Life changed 40 days + counting - humps and highlights so far

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by VietelJuice, Jan 1, 2018.

  1. VietelJuice

    VietelJuice Fapstronaut

    So I've decided to post for the first time at this milestone, it's been quite a ride and I just feel like sharing to hopefully help those currently abstaining, those needing encouragement and give a little back to the community that has spurred me on.

    Me --> a 27 year old guy in the UK, currently doing hard mode (no PMO). So masturbation was my crux, 1-3 times a day without fail, with the little tug n tissue necessary before sleep. I gave up porn years ago and I thought it would supercharge my sex-drive and throw my fantasies into the real world, I even tried the whole retention thing - little did I know I was just zapping away at my whole reward system and I was still as warped as ever! Social anxiety and fluttery chest, brain fog, feelings of utter annihilation after exercise (how I did as much exercise as I did I'll never know...). I use to set off fireworks in the sack when I was younger, but I've been plagued with ED in recent years (despite being in reasonable shape the whole time) and my last girlfriend complained I could just never hit the mark. Harsh? Well just imagine the kind of performance I could give now. Chronic fapping is not natural, girls deserve better.

    That's when I stumbled across NoFap and the wild claims attached. I thought if it could just live up to 10% of its claims I thought it would be worth a try. I doubt wanking has ever made anyone happy. The best description I ever heard about porn (and vis a vis masturbation) is that it is like an all you can eat buffet – seems like a great idea at the time but you never come away feeling good afterwards.

    To my surprise, the benefits have been awesome. There's been seriously hard times along the way too, but overall I feel like I'm on an upward interstellar trajectory.

    Below is a timeline of how I've found it since I really struggled at times and couldn't find information myself in this way, then ladies (I hope women can benefit from this too, honest it's awesome girls!) and gents, all the juicy gains at the bottom.

    The journey

    Prologue: 8 days strong then relapse. Ooops. I was feeling great then bam, I couldn’t take it no longer. I lasted about 5 seconds and then it was over (what a downer, worst wank ever), and felt emotionally and physically drained. However, afterwards I knew straight away I would have to really go for it!

    Days 1–14: Woooah! What’s happening? I’m hypercharged, like a bull on steroids. You feel seriously awesome. If you’ve masturbated all your life like me then this might be your first taste of real manhood, the kind of unrestrained masculinity I thought all the feminists were making up. What I imagine steroids feel like. However, the beast awakens in the midnight hours and I found myself writhing around, my mind drenched in sex (real fantasies, not the shadowy nothings you try to conjure up to lift the limp playdough) with a lump of granite which would not go away. I feel like there may have been a better way to deal with this but I just went with it without touching and quite liked it, though temptation was a *****.

    Days 15–28: Yawn, what was all that about, where did all the thoughts about the sexy naked people go? Out of nowhere things just got easier, not easy but way more manageable, like it would be plain sailing towards the 90 days (not the case).

    Days 29–35: The beast is back with a vengeance, I’m up at the small hours again with a big tent pole and my mind is like molten lava just sleazing around in circles. ~Day 35: What was that? Did I dream it? No, my leg is drenched. I’d had a wet dream, maybe semi-conscious but no touchy. I drift off into a beautiful sleep J.

    Day 36 onwards: I wake up and the birds are chirping outside my window, the heat has gone, though it slowly ratchets up and subsides still. Initially I thought I had relapsed and was unsure if I’d lose all the benefits and awesomeness I’d been feeling, which itself produced a bit of anxiety. After a couple of days I realise that isn’t the case and things are still gravy, but I feel more relaxed.

    A note about mobile phones: I’ve been hooked on my phone, waiting for that little bleep to see if it’s a tinder match, message from one of the girls I’m trying to hook up with. This has gotten worse with NoFap but may just be subsiding now. It feels like a similar addiction to fap. Has anyone got to the bottom of this?

    The results (I’ve tried to sum these up a little more concisely)

    Early on (days 1-14) – All revved up, voice begins to get lower and I’m already noticing increased attention: girls checking me out and more respect from guys. I’m noticing and attracted to people more too. Compulsively exercising and faster recovery from the gym. Skin improving (wasn’t terrible to begin with but could breakout randomly).

    Middle – social anxiety on its way down (but not gone), mindfulness on the up. Voice steadier and more resonant. Didn’t like the sound of your voice beforehand? You’ll love it now. Gym game is strong. Breakout, then skin continues to improve.

    Now – social anxiety still improving, enjoying social interactions way more and happy to strike up conversations of my own accord. The rate and reaction time for witty one-liners is up immensely, my tongue is like a pistol. Skin almost clear for the first time since childhood, spots healing very quickly. Greatly improved mental clarity, not always thinking about sex, able to focus on what I choose to.

    Also my messaging game is up immensely, despite often being fired up I actually care less about sex and can just chat to girls normally. This is working wonders on Tinder. I’m way better at teasing too and don’t feel the need to text back instantly nor get too het up if they don’t message back straight away.

    And finally…

    I’m really looking forward to the next few weeks! I hope this was useful and gives a little flavour of what you might be able to expect, though I imagine everyone’s journey will be slightly different. Keep going if you’re already on your way you’re doing great, and if you haven’t given up the fap yet just do it you’ll never fap yourself happy or fap yourself into the man you want to be – you’ll just use loads of tissues causing deforestation and the destruction of our rainforests.

    So at 40 days, I feel happier, healthier, more productive/successful and a quantum leap more awesome (check out my profile picture I’m Marlon fucking Brando J ).

    I might post some goals for the new year at some point soon too so be sure to check those out, I’d appreciate your feedback and support. I’d love to hear how your journey has gone and if you’ve had similar/different experiences.

    My last thing to say is just take it day by day, each day is a challenge you can’t do 90 days overnight! If you’re struggling just think back to why you’re doing it, make sure to enjoy the progress and gains you have made. Good luck fapstronauts!
    Last edited: Jan 1, 2018
  2. theoptimist

    theoptimist Fapstronaut

    Thanks for the inspiration. You are truly a hero.
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  3. Fabster007

    Fabster007 Fapstronaut

    It was indeed awesome inception into some cataclysmic change ahead pal - loved your expression and openness with which u garlanded your little but indeed beautiful journey that surely seems to florish into some great benefits u will righteously receive

    I am 26, this being my day 34 reading your inspirational manual at 12:15 am rolling on bed with semi drowsy beast gave me the future smart targets to go for - i really liked your how you held your urges - luckily to read your part where u shared about social issues u battled successfully like i did some time ago that indeed feels great...i am in relationships and living great fun out of NoFap guide lines and experienced frnzzz lifemanual like yours - hope u too get over ED very soon and encounter the beast relationship in bed that men like us deserve - i recommend you to go through the book u might have heard about - cupids poisoned arrow - it would ignite miracle relationship and confidence within you and then in your sex life - i made some heroic orgasmic manifestation achieved in no time - after reading reading you account i am sure you would be obliged to suggest to others who were on the same path to becoming higher version of the limited beliefs - enjoy life bro
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  4. VietelJuice

    VietelJuice Fapstronaut

    Thanks dude, good luck on your journey too!
  5. VietelJuice

    VietelJuice Fapstronaut

    Thanks dude. 34 days is a good stint, looks like you're on the right track! You've gotta tame that dragon when it strikes...

    That book sounds like an interesting perspective, I'll put it on my list and maybe give it a go. Especially if I get close to getting my ex back! She lives so far away now :(. Anyway 2018 is onto new things. Good luck bro
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  6. Trucker925

    Trucker925 Fapstronaut

    Wow this is truly inspiring to read. I cannot wait to get to this point so I can post my own success stories. I know the journey won't be easy but I want to change for the better. Keep these stories coming!
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  7. Samsagazgamyi

    Samsagazgamyi Fapstronaut

  8. hej då

    hej då Fapstronaut

    One of those rare posts that are long and still enjoyable to read.
    Thank you, I think you stopped my anxiety attack :D
  9. VietelJuice

    VietelJuice Fapstronaut

    Best of luck dude!
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  10. VietelJuice

    VietelJuice Fapstronaut

    Haha thanks :). It did get a bit long!
  11. spectra

    spectra New Fapstronaut

    Great Man, still wanna ask whats was routine? I mean how can you manage time to masturbate 3 times in your past days. Please Reply as i wanna know the situations of being lonely and masturbation ways people do.
  12. Inactive User

    Inactive User Fapstronaut

    This is awesome. Great work man, keep it up!!!
  13. stevejobsfan8

    stevejobsfan8 New Fapstronaut

    You are a nofap freak bro,what a legendary story was that! My quote is "A jerkstronaut can always transform to a Fapstronaut !" its all about the will power.
  14. Poor Yorick

    Poor Yorick Fapstronaut

    Great stuff. I've been struggling lately, and it's encouraging to read your success and the benefits. Thanks man.
  15. Kipling

    Kipling Fapstronaut

    Your post is inspirational as well as greatly written.

    Congratulations and keep going!
  16. Springjim2000

    Springjim2000 Fapstronaut

    Yay! Nicely written post man!
  17. Destroyporn

    Destroyporn Fapstronaut

    This is a great post and very inspirational. I want to regain my health. I feel I am like a old man. I can win this!
  18. VietelJuice

    VietelJuice Fapstronaut

    Best of luck dude. It's transformational! I'm on day 66 and I still struggle, think it's just one of those you have to take day by day
  19. Informative, reassuring and motivational. So easy to read. ty for sharing
  20. emmanuilteleshev

    emmanuilteleshev Fapstronaut

    I've never read anything like this before. Written very talented and the idea itself I like the fact that it is able to inspire. Thank you for this article! It reminded me of my story in which I struggled every day with one problem. In addition to the fact that I was constantly drawn to fap, I had to watch my dog every day, which was covered in tags. These unadulterated skin problems forced me to put on a hero mask and help get rid of Skin tags on dogs. This struggle constantly reminds me that we are responsible for those we have tamed. Good luck to you!
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