Loneliness in a Relationship

If you can't accept things for what they are, you will suffer immensely. You are closing the door for anything else to happen for you. I would get out of that situation. It cant be good for your child, either. I would suggest talking this out with your gf, with the focus being on what is best for your daughter. Just my 2 cents.

 

From what I understand, your current situation is very toxic for you and your child. In order for your daughter to grow up without emotional scars your child needs a loving and caring environment.

Also, if their is no longer any emotional connection between you and your girlfriend then the longer the time you continue to put up with this situation, the more time you loose in finding a potential loving and nurturing relationship that will also potentially benefit your daughter. This is ONLY my opinion.

I can somehow see your child wondering why both mom & dad don't really get along and she will feel torn between the two of you in the future. It may even scar her emotionally.

In my opinion it is better that you find a solution that gives you and your daughter a more mentally and emotionally healthier environment. If leaving your girlfriend in your opinion would achieve that then you have your answer.

Just an opinion.

 

You would be surprised how intuitive children can be

Have you considered seeing a family therapist?

 

How old is your daughter?

Even if she doesn't consciously notice, you are still establishing her model for what relationships are like.

Either get help with your relationship, or split up, ASAP. Your daughter will almost certainly be upset at first, but kids are resilient. Years of exposure to tension is much more scarring, no matter how well you think you are hiding it from her. And you can still be heavily involved in her life. I actually saw a lot MORE of my dad after my parents split up and he moved out, when I was almost 13.

 

Uhmmm. it's a strange situation indeed. You have to understand that ending a relationship which its no longer benefitial to you it's not something bad. You already tried to build a bond of intimacy with your girlfriend and she doesn't seem to want to. This may sound selfish, but you have to think about yourself as well. Your daughter will understand once she grows up.

 

It is one thing for your girlfriend to decide that she does not want to have sex. But in turn, she imposes the same sentence on you. She can dictate her own sex and intimate life, but she has no right to dictate yours.

Your relationship sounds like it is a matter of time before it collapses anyway. You might as way face the reality on your own terms and meet someone new while you are still young.

If your girlfriend was sick and you were mad at her for not putting out - that would be selfish. Wanting companionship that she cannot and will not provide is not selfish. She is the selfish one.

Your daughter also deserves a happy father (and mother for that matter). If things stay as they are, your daughter is going to believe that loneliness is the norm and she will have no respect for men when she becomes an adult.

 

Seriously, kids bounce back. Better now than after years of her observing that you and your gf don't actually enjoy each others company.

If you gf is unwilling to work on the relationship, and things don't improve significantly, BREAK UP, but make sure to stay involved in your daughter's life. Build a good strong relationship with HER while she is young. Find a better girlfriend to show her an example of what a good partnership is like. The example you set does not have to be with her mother. Hopefully her mom will find her own more fulfilling, healthy relationship. Don't speak badly or show ill will towards her mother, unless her mother is creating a harmful environment.