Life seems meaningless

Hi hungry shark,
I belong to those people you refer to who never were strongly addicted to PM. Actually I am just enjoying abstinence and resisting to urges if they appear. I am glad there is some flatline now also in my journey.

Reading your lines it makes so obvious to me what different background we have. You have been strongly addicted to PM for years, not me. So we are all individuals and we all have our own journey. I am sure you are doing the best thing in continuing your NO PMO journey. Congrats you were strong enough to do it for 80 days. All you need now is patience. All is well. Flatlines come and go like the clouds in the sky. Libido and urges definitely will come back. Trust!

 

It's not that once you are abstinent for 90 days, all your problems will disappear magically. 90 days is just a period of time agreed upon somewhat arbitrarily (based on anegdotal evidence). If you have been addicted to porn for a very long time, it will surely take longer to reboot. I don't know if it's true (because it's a generalisation, too), but someone said somewhere (sadly i don't remember who and where) that the rule of the thumb is that your rebooting process will take as many months as many years you have been addicted (so let's say you have been addicted for 10 years, so it will take you 10 months to reboot completely). In my opinion, it doesn't mean that you will feel like crap over those 10 months and at the end everything will magically click into place. You will have better days and worse days (reboot isn't a linear process), but overall your brain will be recovering day in, day out.

 

Dude Just Hold On,You Have Made 80 Days Don't Give up now Please.Your flatline Hopefully will end soon.Peace Out.

 

Face bigger fears

 

"What we discover in reading is a ritual which can pacify the turbulence and torpidity within our souls. It becomes our addiction, for human nature will have some addiction of sorts, and it is better to choose our own. Reading for us becomes in reality an un-reading; we learn to unread from ourselves all the falsities that had been fed to us from the earliest age, and in turn learn to savor the truth of meaning that lies beyond all words. Here-in lies true education which leads us out and frees us from the stupor and stupidity of the mass."

Maximus Scribulus

 

Hang in there bro, im on same boat.
Mine is even worse with severe withdrawal symptoms - anxiety, insomnia, panic attacks , sweating, no motivation, depression etc etc.
But I'm ready to feel the pain as someone said "you have to feel it to heal it"
Unless you are authentically present with your emotions it's extremely hard to heal.

Let your body feel these feelings, I guess it's a punishment for these addictions.
So all we can do is take punishment and hang on,
But again a question arises, when do we know we are healed?
I mean there has to be some technique to know we are healed or not?
No chaser effect is maybe one of the sign, where you do not feel to continue fapping after an orgasm and you can control your libido, what else?

 

I read this article and experienced myself after I had a wet dream that my Chaser Effect has reduced considerably,
I dint feel the need to binge fap after that night, The Urges were there but I did not had to fight them hard, it was quite easy for me to fight urges.
I dont know about intercourse, Didnt do it right now and dont intend to do since I have ED and PIED, dont want to be laughed at by her.

1. You feel like flirting with potential mates, who look a lot more attractive.

You are getting morning wood (or "semis") frequently.


I HAVE NO IDEA ABOUT THESE. I am in FLATLINE SINCE FOREVER AND GOD KNOWS HOW LONG I AM GOING TO BE.

1. For those who developed ED, ideally you can often masturbate with a rock solid erection to orgasm without porn, or porn fantasy. See When do I test?
2. Flashbacks change (in some guys). One guy said, "As time goes on, the flashbacks are from earlier and earlier porn experiences. Many that I had completely forgotten. It's like peeling back the layers."

I WISH ,,,,, I can do this.