like i am fucked up for life ..!!

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by rafsan045, Apr 18, 2019.

  1. rafsan045

    rafsan045 Fapstronaut

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    my life will be fucked up doesn't matter whatever i do .

    my life was going great . i improved my life i stopped watching porn . i joined gym . i get a part time job .. i was going good ..

    one week ago one of my aunt came to visit us and every thing got fucked up since then ..
    man she compares me with his dumb bitch son who acts like a fucking weirdo ..he acts like a idiot who does nothing but stay on his bed for all day long

    the thing is i lived my life in poverty , i dont that any more man ..i want to grow , i want to be happy . i want to be successful..


    .. and my mom thinks that he is greater then me ..she always tells me ..to be more like him ..

    fuck i dont want to be like him .. i am me .. i love myself...

    spending my life like total deep shit now i am going for some improvement and they are trying to make me that deep shit again ...

    what do i do .. now every day is like i am suffering through a mental pressure a pain that i cant explain

    help me guys i want you all
     
  2. ShyIIock

    ShyIIock Fapstronaut

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    Can i be little bit harsh on you?
    And what that your mommy thinks you should be like this or like that. Youre living your life not her. Youre trying to reach your goals not her. What do you do? Stop crying, get back on your feet a keep going. Make progress in your gym, job whenever you want. Be better man.
     
  3. Coolbreeze

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    Everybody deep inside knows what they really want. It seems to me that you are still trying to find the real you and the things you want to accomplish. But there is nothing better than just going for the things you wanna do and fall in love with the process. Bro, don't compare yourself to others. Be more ego-centric in your life and do the things you wanna do. Get a new job, hit the gym, eat well and do whatever the **** you wanna do!

    Goodluck
     
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  4. rafsan045

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    man i have tried .. but they think i am a waste of time . i doing nothing with my life .. i am a mistake ..

    how can a family think this things about there kids ?
    i changed for them .. i want make this poverty go away .. i want to make them smile ..and this how they treat me .. WOW they are great ..

    sometime i think i do not belong here
     
  5. rafsan045

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    man if want to do anything i want .they will stop me .
    i want to learn software , cyber security, app development

    but my father says to be a hardware engineer like him .. he says that software is bullshit..
    he wants me to be just like him ..

    man i have fucking dream ...what about them ?

    they fucked me up from the beginning . ]
    and its to late to start again
     
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  6. rafsan045

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    man if want to do anything i want .they will stop me .
    i want to learn software , cyber security, app development

    but my father says to be a hardware engineer like him .. he says that software is bullshit..
    he wants me to be just like him ..

    man i have fucking dream ...what about them ?

    they fucked me up from the beginning . ]
    and its to late to start again
     
  7. CH3RRY

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    It's your life, they shouldn't be able to stop you from chasing the life that you want. Are you living with them and can't move to live on your own?
     
  8. Coolbreeze

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    My friend you have been infected with a very negative view it seems to me. In the beginning it will be hard, but be positive about yurself and do what you really want to do and not what other expect you to do. After that.. motivating will start coming in piece by piece
     
  9. Before everything congratulations for being so good at your streak , I am proud on you my friend.....

    You know what , I am going though the same , the same situations... But you know what I tell myself at such times(you should too tell this to yourself)- "I AM LION, THEY DON'T KNOW MY PERSONAL LIFE ,I AM CONQUERING MY DEMONS EVERYDAY ,AS TIME PAASES I AM BECOMING THE BEST VERSION OF MYSELF... HAHAHA THESE DUMB SHEEPS CAN NEVER KNOW ME , SO LET THEM SCREAM WHATEVER THEY WANT CAUSE I KNOW I AM PHENOMENAL....".
    I think that is the thing.....
    I know parental pressure is more . You know something happened with me in my current 46 days streak too(a big family issue, I cried the entire night ) , but the best part is I didn't gave up, I kept the same spirit and again told myself pointing to the world "YOU CAN NEVER STOP ME FROM BEING WHAT I AM BORN FOR "......

    NO MATTER WHAT YOUR PARENTS SAYS YOU JUST REMAIN YOU CAUSE I KNOW YOU PERSONALLY, YOU ARE AWESOME.....
    SO WALK YOUR OWN LONELY ROAD , IF YOU ARE ALONE IT DOESN'T MEAN YOU ARE LONELY.......


    You got this , you are doing very well, let nothing stop you this time.....
    BE UNSTOPPABLE!!!!!!
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    Again if someone says they don't like you, tell them " IT IS NOT YOUR JOB TO LIKE ME ,IT'S MINE "....
    [​IMG]
     
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  10. Exactly...
     
  11. rafsan045

    rafsan045 Fapstronaut

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    i have to move out ..from this shit
    what can i do i dont have any friendly support
     
  12. DonDraper

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    I come from an Indian background, so I may be able to chime in about how you are feeling. Often in our culture, we motivate others through comparing ourselves to others supposedly "higher than them". Despite us thinking this will work, it often has the opposite effect. My parents still do this, but I don't pay attention to it anymore nor do I care about their advise. This may be hard to understand, but just "roll your eyes" and "ignore them" everything they bring it up. Reaffirm yourself that they don't know any better.

    Whenever my parents say stupid shit like this, I usually just say, "whatever, they don't know any better" and move on with my life. It works for me. Just don't pay attention to them, and they will leave you alone eventually.
     
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  13. CH3RRY

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    Make a plan for your situation, and follow through with it. You just have to accept that your parents happen to have a different view on things than you do. Which means you can't live your life likes this. You can do fine on your own, in fact you will probably do better on your own when you don't have anyone blocking your dreams. This is just a phase in your life, a phase that can lead to greatness. You will find support and friends from everywhere, you already have this website. Keep reaching for your dreams!
     
  14. Well said....
     
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  15. frogs2345

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    Look, if you spend your life trying to please other people, you will end up never pleaing yourself. Nobody is always happy. You can't satisfy everyone. Follow your own path and show them you know what you are doing. Everyone takes a different amount of time to find themselves. Follow your heart, but don't let it take the reins. Think logically, but positively.

    I thought I was going to be an electrical engineer. I got into college, went for a semester, had the grades and was set. My mental health tanked and I ended up in the hospital. I thought I had lost everything. I looked up apprenticeships and ended up finding a career that I love, in being an electrician. I had lost hope, and found it.

    "You do have a future, and your hope will not be cut off."
    Proverbs 23:18

    I believe in you.

    Now about coding:
    Be careful, because everyone is trying to get into it. That being said, learn the basics, then specialize. Go into something that is always needed in this day and age. Database and server management personnel are always in short supply. There is nothing that hard work cannot accomplish.
     
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  16. MagicTaco420

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    if you truly thought it was too late, you wouldn't be here. you are seeking help because deep down, you know it's never too late. life has many ups and downs, and sometimes, all you need is a little help, and this community is a great place to get help. I've only been here for a few minutes but im already receiving help which has inspired me to help others myself. just know that whatever you are going through, it is only a small bump in the middle of a long journey. just hang in there, you'll get through it and look back thinking about how insignificant this whole fiasco was in the grand scheme of things. i wish you the best of luck.
     
  17. rafsan045

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    thank you all for this i think this will make me motivate long enough to get my dreams
     
  18. phwrancesco

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    stop blaming mommy man
     
  19. ClickClickBoom

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    First of all I respect your struggle, second don't you think its time to make your own decision in life and stop depending on what mommie dearest tells you?
    Yes, she is you mother and you should respect her, she created you after all.

    Why do you care about what other people think about you?
    Your happiness should not depend on the validation of other, in the end the only opinion that matters is your own.

    And no you dont truely love yourself, other peoples opinions about yourself matter way too much to you, at this point you depend too much on the validation of others to feel happy and that will always be conditionaly loving yourself.

    My point is you should not care about the opinions that other people have of you, whatever they say is meaningless, the only opinion about yourself that should matter is your own, accept yourself and continue to improve your life in all aspects, be consistent and you will achieve your goal.

    Best wishes,
     

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