Loneliness makes it so much harder

I know how that feels like, man. But these emotions come and go: have a plan for the long term in this regard, focus on yourself and this problem will get solved eventually. Start thinking more positively.

Approaching women IS that simple as long as you're in the right environment with the right attitude, specially the latter which is why a lot of us are on this journey. Finding quality women, however, is not that simple but that's the point of getting yourself out there. Cheers!

 

Go to Church dawg, a good Church is full of loving people and sweet chicks.

 

What you describe in your post (that feeling or void of loneliness that has to be filled) is exactly what drives most men towards longterm insanity, misery and stagnation in life since they have never sought for alternative, more long-term and fulfilling sources of happiness in their lives.
Combined with a scarcity mindset, these men rely on their special one to provide them happiness and fulfillment in life but what happens on the day when that special one isn't there any longer?

They go insane because they have absolutely nothing to fall back on (no plan-B) in case that happens so that's why it is of paramount importance to focus on yourself first and foremost, meaning building up a great life first that doesn't require 'a special one' for it to be great. If you have great friends, a great job (or business), supporting family and strong believe in yourself, any woman that comes into your life will be the frosting on the cake and not the cake itself.
When you are very content with life (despite being single) and feel it inside, other people will sense it to and thus you attract great people, events and circumstances into your life.

I know so many men who have walked into that trap (just because they cannot handle loneliness/singleness and celibacy for some time) and who are now stuck with their families without any spare-time to focus on themselves, their goals, purposes or self-improvement.
They are now bound for decades of mediocrity (in almost every aspect of life) unless they spend whatever free-time they have left with some productive activities needed in order to improve themselves.
So, enjoy your singleness and focus that time and effort into building up a great life around yourself first and foremost and all other things will automatically follow and fall into their place.

 

Dude, churches aren't necessarily the best place to meet attractive gals, since if they are young and attractive, they are most likely taken. No one's going to leave these "sweet chics" alone, they're going to get snatched up by someone. I'm so tired of hearing people always suggest church as a good place to meet someone. smh

 

Yeah, I hear what you're saying, but the situation is sort of like how banks only lend to people who don't really need the money and reject those that truly need the money.

 

I'm 23 now, have the same thing. But understood that porn is the thing that only hurts.
At first it was fun, nothing more. Right now I'm here, just maybe to re-read the experience of those who are "battling" for freedom against PMO.
About girls... Just take your time m8, the thing I understood, you have to find someone who really is interested in you and shares your interests. It's not about banging someone. When you find that sort of person, you start 2 see yourself in her. Your habits, interests etc...
Well, I mean that everything comes with time. First - some conversations, flirt, spending some time outside together and normally sex. (Those steps are normal when you want 2 find a girlfriend as a partner, and not as a friend).
But sometimes you can "miss the train" and take a wrong place, so instead of banging someone, you brain can be banged out...
Best wishes)

 

AMEN to that brother! (i'm not religious but still, damn well said!)

 

So in the past you had girls make the move on you and got used to that. The good news here is that youre not a facelet incel since those girls pursued you.

What I will say is that not all dudes have your luck and would love to have your looks but despite that, I have seen these lesser men do very well and manage to pull some very nice women.

In short, I would say quit being lazy and go after the women you want otherwise you don't deserve any sympathy. There's so many more suicidal worse off dudes than you out there.

 

Yes, 'insane' was probably the incorrect word/term to use and desperate is a much better description. Those men live only in the material/concrete world where they are complete slaves under their intellect and ego alone. Thus, they are totally reliant on feeding these continuously (through external means) or otherwise the ego starves which is why they are left with such a sense of panic, despair and brokenness when a relationship ends.
What they should do is to look inward and become one with their inner world and universal mind (or God or whatever you call) which requires a heavy self-ransacking process at first but it will be so rewarding in the long run. No good things in life come easy, especially not the sense of self-acceptance and inner peace. For those who just even start to grasp it (although not yet enlightened) will be much better-off in every walk of life than those who are only seeking temporary escapism, past-times and distractions that only feed their superficial intellect and ego.