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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by PengiLi, May 14, 2018.

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  1. PengiLi

    PengiLi New Fapstronaut

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    Hey everyone,

    I was kind of sceptical at first whether or not I should introduce myself, but I took the time to read some of the introduction and decided to share my story.

    Ever since I found out about masturbation, I never really stopped. Maybe the longest streak was about 15 days after new year, but after that I just continued to do it several times a week to sometimes daily. I have had days where I did it multiple times too. This really is starting to drain me. I noticed that after I masturbated, I get angry or frustrated quite easy. It might have to do because of how I hate myself for doing it every time and not being able to control myself. I am not that much into porn, but once I have this fantasy thought of a character or certain person, I cannot stop. It is like my brain is on auto-pilot once it crosses my mind.

    I have just started getting in the topic 'self-control' and watched a TED talk, but I really need to spend more time regarding this topic to really understand what I can do to change my behaviour. One of the things I have learned is to give up control. You should not try to get rid of the thought that comes through you mind, because that will create tension. I also read about conscious behaviour and unconscious behaviour and how you can 'plant seeds' to change your unconscious mind.

    I have yet to read the 'Getting Started' guide that I received in my e-mail, but I am faithfull. The first time I heard about the term 'NoFap' is because of a grooming Youtuber. That was a couple weeks ago. I never googled the term until now, as I really want to work on my life. As with any goal, it's not about reaching the goal, but about enjoying the journey. I look forward to start my journey here.
     
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  2. Hey @PengiLi ,

    Welcome to NoFap! You are in the right place.

    I'm just a regular member on here, so take what I say as my experience. I found that I needed to:

    1. Learn the NoFap program.

    2. Get involved with the community.

    The best resource I found was the “Getting Started with NoFap” guide. It is on the NoFap homepage and you can download it for free from this link https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/new-users-list-of-rebooting-resources.50878/

    Then, watch this video:



    It is really good and explains so much about how the blasting of porn images into the brain in high definition on high speed internet while slamming porn sounds into the ears with headphones can literally change the way your brain demands sexual stimulation.

    The video explains it better than I can.

    Also, a great page is https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/new-users-list-of-rebooting-resources.50878/ my experience is that by reading every link and watching every video, I learned so much.

    Then, I got involved with the community. I'm not anyone special on here, I don't have any magic powers. But, I can say hello to new members, post my journal entries, remember to “like” peoples posts, and offer my experience, strength and hope where appropriate.

    Looking forward to seeing you around on the forums,

    --> L

    PS - I Think of pmo like a wolf. When I stay near the center of the group and stay with the winners, the wolf has a more difficult time finding me. But, if I stop working at NoFap and stray near the edges of the community, then the wolf can pick me off.
     
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  3. For me NoFap is 1/2 program & 1/2 fellowship.

    Click on these people and post a "hello" on their profiles.

    I've found that the bricks that hold this community together are cemented with the support of the members of the fellowship.

    @I_can_and_I_will
    @JackMcWaffles
    @Mr.Imperfect
    @Inqonyama
    @Toughboy
    @romlel
    @LeoJohn
    @Gray Wolf
    @StarLightReboot
    @Chriss27
    @ludwig525
    @hoping_cannon
    @SteelshoT
    @reystronaut
    @2525

    Look at with whom they exchange messages and you will find more profiles.

    So, if you would have found more profiles yourself, why suggest these particular ones as a start? Those relationships started with just saying hello. So, my ESH is that saying hello has kept the fellowship alive for myself.

    Looking forward to your success and in seeing you say hello on these profiles,

    --> L
     
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  4. One of the ways I got involved with the fellowship was by reading some really great journals. Reading other's stories with their victories and even defeats is a big part of my program.

    I've included journals from all age groups, spiritual members, religious members, secular members, male and female. You should find journals that help. If not, look around, there are hundreds of others from which to choose. When I say "it works if you work it", reading journals is part of that work.

    Once you open a journal, click "Watch Thread" in the upper right of the page to get alerts when new posts are made. Here are just a few:

    @JackMcWaffles - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/169456/
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    @LeoJohn - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/159500/
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    @Iron Patience - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/155794/
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    @ludwig525 - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/155658/
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    @Mr.Imperfect - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/164547/
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    @GeeWhizz - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/152127/
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    @Sunshadow - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/75108/
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    @Tomoya Okazaki - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143534/
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    @Fortitudo - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/144228/
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    @Dragonnlife - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/136148/
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    There are many more, and you can discover them on your own. But, these are great places to start.

    This is a work in progress. So, if a journal has changed or is no longer active, look around there are some amazing journals on here.

    --> L

    PS - Starting a journal also helped me a great deal.

    The journals are listed by age groups on the forum start page.

    Most members run one journal only. That way both the member and others can go back and look at their journey at a later time.

    Hope to read your journal soon. Also, in your personal details you can put a link to your journal. Then, appears under your avatar.


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