Lonely Boy Joining The Lonely Hearts Club

It's wonderful to hear someone say this. This is exactly how I feel. Unfortunately, or perhaps fortunately, it means searching for longer. I'm a bit different in that I've given up on the search. It wasn't a conscious decision. It just crept in gradually in the years after my last rejection. I only realised, earlier this year, that I'd given up on searching for someone. These days I endure loneliness, partly in the realisation that I will spend the rest of my life alone. I don't see it as a choice, but simply a reality. I think that perhaps I was born, missing something fundamental that other men have. Do you believe in reincarnation? I am agnostic, but if it is reality, maybe next time around I'd have better luck?

As for online dating, who are we to judge? I've read of successful marriages that began as a result of it. It's a new platform for searching and connecting with someone aided by the technology of the 21st century. In the old days, I used to wonder to myself, "What is the likelihood that there is someone in my little part of the world, who would like me, and who I would like?" What are the chances of that, huh? How does that even work? That out of the vastness of this world, there is someone here who I could connect with on an intimate level. In my view, people who have found that person, have defeated some very crazy odds: the odds that two strangers would meet and, through getting to know each other, develop a mutual attraction that leads to a relationship that develops and grows into something. It's almost enough to lead a non-believer to believe in predestination.

Here is where online dating comes in. Please note that I've never tried it, but I think that the principles behind it are sound. It boosts the likelihood, the 1 in 7 billion chance, that you, and the person out there who will reciprocate your affection in the immense sea of individuals, can meet in a virtual space to converse and get to know each other. It helps you to transcend geography and those "crazy odds" that I mentioned, in order to connect with that person. Whereas before, you could spend a lifetime and never meet that person, now you can. If that person exists.