Hi nofap, I'm 31 years old and 1 month ago after 12 years of unwanted celibacy I decided to hire an escort to lose my virginity. I was successful but in the process I had some performance issues that reminded me of things I'd read on yourbrainonporn and seen in the TED talk on the subject and decided to start a reboot. I've had one girlfriend in my life who I dated for almost two years and to this day she is the only girl I've been on a date with. She and the escort are the only women I have been with intimately and in my 31 years of life I have only asked out two women. I was hoping when hiring the escort and losing my virginity I would gain confidence in that aspect of my life but it didn't really happen. Instead I find myself crippled by shyness and fear and unable to approach women. I have tried a lot of things, reading dating coach advice, social dynamics, online dating apps, enrolling in classes just to meet girls but nothing has gotten me over this crippling fear when it comes to talking to women. I know it's a confidence thing but I'm not really sure how to build up that confidence and overcome this fear when I feel so stagnant in this area. I am currently on day 30 with no P and day 11 without MO and am really hoping that this helps me change eventually but right now I am probably flat lining. I want to stick it out and finish at least 90 days on this reboot but I find myself constantly getting triggered by my loneliness and inability to talk to women. I feel like if I don't take some kind of action on this thing that is really bothering me about myself I'm going to keep getting triggered whenever I see a pretty girl I can't talk to and eventually relapse just because it eases the pain. I could use some encouragement or advice from this community, especially if you've dealt with approach anxiety and were able to improve after a reboot.