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Loneliness, depression, flatline

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by Commuter, Apr 16, 2018.

  1. Commuter

    Commuter Fapstronaut

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    Hi fellow fapstronauts,

    i am at day 57 and I have been flatlining hard since day 23. The last two days have been very hard for me. I feel lonely and unmotivated. I know exactly what I have to do for studies and work, but can't seem to force myself to do the things I need to do. The only thing I am doing with consistency throughout my reboot is lifting weights as I forget about my depression and loneliness. But as soon as I get back home negative thoughts return. In addition, I get strong flashbacks of my ex, which kills me as things didn't go well because of my severe PIED.
    Uni sucks too. There are many beautiful girls, but atm I am an asexual wreck, not able to socialize (I am normally very social). I am wearing all black like a freak because light colors remind me of the beauty of life which I just can't have or feel like at the moment.
    I have great friends but nothing helps to lift my mood. I want to be alone.
    How can I cope with this situation?
     
  2. Don't give up my friend. Need continue. Serotonin levels in our brain are to low and this create flatline. We must change life . Gym helps to change the levels . Keep going.
     
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  3. Commuter

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    Thanks my friend, I know relapse is not an option. It is just that flatlining for 5 weeks is quite annoying as I feel weak and only do things with a lot of effort. Depression also hits me hard. What else beside lifting weights can I do? I also take cold showers every day. I want my libido back
     
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  4. I made a comment to someone earlier on this site about giving the brain a new toy to play with so it can stop throwing tantrums and finally settle down. PMO was a very engaging and pleasurable thing however destructive. So by spending more time now with my others interests in life to replace the junk of the past, I should be receiving just as much pleasure but in a different way. Also, time heals all wounds. All that junk will be no longer in our face anymore. I am also experiencing such loneliness and I have to kick myself to do anything. At least my job is a nice distraction during this reboot period. Struggle is not without its rewards! We'll get over this.
     
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  5. immadothis

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    I am at days no flatline ,and I don't wanna do excercise study, resist but I still try to do it, try listening to motivational speeches or some concentration music, force yourself to study, moods, just enjoy being alone, but whatever you do, get through them days, break the 100day barrier, you have to fight just like people with cancer, be a cancersurvivor for us
     
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  6. Commuter

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    I have yet to find out what else I am interested in. I am learning Spanish, have amazing Spanish friends, work is better than ever, get compliments and credits for my work. I work out. But still nothing can really please me at the moment. It has been like that for 2 days. I guess I have to push through it. I just hope this phase ends quickly. Thx for your encouragement
     
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  7. Commuter

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    Thanks my friend,
    I will break the 100 barrier. Relapsing at this stage is unthinkable. I can even be alone at home and not thinking of fapping. But yeah, you are right. I have to force mysrlf of doing things. Thanks for encouraging
     
  8. Creation_of_life

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    Stay busy, there is nothing else you can do, do things you know will keep your mind busy. If you don't give your mind time to think about the misery, you will feel less miserable. It will eventually get better though, your brain needs to rewire, you will learn to get pleasure from other stuff, at some point you notice hey I had fun and pleasure taking that walk in the park. I hope those kind of moments arrive soon for you!
     
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  9. It will lift, just trust in the process. The brain creates this flatline in order to complete necessary repairs from the damage caused. Having no libido feels odd and having low mood and social anxiety is unpleasant. But it is temporary. In my first streak the flatline came @ 20 days and left @ 70 days. But we are all different and our histories and physiologies are too.

    Treat it as a temporary course of treatment, which may "taste" or feel unpleasant, but which will make you much better in the end. Above all, don't panic! And never believe the lie that masturbating with or without porn will make things better. :cool:
     
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  10. Relinquished

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    Hello my friend. Embrace it. Embrace, because now it is your chance to see and witness to such a unique experience. It will pass (as it happened to me) and sun will once more shine through after a long night. It will pass, everything passes. Do not run away from it, instead watch it with full awareness; see what makes you depressed and feel it completely how it is to be depressed. Because when it passes and leaves you with pure light, you will be thankful that you had experienced it. We are so close on streaks and you were always been a source of motivation to me, for that I can't thank you enough.
     
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  11. If I had any idea, any inkling of the potential consequences of the addiction trap of pmo years ago...suffering through cold turkey now is the last time I'm ever going through this shit...not even with a gun to my head am I returning to the junk of the past...I can't wait until the worst is over! And relating to the post above me, yes, I do embrace this sweet suffering. How am I ever going to learn this lesson otherwise?
     
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  12. Commuter

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    Brother, can't express how thankful I am for your post. You are right. It will pass. Really lifts my mood and motivates me. Hearing that I am a source of motivation is one of the biggest compliments you can get. The same applies to you, brother. Seeing you posting your nofap days in the groups keeps me going.Alone for that I will keep going!! I hope we will be motivation for others too. Not only regarding reboot, but also in other areas of life.Thanks!!!!
     
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  13. Hillario

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    Hi man, I agree with Creation_of_lifeFapstronaut post:
    ''Stay busy, there is nothing else you can do, do things you ...'', they say that the best cure for depression and low energy, sadness is toll ''hoe'' and garden to use hoe.
     
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