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I have always been introverted and had very few friends in my life. I am currently 21 and for the last 2-3 years I have had only one real life friend with whom I talk every couple of months. I have trouble talking to new people, making friends, being in a group of people, having a conversation, etc. I am not really that lonely, but I really want to improve my social skills because I feel like it's a necessary requirement to achieve success in career, business, romantic relationships, and in life in general. I have neglected this issue for too long.
In September I move to another country for my one year master's degree studies and will live there alone, away from my family for the first time in my life so I feel like it will be a really good opportunity to socialize: living in a dormitory, attending different courses, going to job interviews, doing internships, volunteering, participating in festivals and other social events, joining student clubs, etc.
The problem is I don't know how to do all those things. I am scared of approaching people and introducing myself. If I am alone at a huge gathering of people I will probably just stand there doing nothing. if I manage to find a friend, it's really hard for me to sustain and develop this friendships, because I either feel like I am being too needy or like I am not invested enough. Also I tend to be a people pleaser, even when I go to the store and do ordinary stuff like that, not even mentioning situations that are actually important.
Also, I have no idea how to find time for all of that. Before, having no friends allowed me to have plenty of time for studying, self-improvement, fitness, etc. Now I have to somehow find a way to balance all of that.
So, to sum it up I feel like I am starting from zero and the learning process won't be easy. How do I overcome all of that? Books or youtube channel recommendations are very welcome, as well as any other advice.
P.S. I am doing nofap and it helps, but I don't think that it is a magic pill that fixes all of your problems in life, so please don't say something like: "Just stop jerking of man".
In September I move to another country for my one year master's degree studies and will live there alone, away from my family for the first time in my life so I feel like it will be a really good opportunity to socialize: living in a dormitory, attending different courses, going to job interviews, doing internships, volunteering, participating in festivals and other social events, joining student clubs, etc.
The problem is I don't know how to do all those things. I am scared of approaching people and introducing myself. If I am alone at a huge gathering of people I will probably just stand there doing nothing. if I manage to find a friend, it's really hard for me to sustain and develop this friendships, because I either feel like I am being too needy or like I am not invested enough. Also I tend to be a people pleaser, even when I go to the store and do ordinary stuff like that, not even mentioning situations that are actually important.
Also, I have no idea how to find time for all of that. Before, having no friends allowed me to have plenty of time for studying, self-improvement, fitness, etc. Now I have to somehow find a way to balance all of that.
So, to sum it up I feel like I am starting from zero and the learning process won't be easy. How do I overcome all of that? Books or youtube channel recommendations are very welcome, as well as any other advice.
P.S. I am doing nofap and it helps, but I don't think that it is a magic pill that fixes all of your problems in life, so please don't say something like: "Just stop jerking of man".
