Loneliness sucks!

searching and in the mean time embrace your lonliness (is that how you spell it?)

 

I feel you bro. I've always been lonely. Never really had close friendships. Girlfriends have been only for a few months or so, then break up. I've been alone for almost my entire life, really isolated from everyone, even my family sometimes. Wish I could offer some great piece of advice, but lots of us struggle with the same issue. I just try to be more social when I do go out and try to ask questions to get to know people well...it's hard because I'm also naturally an introvert.

 

I have the same problem too (on both sexuality and friendship/friend-to-confide-in fronts). Second @free0fight, would just add that, talking with various friends, either married or in relationship, most would say their romantic relationship is usually something quite different from having someone, like a close friend, to confide everything in. My feeling is you won't find that immediately in a girlfriend (or boyfriend for that matter)—you're lucky if you do, but that's not often, or so I hear. Work on finding someone you can relate with totally, where confiding can work. That friendship is more important than anything else.

 

How to fight loneliness???? Uh ehm, well if your not enjoying your own company then work on that first.
But if you must or desperately need one, then be prepared to put yourself out there. Become vulnerable.
Be prepared for rejection from others but you will go through it as you did with porn and you will find that person. If you are an introvert there is always online, and if ever you need to feel you belong your always welcome to my nofap skype group where we confide our thoughts to one another without judgement.

Stay clean

 

I've heard that one of the reasons that guys are comfortable with porn is because there is no chance of rejection: it's just a computer screen. It creates a false sense of security. Interacting with actual people is harder because, like badeae1 said, there is always a chance of rejection. Actually, you will get rejected. You can't please everybody, some people will simply not like you. But that's life. As a 100% introvert, putting myself out there is painful and frankly, some days I don't want to do it. But it's part of the growing process, part of finding out where you best fit in society and finding out where your niche is. In the process you'll learn a lot about yourself that you did not know before. Keep at it man, wish you the best of luck.