Legal prostitute to fix PIED

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by ironmaing, Jul 14, 2019.

Can sex with prostitute help rewire PIED brain?

  1. Yes, as it will be with a real person.

  2. No, prostitution is artificial and too easy.

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  1. ironmaing

    ironmaing Fapstronaut

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    im struggling with PIED since I came across PMO at age of 12.

    My SO is frustrated about my PIED. Either can’t get hard, or PE, or lack confidence which makes her feel anxious.

    She’s losing her patience and in a way of supporting she’s saying I should go sleep with other women and try with her once I’m cured.

    Do you think trying to build confidence with a legal prostitute is Ok? I just want to feel confident in natural erections....and this could help with rewiring no?
     
  2. 1978

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    This is probably not a good idea.

    I've had sex with prostitutes and with non-prostitutes, and I've tended to have more problems with getting and maintaining an erection when with a prostitute than with a woman I have a genuine relationship with.

    This year I've had two experiences with prostitutes, and both times I really couldn't get an erection. With the first one, back in February, I'd been abstaining from PMO for a while, but really struggled to get an erection with her. This was largely because her manner was so off-putting. In the end, I got a semi but then ejeculated just as I was trying to insert it into her. My 90-day non-PMO streak started after that.

    The 2nd experience was last weekend. It had been about a week since I'd last masturbated. This woman was very friendly and encouraging, but the whole thing was far too rushed. I couldn't really get hard, but somehow I still just about managed to penetrate her (probably because she had a loose vagina) and successfully had sex to orgasm. It was enjoyable, but I was still troubled by my inability to get a full erection.

    With both incidents, afterwards I was able to successfully get an erection when masturbating on my own, so I know my penis is not broken, it is still able to get hard.

    Sex with prostitutes is often rushed and lacks any emotional connection, so you are more likely to suffer erection problems with a prostitute than with a woman you care about. To get an erection, you need to be relaxed and have a genuine connection to the person you are with.

    It might be worth exploring other ways to enjoy being sexual with your partner which don't rely on you having an erection. For example, karezza, or pleasuring her orally. If you can get to a point where she can enjoy the sexual experience without you needing to have an erection, you might find that your anxiety about your lack of erection fades away, and over time you might naturally find it easier to get an erection.
     
  3. AThinkingGuy

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    So with the non prositutes I had sex with, I had trouble ejaculating and getting an erection was hard, with them. I've mostly had success with prositutes whom are attractive or there is something I like about them. In your heart you might like your SO, but in your mind, you might not, and most women would not give you permission to have sex with someone else, unless they knew that they may be lacking in some area. Yeah that doesn't sound normal at all. Sex with a prostitute can be wonderful, when you lay back and talk to them, get to learn about their lives, share, pillow talk. You'll care for each other more. Prostitutes are wonderful, it's just finding the right ones. American prostitutes will be trash 99.999% of the time, no matter how hard you try. It's better to use prositutes that aren't American, as American women are the worst women on the face of the earth, followed by European and Australian.
     
  4. PeterJL

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    Help me to better understand what you are considering;

    Would it be just you and the prosititute, or would your SO be directly involved?
     
  5. MikeSilva

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    I do not like the fact that your SO is not supportive after you explained your story about porn and PIED. I think it is absolute ridiculous that she is losing her patience... she is not a keeper in this case.

    I have PIED too and my girlfriend is so supportive. She is saying that we should try whenever I am ready. We are taking slow steps and sometimes I am able to obtain an erection but we do other things for now before penetration and we are enjoying everything.

    Tell her either she is supportive and patient or she can leave and find another man. You have to stand up for yourself and should not rush it. There are no cases which I can recall which made the healing process faster by penetrating prostitutes. The healing process takes time, for some men it takes weeks l, for some men it can take 6 months or more. If she cannot wait then it is bye bye
     
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  6. Self Worth

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    make sure shes clean, talk to the prostitute about your situation, let her comfort you.

    talking about it with the girl your about to have sex with can help ease tension

    pied is porn induce ed so your saying you didnt have ed and then you watch porn and you had it or what ?
     
  7. SirErnest

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    Please don't do that to yourself, or her.
     
  8. ironmaing

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    It'd be just me. My SO doesn't want to know anything about it or that it happened. No details.
     
  9. ironmaing

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    Porn Induced ED is that by watching Porn, I desensitised myself to real sex. I can get erections watching porn but not with a real woman.
     
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  10. MikeSilva

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    How do you feel that you are not supported by your partner? Dont you think you deserve better?
     
  11. phwrancesco

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    Fix your pied alone by not masturbating to porn.
     
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  12. phwrancesco

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    Man, dont wanna sound bad but maybe she deserves better then a man who can't stop masturbating to porn. Lets be honest wit ourself a little bit.
     
  13. Self Worth

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    porn induced ed is where your having difficulty maintaining an erection or cant get one at all due to porn.

    if you can with porn but not with a woman its probably performance anxiety.

    i had pied and i couldn't with porn or woman, i just lost attraction got bored of them, that made me scared so i got performance anxiety after doing nofap my pied is gone i can get erections no problem to porn, but the performance anxiety is there so when i'm with woman i cant because fear takes over my mind, i dont think the same, i need to relax.

    just ask yourself what are you thinking when your with a woman and what are you thinking when watching porn.

    if you are attracted to woman on screen you will be way more attracted in real life so long as you don't have anxiety
     
  14. ironmaing

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    Its an important question that I keep asking myself. I definitely deserve better as I have been there during her illness. When she's frustrated she says all sorts of stuff. She has no filter. If it doesn't work out because she's not patient then it was not meant to be. I also don't want to be with someone that if I fall ill she'll bugger off with someone else.
     
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  15. Self Worth

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    maybe your fine with other woman you just need a break form her.
     
  16. ironmaing

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    Maybe, but I've been in love with this girl since over a decade. She's a unique woman but she is definitely high maintenance. A break would help, and I tried that but she wouldn't give me any space. She needs me, even though claims that she maybe its time to move on if I will never fix my ED.

    I am feeling much better about myself though and the situation. I think if I can get confidence in my erections, then I think my anxiety will be reduced enough to have sex. I will try to have sex without the aid of ED pills. I've relied on ED pills for the vast majority of my sexual experiences, it may be too much of a hurdle to try sex without them...we'll see.

    I even asked the doctor for caverject before nofap. I managed to have sex 1 and 2 times it didn't work. My ED pills/injections got out of control. The hard mode I think is helping. Which is why I'm wondering to try it with a prostitute to see if I am capable of sex with someone I don't care about.
     
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  17. Self Worth

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    like with porn your constanly getting a different woman, but your not with your SO. it could be your your just bored of her and need a different woman. could be best thing to take a break. quit porn to stop your mind getting used to constantly seeing different woman. maybe see prostitute and get back together after a month or two or do whatever you want
     
  18. Self Worth

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    who would think taking a break would bring you closer but when you actually really think about it, worries aside, that's life something gets taking away from you, you want it back, maybe that's what you both need.
     
  19. ironmaing

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    I think it would, and it has. We've been spending more and more time apart. She's just moved to my home city and has been meeting lots of people. She says that every encounter she is had with a man reminds her how important I am to her and that she really wants to make this work. She has days when she is more supportive than others. When she is in a bad mood/frustrated, then its then when she drops the hammer...
     
  20. Jimmy Johnson

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    It probably depends on if you choose one of those who act as if being your girlfriend ( this will be pricey) or one of those who are simply a sex partner. I have read accounts that the first type do help for building self-esteem for some people while I don't know for the other type.
     

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