rikityrik

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It is so hard to continue with NoFap when I am constantly going through bouts of feeling lonely.

I am also finding it hard to cope with my friendships with my bros in terms of feeling a gushing sense of egotistical anxiety and jealousy when I see them getting into relationships with beautiful women whilst they brag about their sexual pursuits. Hence, I constantly choose to ignore their calls or to ignore any form of social media that would make me engage with them and feel crappy about myself.

This behaviour is nonsensical, I know, but I am not able to get out of this trance-like state, no matter how much I try otherwise.

And this does affect other areas of my life-such as studies and gym. I try to stay focused though, I must say. I get up everyday and work hard on my goals, but sometimes my train of thought takes me to a state of dread. I have also been doing meditation to be the observer of my thoughts-to not let the thoughts affect my inner state of well-being.

I know it is just a phase. I think I might be too harsh on myself in this instance, as all of my bros (as mentioned above) have a thriving social life. They go out every weekend and have a social circle that they engage with on a daily basis. Hence, the opportunities are there for them to attract and date gorgeous women.

As far as I am concerned, I have been pretty much locked up in my room since March as I have been working on some difficult academic goals, and I know that the opportunities aren't there for me to go out and do what I think is necessary. I know I don't have a problem attracting girls if I put myself in a social setting.

My problem, and therefore, my question is- how do I cope with this innate feeling of anxiety, restlessness, and jealousy whilst on NoFap during this phase of isolation?
 
Hey, man. If your friends values aren't the same as yours, then just remember there's lots of people out there that do share your values and you will meet them soon enough!

Yes. It's just a phase. Temporary. Do keep keeping that in mind! That's too much time, though, man.. to be locked / holed up in a room. Also, that won't help with avoiding relapse. Be around people. Anyone, not saying just friends that aren't helpful for you. The guys that are fronting BS (and, that's almost certainly what it is) are likely to have similar problems. You recover from having any connection to P / PMO / etc then you're going to be the real man of the bunch, and you'll naturally attract the right girls, and will be able to take your pick.
 
Hey, man. If your friends values aren't the same as yours, then just remember there's lots of people out there that do share your values and you will meet them soon enough!

Yes. It's just a phase. Temporary. Do keep keeping that in mind! That's too much time, though, man.. to be locked / holed up in a room. Also, that won't help with avoiding relapse. Be around people. Anyone, not saying just friends that aren't helpful for you. The guys that are fronting BS (and, that's almost certainly what it is) are likely to have similar problems. You recover from having any connection to P / PMO / etc then you're going to be the real man of the bunch, and you'll naturally attract the right girls, and will be able to take your pick.

Hey man, firstly, cheers for taking time and replying to this thread. I appreciate it.

I see what you mean btw. I just need to trust the process that I have undertaken-be it NoFap, or anything else- and have patience. Sometimes the mind wanders off to undesirable realms, but I need to be in full control of it all the time.

In fact, its a new day and I feel better already. I look around and my anxieties and so-called "problems" seem so small in the grand scheme of things, and I should have nothing but a sense of gratitude in my mental frame at all times. Just need to learn to be in control of my ship, that's all! And I shall do just that! :)
 
It is so hard to continue with NoFap when I am constantly going through bouts of feeling lonely.

I am also finding it hard to cope with my friendships with my bros in terms of feeling a gushing sense of egotistical anxiety and jealousy when I see them getting into relationships with beautiful women whilst they brag about their sexual pursuits. Hence, I constantly choose to ignore their calls or to ignore any form of social media that would make me engage with them and feel crappy about myself.

This behaviour is nonsensical, I know, but I am not able to get out of this trance-like state, no matter how much I try otherwise.

And this does affect other areas of my life-such as studies and gym. I try to stay focused though, I must say. I get up everyday and work hard on my goals, but sometimes my train of thought takes me to a state of dread. I have also been doing meditation to be the observer of my thoughts-to not let the thoughts affect my inner state of well-being.

I know it is just a phase. I think I might be too harsh on myself in this instance, as all of my bros (as mentioned above) have a thriving social life. They go out every weekend and have a social circle that they engage with on a daily basis. Hence, the opportunities are there for them to attract and date gorgeous women.

As far as I am concerned, I have been pretty much locked up in my room since March as I have been working on some difficult academic goals, and I know that the opportunities aren't there for me to go out and do what I think is necessary. I know I don't have a problem attracting girls if I put myself in a social setting.

My problem, and therefore, my question is- how do I cope with this innate feeling of anxiety, restlessness, and jealousy whilst on NoFap during this phase of isolation?

I can TOTALLY relate. I couldn't focus on anything for a long time. I would constantly think about how my life is so empty and i don't have many friends, gf, etc.

I also look at my friends sometimes and burn with jealousy, but this is the life that I chose, right?

All I can do now is, fix it, and move ahead. That's all. Take responsibility for my life.

At least you have the confidence that you can attract beautiful girls. I can't even say that with confidence :P
 
As far as I am concerned, I have been pretty much locked up in my room since March as I have been working on some difficult academic goals, and I know that the opportunities aren't there for me to go out and do what I think is necessary. I know I don't have a problem attracting girls if I put myself in a social setting.

My problem, and therefore, my question is- how do I cope with this innate feeling of anxiety, restlessness, and jealousy whilst on NoFap during this phase of isolation?

Take a night off. If you have no problem attracting girls, go out and get one for a night. Nothing takes care of the jealousy of another man's life like enjoying your own.
 
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