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Last 24 hours have been tough

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Shai_Halud, Dec 30, 2013.

  1. Dec 30, 2013 #1
    Shai_Halud

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    Wow, I'm about 3.5 days into my current streak and last night and today hit me hard. The good thing is I have not looked at porn or edged at all. However, I have thought of stuff I've done/want to do with the wife all day. I can feel what I assume is the slight dopamine release from the arousal those thoughts bring, but I can't get them out of my head. I assume its a minor victory that I have not looked at P, right? I just need to make it to bed time to get credit for another day, one day at a time and all.
     
    Shai_Halud, Dec 30, 2013
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  2. Dec 30, 2013 #2
    William

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    I am more than 5 months porn free, PMO free, and I still have challenging days. You are right, you have to keep the P out. Even if you looked at it, thought about it, but did not PMO, it would give you miserable withdrawals. You are right, it has to do with dopamine. Dopamine is not just released during PMO, it is released when viewing or thinking about porn, so, no porn.

    Good luck to you.
     
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  3. Dec 30, 2013 #3
    Shai_Halud

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    I agree. Resisting the urge to just catch a "peak" at porn is why I haven't relapsed yet. But what about the thoughts we all have about our spouses? is that porn as well? when I imagine/remember things we've done together, it certainly acts as a trigger, and yet its not porn. Its not a nameless face on a computer screen, but someone I know and have had in the past. Do we ever reach a point where we can MO with the spouse in mind (or even mutually, like phone sex or something), without it being a trigger for a porn rush?
     
    Shai_Halud, Dec 30, 2013
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  4. Dec 30, 2013 #4
    Wannariseabove

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    First of all know that we will have challenging days. No matter how long we have been on a streak. Recognizing triggers is how we combat those. What causes you to PMO? Once you cut off that source, your chance for success should increase.

    Remember that the goal here is if you are going to O, do it with a real person, not a computer screen. I can't see that having thoughts of your wife is a bad thing. We were given dopamine to help increase our intimacy with our spouse. I am married but it did help my withdrawls and how to handle temptation by not having sex with my wife but once a week for the first couple weeks. Now that I am looking to her for that dopamine release, she's wanting it all the time from me.

    I think we can MO with our wife. But make sure that you are aware of cravings afterwards and it will not lead to P. If you're gonna crave, just go out for a run or lift weights to release the energy. The withdrawls will go away, just stand firm.

    Good luck and stay clean

    WRA
     
    Wannariseabove, Dec 30, 2013
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  5. Dec 30, 2013 #5
    Jason2

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    There's nothing wrong with thinking about your wife, for desiring her even when she's not around. Take her to your embrace when you're together.
     
    Jason2, Dec 30, 2013
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