Libido and expectations

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Dreambigcities, Feb 13, 2017.

  1. Dreambigcities

    Dreambigcities Fapstronaut

    I'm a 26 year old gay guy who's keen for some changes. I've been using porn fairly regularly (4-5 times a week) since I was 12/13. In the last few years I've also been using Grindr and Scruff to talk to guys online.

    At first using porn and these apps actually felt pretty natural as an outlet for my sexuality. Now I'm not so sure and I'm certain that is has affected my ability to enjoy real sex with some guys.

    When I'm with some guys I find it really difficult to feel aroused. I think their really attractive, but I just don't know how to enjoy myself with them. This isn't the case with some guys, but I would say it's quite a few. It's like I'm used to seeing sex, but. It participating in it. Does that make sense? Even with the apps, i feel like they have given my brain to associating that with arousal and not the guy itself. I find it very disconcerting as I would really like to connect with a guy and form a relationship.

    I suppose with 14 years of porn use and also the apps it might be a little while before I recover.

    Anyone experienced/experiencing the same thing? Would be great to hear from you guys.
  2. Mateo89

    Mateo89 Fapstronaut


    What you are outlining is the very MAIN reason why basically everyone is on here lol. The damage of pornography on our brains is real. It deassociates our brains from real life intimiacy and wires us into a hypersexual artificial stimuli.

    I invite you to do some reading about what this website is about. Educate yourself on the science and check out my post.

    It outlines NoFap recovery through goal orientation and moving through phases.

    Wish you the best
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