Life Not Worth Living PLZ HELP!

Hopefully others will post with concrete advice about what's helped them but I'm tempted to say "wait". You are completely right that porn has hidden reality from you, but giving up porn is hard hard hard. As you struggle to stay porn free each success will teach you about yourself and slowly you will pull through this damage. Give yourself space to learn and to heal.

 

First, you're only 18 and you've discovered your PMO problem already. That is great! Many people on this forum have gone decades before discovering this important first step.

Second, being so young you're PMO problem is fully reversible. It just needs focus and determination and a bit of time.

Third, I would advise you to steer clear of therapists and the like. They will only turn you into a victim, and, worse, make you feel like a victim. Self-pity and the pity of others is not going to help you. You're the best person to help yourself. Focus and determination and a little patience is all you need. In other words - time to man up.

Fourth, you're going to have to rebuild your life without PMO. The gym is already a strong platform for this. What other things are you into or maybe into that could help with building a social circle? And you're going to have to chill a bit at work too.

Fifth, there are a few books I'd recommend: Mike Cernovich "Gorilla Mindset"; Scott Adams "How to Fail in Almost Everything and Still Win Big" - and the Carnegie classic "How to win friends and influence people". Just choose one.

By the sounds of it you'll do great...

 

dont worry man good things will come.... just have a little faith... ur problems are similar to mine...we can do this.. also plss check my journal too.. u will find tht u r nt alone...

 

Going to the gym is a nice way to stimulate that central nervous system, it will also help with your confidence, so id suggest keep going. Maybe find a diff job, if youre unhappy there. Good luck!

 

Dude you're 18? Relax. You still have a lot of time to fix your life. If you want to socialize I'd suggest join a club at gym or in your community.

 

I'm 44. I just discovered noFap about a month ago. This scourge has afflicted me for 38 years. I'm not married, and have very few close friends. The last time I was on a date was about 2 years ago. Based on these facts, I hope you can realize that your situation could be much worse. I am so grateful I finally discovered what was wrong with me. I had no clue until a month ago. Can you freaking believe that? You have won already because you realized your problem early. I have won too because I discovered my problem now.

 

First, you must realize what you have. You woke up and left the PornScape a lot sooner than most of us. That's a huge advantage.

I suggest you change your diet. That does wonders for you. (I'll elaborate later, if you're interested.)

You should also change your appearance. Find a style that fits you. Get a nice haircut. You'll also need a hobby, too. So yeah, hit the gym. Get "shredded". Drink a gallon of water a day(you'll have less urges, trust me). Then, continue to find other hobbies. You'll eventually attract more friends, and eventually even a girl. And who knows, when you become the best version of yourself with that high self-esteem, you may find that having a small circle suits you better. If you have low self-esteem, you're essentially outsourcing your duty of self-realization to others. You're not comfortable with yourself, so you desire the presents of other to distract you.

I also had to "build" myself, so I know how you feel. The road was tough, but I endeavored with conviction of steel, and I got it. I'm glad for having went through the storm. A rainbow followed. And, it was more beautiful than I anticipated.

 

Lots of great replies here

Please also consider suicide hotline

Depression is not a joke. Porn can induce these feelings and may also be a side effect of other issues.

Do you have a therapist who you can talk to?

Are you on medication?

Please do not consider hurting yourself.

Matt

 

I really appreciate your input.
Water, haircut, looks, hobbies

Your rightt

 

You are right porn does make you not want to live, also I have learned it is the root for many other afflictions like alcoholism drug use, cigarrates and gambling to name a few. So I was able to quit all this things but when got to PMO it was like the hardest thing and relapse to the other stuff was inevitable until the problem is fixed from the root.

 

Thank you. But, I would like to emphasize the importance of water. I don't fully understand the correlation yet, but a gallon a day really helps. After all, your brain is practically water.

Also, eat less acidic foods. An "alkaline diet" induces a flatline in just a few days, and lessens reboot time. I would suggest veganism for the duration of your streak, but many find that too extreme. Meat and dairy should probably be avoided for your first few days.

The right haircut can do wonders for you. Your clothing style also compliments your personality. I personally dress casually. I find that it fits me. Your look is important. It gives you confidence and others an impression about you.

 

A good book for diet: "It Starts With Food" Learning to cook cheap, very healthy meals (cheaper than McDonalds) has been one of the best things I have done for myself. The old cliche, "we are what we eat" is very wise and should be given deep reflection, IMO.

I also concur about water. Think about a can of pop sitting in your stomach, bubbling, sloshing around when you walk. We enjoy the taste for just a brief second before down the hatch it goes into our mysterious, yucky insides. Now imagine a glass of water in your stomach. Need I say more?

 

H2O is the way to go.
It also helps keep you regular,
which lightens your body,
which lightens your mind,
which lightens your mood.

Herbal tea is my favorite form of hydration,
especially with loose leaves.
I meditate on the heat
the steam
the leaves
the ripples on the surface
my breathing
the flavor
etc.

Sometimes I sip tea while on the toilet,
which I don't suggest you do.
At least don't admit to it on a public forum.

 

It sounds like you're suffering the effects of extreme brain fog. I know because I have felt similar to what you described. You have to go hardmode 90 days or maybe longer until you can feel the positive effects from the brain fog lifting off of you.

 

Also, if you feel like your life isn't worth living,
then consider helping to make someone else's life worth living,
in whatever way you can.

That will help add worth to their life,
while also adding worth to your life.
It's a two-for-one deal.