Leveraging Significant Life Events

All,

I wanted to bring up a strategy I'm pursuing that has me on my longest rebooting streak yet, and see what others think. I've gone 25 days without PMO.

Not coincidentally, my baby daughter was born 20 days ago. Throughout my wife's pregnancy, I wanted to stop (in fact, it motivated me to join this forum), but I never made it beyond 10-12 days. Indeed, like most porn addicts, I've wanted to stop for many years, and have failed repeatedly. However, this time feels different.

My strategy, simply, is to think of my daughter, who so far has lived her whole life with a father who does not use pornography. This is a very powerful thought for me. If I slip up, even once, that statement will disappear forever, and I think about that whenever I find myself thinking about porn. I'm finding this much more powerful than efforts to leverage my love for someone during an ordinary time. For example, I've long felt terrible about the hours I've wasted on porn instead of taking advantage of them with my wife, but I've looked at porn for years while in a relationship with her. The newness of my current situation--being a father--is something I desperately want to link with quitting porn, and it does seem to be working. It's not just that this streak is my longest yet, but I'm finding that currents in my mind urging me to avoid porn are stronger than those urging me to use it (which always triumphed before). This is despite the fact that work has required me to spend the last week away from my family, with each evening spent alone in a room with my computer.

I've put a picture of my baby up as my computer background, so that every time I open it she's the first thing I see. This has been a great deterrent, I find. I know that many on this forum feel that quitting has to be about oneself, but I'm actually feeling pretty optimistic here. I'm excited to think about all the potential quality time with my daughter that I WON'T waste watching porn. Of course I still have a long, challenging road ahead to achieve that. Has anyone else tried to take advantage of a significant life event, whether the birth of a child or something different, in this way? I'd love to hear your thoughts or advice.