'd understand or cares about you when you do hangout with her after this time maybe you should tell her what you're going through. Just remember no porn ever again! Not worth it

Thanks that helps alot I should also add that by the end of our relationship I couldnt get it up for sex and had almost no sex drive