Learning to accept my virginity

Hi and welcome.
First thing, there is nothing to ashamed about being a 'virgin'. We live in a time that is so hyper-sexualized that we have turned what were traditional virtues on their head!

Relationships can be very painful. We all our human and subject to human error- evil, greed, selfishness.. doubt... - I 've been hurt in a number of relationships and it caused me to be withdrawn - but now as I am older i wish I had not...I think its good to be independent and confident in yourself but becoming withdrawn from others caused my PMO to escalate and just made everything worse...

 

just joined the Noo fap website (5th September 2016)

I have relapsed many times, so I decided to join a support group from today. That will help me not just be true to myself but be part of an anonymous group that share the same integrity

Last night, a fapped 3 times because I new I was going to commit to NoFap the following day (which is today)

The benefits of NoFap such as
- sexual attraction from woman
- transferring sexual energy to productive work (my school m arks)
- I just got out of a break up (not an ex but ex-crush)
And I feel like maybe.. Our connection was empty & no substance.. And it really humbled me. So I plan to become a man, because she had every right to leave a boy.

I have the book called The Magic (the team behind the secret) on my ibooks app on my iPhone (5S) and it's all about applying the Law Of Attraction into your life (28 days of practicing gratitude) help overcome loneliness/rejection

So I plan to use

- The Magic
- NoFap
- Gym (protein shakes/better diet)

To attracted my ex-crush back & to live a better life (even if she doesn't come back. I will be a better man)

I hope my journey can help your journey, because that's what we are all here for.

My purpose was my close friend (ex-crush)
My purpose in Life.. Need to be working on being ATTRACTIVE.

FAM !!! Let's work on having a passion in becoming a better version of myself !!!

LETS DO THIS !!!!

 

I'm 31 and I'm, uh, still a virgin too. Well, my situation's more common in my country, so the social pressure I get isn't really as great as yours.

I actually wanted to say that you shouldn't really feel too bad about your previous relationships. I mean, the experiences you get stays with you, but they usually stay for a reason. Usually as a lesson. Something that you look back into once you get back into building new relationships.

Well, I'm not really in a situation where I deserve to say this, since I'm single too. But I'm kinda glad that some of my past relationships failed. I can't really explain why. It's just like, things ended up actually better that way.

There's no guarantee that you'll no longer find someone. There's no guarantee that all your previous efforts were meaningless too.

 

Try to complete your goals. Be as confident as you can with your life. AND trust me, girls will come.
Just see that you have your life under control. Don't be dependent of a girl how hard it may be.

 

Yeah I agree with you. The thing is our thinking patterns bind us to the lie that having had sex/relationships/intimacy + romance makes us a better person than anyone else. And that's not true. It might make us feel more complete and better, but it doesn't make anyone necessarily morally, intellectually or spiritually stronger or better. It's hard to really see it as such but when you really line up the single, 25yo virgin with a uni degree, travelling and some certificates under his belt versus the man with a girl or two beneath his belt and a beating, feeling heart...well, there's success on both sides. And I think now (as I'm typing this) that part of this "desire" stems from a need to impress others and show off perhaps...and it shouldn't be about that. We're not losers...maybe we're being left out and lagging behind but there may be a good reason-perhaps for the better in the long run.

 

Muslim, 24 male. I m virgin too. And i m not going to lose my virginity anytime soon. Only after marriage. So even after relationship i have to marry that girl to have sex. And marriage is not easy. Its a big responsibility plus you must have enough money for marriage. So yeah i have accepted that and i move on. Just focus on your life make it better. And live everyday. Sex is not everything.

 

Only YOU can decide when to have. Your religious beliefs aside, why should marriage be a necessity? It might make things more structured but marriage and sex are NOT the same thing and don't have to belong together. No one owns the concept of marriage or sexual relations/experience outside your decision with what to do with your body.

 

it's all right to be a virgin. there are other sources of happiness than sex. nowadays we give too much importance to sex n bragging about it. its all non sense, in my opinion. having relationship is better than lust.

 

As @recoome said, society today puts way too much emphasis on sex. Imagine how much better a society we would have if we weren't inundated with the message that we need to think of sex all day? Think of the energy and time people waste obsessing over it.

 

Never too late buddy. Never too late.
But you have to work at it, everyday.

Get out and meet women. Get rejected. Come back for more. Gain ground. Get pushed back. Gain more ground. Move forward. Get rejected again. Keep coming for more. Approach. Get ignored. Approach some other girl. Get a number. Get a date. Go for the kiss. Get laid and never look back.

Pure persistence is the answer. Pure persistence.
If you accept virginity then it will never change. Never accept it.