Lonely Baby Crying in My Bones

Welcome. You are not alone. My husband and I found great help here at NoFap, such that we have never found anywhere else. Our marriage is finally healing after reaching the point of near death!

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For me, my husband not being able to open up to me and talk about it has been more harmful than anything. If you are struggling with PMO addiction I can say with pretty good confidence that she has been hurt already, not talking to her about it won't fix it. I have an alternate suggestion. Let her in on your fight. Let her into your mind and your life. Fully. We found a few tools here that have been key to our recovery and I want to share them with you and your GF.

1. The reboot is so important. We started out hard mode and I'm glad. We went monk mode, no sex at all for about a month or so and then began to experiment with karezza, sex without O. Ironically, we eventually began to O with each other due to that and are now doing normal mode. He's avoiding PMO and I'm avoiding MO. We've made the decision to save Os for each other.

2. And this one is the one I would recommend you try first. FANOS. P is an intimacy killer and numbs emotions. FANOS is so helpful to restart healthy communication.

3. Your GF is welcome here at NoFap too. We have a private group for SOs that I have found very helpful.

Best of luck to you both!

 

I can relate to this as well. It's good to know I ain't alone.

 

It does hurt. It hurts a lot. She needs to be free to express her feelings to you and you need to be able to show her progress. FANOS is great for that. I highly recommend you try it.

For me, individual counseling also helps a lot. My husband encouraged me to go and I've always appreciated that. And he went himself. Being part of the SOs group helps a lot, because it's the first time I've been able to talk to other SOs (right now we are only women) that understand what I am going through. Your GF is welcome.

I also suggest you read this journal. https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/coming-out-of-my-porn-coma.60578/

 

This describes a lot what I feel. Sometimes, I even joke of watching porn all day, and masturbating to weird stuff, my friends laughs hard; but deeply I know this is true, and it affects me.