Life feels good again

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by Kohai, Mar 18, 2019.

  1. Kohai

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    I developed a fetish for atheltic chicks as a young boy( like 13-14 years) I stopped to get aroused by them and started workouting myself. Sometimes i would get core orgasms while sport, but after a while they stopped too, i went to gym and made good gains. I dont feel that anxious anymore toward to girls/women at my university. Girls also started to look at and notice me and speak to and flirt with me. After you see women as human and not as object of your lust, life feels so much more desirable.
    My only problem is that i get wet dreams when im stressed about exams, get less sleep, im angry or jealous on sb etc. Wet dreams really decrease some of my benefits but yea, i dont masturbate since many years.
     
  2. Pastafazool

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    Someone somewhere said that wet dreams almost always occur based on what we think about before we sleep. I can attest to this myself. For me, it greatly helps to listen to something as I'm going to bed. I typically will listen to a podcast about a semi-interesting topic to keep my thoughts away from anything sexual. This has basically resolved that issue for me.
    BTW - I also have a strong attraction for athletic chicks. It's still very difficult to ignore them and not stare, especially with the current leggings and tight fitting clothes trend. But every time I don't look I feel better about myself. Sounds like you may have also conquered this -
     
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  3. CH3RRY

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    Many here seem to feel negative about wet dreams. I don't feel any difference in my life when I have them. I dislike having them though, because they disrupt my sleep and I have to change my clothes or sheets. But they haven't affected my energy or anything. Wet dreams happen when you have abstained for a while, and also fantasizing or looking at explicit content will enforce you having one.

    Also what you said about getting your head cleared up from porn and lust is very true.
     
  4. Kohai

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    i noticed that after having a wet dream, my sleep need extented then prior. The longer i keep my semen, the less sleep i need. And there are differences in Wet dreams. There are some with precum (prostata fluid) only and also some with full semen, i call them full shots. These full shots throw me back very far in terms of NoFap benefits. The Wet dreams with precum only 3 days - 2 weeks. The more cum you lost, the greater is the throwback for me. And then the quality of the cum, if its prostata fluid, its not that bad. If its really semen, the throwback is bigger.
    For me wet dreams occur when i also fantasize/ having lustful thoughts. I stopped this behaviour as i noticed they cause wet dreams. I dont get turned on by women that easy as before . I think of woman just as meat, skin and bone so they dont turn me on anymore. Im not asexual, i just created a mindset. I started to discover true meaning of love and diminished my lust. There is a girl at my uni, we started at the same time, but i lost track to her, i failed some exams and thats why i cant go further, i lost touch to her. She succeeded most exams. I know this girl is religious and focused. Still she does have some of her bad charasteristics ( talking with too many boys, i noticed it. sexual innuendoes)
    Love is not about lust, love is more than that. That mindsets helped me to overcome my lust.
    Wet dreams for me only occur if im im much stress now, rlly, fight every stress factor so that you become harmony in your every day life. Procrastination and peerfectionism leads for me to late night leaning --> less sleep = stress --> Wet dream! I had to diminish very factor on my NoFap journey. Its not about how many days you didnt relapse, its about restrcuture your behaviours in real life. Discard your bad attitudes, grow as human. Its still important to not masturbate, thats really the most important part. But you will automatically stopped it, at least for me, its ingraved in my head. I stopped it very fast as i noticed as small teenager that i got bad memory and slower thinking which made me sillier in every aspect of life( speaking, eloquence, mogic etc). Then i got these sport orgasms and they were like relapses too. Now these wet dreams are left for me to reduce, maybe stop for good until i find my wife and marry her.
     
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  5. Kohai

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    True, lustful thoughts always caused wet dreams, its so true. I stopped fantasizing then. If you start one time, maybe wet dream will not occure immediately, but it will feed your lust and you get chaser effect. And maybe you will get later on the wet dream in 2-3 days. As i said, i regard women as bare flesh, skin and bone when i get these urges. And i always know how i feel afterwards and make me say : thats not worth it, you know it. Start perceiving women as normal human beings, lust will be gone. Shyness towards girls will also be gone. You shouldnt even see your girl friend as pure lust object. They are all souls like you and me. Actually religion is true about many aspects. Every religion was gods word to his own folks. Religion already state that lust isnt good. But religions got changed, some of them. Everybodys task is to tinker with your religion, and get the truth about it. Read it by yourself, dont let your mind get poisoned by these people who just denounce religion for sake of denouncing. They are marionettes of devil. For me, islam is true. Bible got too many changes, the origin bible is properly true. but after that the Koran was passed down because it was necessary. Every monotheistic religions is/was true i think.
     
  6. Pastafazool

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    Religion has been a major struggle for me over the years. I go back and forth and seem to always end-up in a skeptical place. The one thing I know for certain is that very powerful and evil people are worshiping demonic entities. That fact is intriguing-enough to keep my interest. I would like to commit to Christianity but I can't seem to ever get there -
     
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  7. Kohai

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    i also dont practice my religion, islam, very well. Maybe one da. But this NoFap kinda became a mental compulsion for me, i think i have to stop it. I always beat myself up, when i get wet dreams. This alone is draining all my energy. Maybe i have other problems which make me so conscientous about nofap :/
     
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  8. CH3RRY

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    I doubt wet dreams have major negative physical effects on you. It's your mindset that is wrong. You treat wet dreams as if they are bad. I just had one this morning. I still have graphic imagery in my head which triggered me having a wet dream. I was annoyed by the image I got in my head but shrugged it off and forgot about it. Now if you have multiple big wet dreams often, then I can understand how they would actually drain some energy from you. But having a negative mindset about this whole thing is what really makes you feel bad about having wet dreams. Just remember, it isn't a big deal, it's just something that happens to you at this current time of your life.
     
  9. CH3RRY

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    Man you shouldn't live your life with thoughts like this. It's just unnecessary trouble for your mind. I have a belief that most religious people are believers only because of fear. Fear of saying no to their god. Fear of being punished for their sin. Fear of being rejected by their close people. Fear of having nothing to believe in. But it isn't genuine belief. It also isn't genuine to be a believer just because you were raised by religious people. I encourage you to follow your own genuine thoughts, and give up the doubtful and fearful ones.
     
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  10. TheFlash123

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    I didn't had a that many wet dreams. But whenever it happens I woke up and then changed the clothes, and after that I can't sleep. It's not as bad as relapse though.
     
  11. Kohai

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    yep, you are fuckin true. My mindset make me feel like that after a wet dream, wet dreams effect is so little, my mindset / self-blame after having a wet dream (like im saying to myself: " i could have stop that wet dream, if i didnt just eat that unhealthy food, if i didnt have stress, then it wouldnt happen" so im searching myself reasons that i could have prevent the wet dream, im to perfectionist, and after i couldnt attain my perfection i will feel bad all the time " )

    Guys, you shouldnt even count your NoFap days i think.
    I woke up today, i managed to pass 1 exam this semester at my university, and i had like 4... This NoFap shit is true to a little degree, but its not everything, its just a small piece of a whole puzzle. Its good if you managed to overcome masturbation, it will improve you as a person and as a result improve you in every other aspect of life a little, just A LITTLE. Dont expect to get super self-confident or super smart now. You have to work by yourself for this. NoFap will just help you to get started into it, it will give you the energy and motivation to learn new things and improve. So dont waste your energy for fapping, and you can use this excess energy for other areas of your life, its that easy. That simple. No super powers. Its also not good to do excessive gaming or other useless things with this extra energy, i learned it. I would procrastinate to learn for my exam because i recently got wet dreams. Dont let your NoFap counts decide if you are ready to approach a girl, learn something or do other stuff. I made these mistakes, and now i regret it. I lost 1 semester again at university, and lost touch to my loved class mates. Not to everybody, but to the one i liked very.. and a girl who always tried to approach me, i actually was in love with her, and she seemed to like me at least. But i was dismissive sometimes ( because i thought, i wasnt worth of her. i was kinda jealous on her and i felt inferior to her. This hasnt that much to do with NoFap, but i said to myself:,, last wetdream was recently, i cant speak good with girls)
    Now i will stop this NoFap fanatism and wont make my decisions dependent on my NoFap counter hahhaha
    I hope you learned something from this, this is my current opinion. Wet dream still make me groggy a bit, i notice that i need more time to write good texts and remember things and think logical, but its little and its reversing after a few days again. Dont get so obessed with it like me.
     
  12. g2stop

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    How long does it take for life to feel good again?
     
  13. Lee Grayson

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    My second attempt at Nofap I got to around 80 days. Life starts to feel better around the 40-50 day mark, I'd say. I know it sounds like a long time but once you get there you'll be thanking yourself for not PMOing.
     
  14. g2stop

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    Thanks 40 days is a good goal to shoot for
     
  15. g2stop

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    Another 35 to go lol
     
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  16. HelplessPleaseHelp?

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    Hey man, I think wet dreams are part of the process of this whole journey of Fapstronauts.
    As long as you progress more, you learn techniques to reduce the frequency of wet dreams and of course, if you will have a girlfriend your wet dreams will diminish dramatically.

    I think that accepting ourselves is part of our lives and we should adopt this way of thinking.

    God bless you buddy.

    Good night! (at my country at least)
     
  17. yah i love athletic chicks to, especially yoga chicks with flat muscular stomachs.
     

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