long distances, relapses, urges etc.

[Help_wanted!]

Hi Guys (and girls),

Since a while I have a (long distance) relationship with an amazing girl and I truly love her so f*cking much that we wanna live together and start a new chapter in our life with each other.

And the darkside is: We did several attempts on having sex and from that part on, I became totally convinced about the destructions porn can cause and I shared it with her (and feared that she will leave me) about my porn addiction.

But somehow I got an erection when she touched my penis or lays down on me with her front towards mine the first days of being close.

Today she left my place to get home, first parts of the day were fine until the urge of relapsing appeared again and guess what... I have relapsed and I felt both guilty and pathetic at the same time.

All advice, love, support and help is welcome, it is also very helpful to share your stories as well.

 

[Candun]

Relapses happen, I had one just a couple weeks ago. You definitely need to forgive yourself, or that guilt and shame will eat at you and drive more relapses. Forgive yourself, but at the same time take accountability and make a change, minor or major, to prevent the next relapse. Keep this up until you find the things that work for you.