Long time porn user looking to make a break

Hi Compulsion Conqueror,

Firstly welcome to Nofap. Posting can be a hurdle to get over and you've very clear and articulate in expressing both your self-awareness and needs. I understand about feeling anxious about talking about these things to those we love, because just about all things sex are still such taboo subjects. Like you said, It's also hard for parents because sometimes they may feel responsible. Addictions are tough on everyone, but maybe you could take the lead from your therapist and in time, find the courage to speak with those close to you if you feel you haven't made the kind of progress you had hoped. Part of the process of recovery is to overcome any sense of shame that we feel and shame can only be conquered by openly talking to those we shy away from, as shame resides in the shying away, not confronting. I worked on shame this year and made amazing strides with my self-confidence and worth.

A book I'd recommend is Thadeus Birchards Overcoming Sex Addiction. There's some really helpful stuff in there.

Anyway, best of luck with your goals!

 

Congrats on taking those steps.

I kept this hidden for many years and when I finally told my partner about my issue it was a huge relief to get it off my chest. Whilst I still had a long ways to go at the time, it just felt easier not carrying around the secret.