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Loneliness and sexual submission

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by Freedom_from_PMO, May 27, 2019.

  1. Freedom_from_PMO

    Freedom_from_PMO Fapstronaut

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    Do you think prolonged loneliness can make you more submissive? I sometimes feel very sexually submissive, and I don't know if this is because of porn or because feeling like a failiure and vulnerable.
     
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  2. Primarily it's PMO affecting your sexuality negatively, including the possibility of developing various fetishes.

    You loneliness is a result of using PMO as coping mechanism. Once you successfully stopped it, you will seek the company of other people.
     
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  3. helpinghand4all

    helpinghand4all Fapstronaut

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    According to me loneliness isn't linked to failure, loneliness is linked to true success, when you'll really chase success, when you're deviant, when you're doing what no one else is, that is the time that you'll feel lonely as you haven't ever in your life, when you're chasing success, not even your family will pat your shoulders about anything you've got to struggle till the very end alone. Take example of Elon Musk ( i know i can never be as great as him) who do you think would've helped him? would've stayed with him for all those years he was a boy who was beaten up once and thrown down stairs. You can make a positive change in your life yourself no one will accompany you, no one stays with you when you're chasing success, Take Example of "Whiplash" movie, something that's close to reality, in the end his girlfreind gave up on him and this is the reality everyone gives up on you when you're doing something that fascinates you. You can take control of your life you can be as great as you ever imagined yourself to be. Don't let loneliness succumb you, take advantage of your loneliness work hard when no one's watching you and then shine bright when they do.
     
  4. Freedom_from_PMO

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    This is cope. If you are lonely not because you decided to be lonely you are a failiure. If you are a hermit or a genius scientist it is a choice, but if you are lonely because you have lacking social skills and confidence, then this is a failiure. The thing is that I am not unsuccesful in other areas of life, hell I am even not unsuccesful in self improvement, but the thing is that nobody really cares unless you are really big deal. But you know what, it is absurd to demand to shine bright to be seen as a romantic partner. Most people in relationships are just normal people. Loneliness is unbearable because it is not a choice and therefore it serves no purpose. I am commited to doing various things but it is much harder to me when I am lonely. I am just this kind of person.
     
  5. Freedom_from_PMO

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    Rebooting already helped some fetishes, I hope I will be alright. I thought it might be some connection. Loneliness definitely pushes people for seeking alternatives.

    I would not say PMO is reason for loneliness. Yes it is definitely a cope, but you think that I wasn't seeking company? It is a vicious cycle PMO and loneliness enforces each other.
     
  6. helpinghand4all

    helpinghand4all Fapstronaut

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    Dude, why are you feeling so depressed, i'm lonely because i choose to be, If you want to have a social life so bad, you can always go out and have fun with your freinds, it's no big deal. Want to have a relationship? stay cool with your life and you'll get a girlfreind eventually. I can't find anything wrong with you for you to stay lonely, there are 7 billion people in this world. More than 2 Billion women, I hope you can easily find a partner if you don't like loneliness. If you're ever feeling sad you can take my help, I'll help you in anything related to lifting yourself up. If you can't find a girlfreind, I can help you get one, but you've got to do it on your own, I can only guide you. And don't feel sad just yet, as i can see you've just relapsed and i want you to know that you'll only get better with increasing day count, when i've relapsed i feel like depressed helpless shit, but on a good day count beyond 30 I conquer everyday without effort. Give yourself some time.
     
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  7. Freedom_from_PMO

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    I like your optimism and enthusiam a lot bro, but I don't think you understand my situation. At least I have friends and people I can hang with. That is not a problem but I badly suck at relationships. I have a plan of self improvement and I am doing progress, I hope I will be fine in one or two years. Maybe I am mad because of relapse, maybe, but it also hard when I am not relalsing. Anyway I stay focused, but life sometines sucks. Yeah I know that PMO makes it worse but biggest obstacles are things I had no power over. I can change them to some degree, but it takes time. It wasn't my choice to be like this.
     
  8. Freedom_from_PMO

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    I think I became agitated because I am tired with those cope advices. I know that you wanted to help, but your advice about loneliness is extremely unhelpful and I heard similar advices so many times.
     
  9. helpinghand4all

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    I understand atleast try 40 days on nofap and see if you get any results, I uninstalled all the apps from my phone and also uninstalled app installer file and it has helped, I would surely want you to continue nofap and see how great you become day by day!
     
  10. This is a great thread can we talk more about the perceived link between loneliness and submissive behaviour which did occur a little I'd like to hear more on that from anyone
     
  11. Freedom_from_PMO

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    Something I know for sure is that loneliness is a risk factor for sissification fetish, because it exploits anxieties and failiures.
     

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