Looking at ladies's body parts

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by FortuneMan, Aug 12, 2018.

  1. FortuneMan

    FortuneMan Fapstronaut

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    I am sufferring from a bad mind.when I talk to ladies or girls my eyes start rolling out to see their shoulders and breast and other sexual parts.

    Due to this even my neighours started avoiding me and my friends realized real I have this kind of rude behaviour. Whenever I try to improve this, things went worse.

    Do I need to see a psychiatrist :(
     
  2. MiawPowPow

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    I feel like this problem could be resolve by a long NoFap/porn streak.

    One of the effect I felt when doing streak of 30+ days was less objectification of women. Your mind stops thinking of women in porn and you can really start seeing the beauty of women.

    If you never went that far, I suggest you go through a good long streak and your mind will completely change. I now look much more at women eyes than the rest. They also seem much more beautiful and attractive.

    Ypour urges might be worst in the beggining but trust me, it is worth it :)
     
  3. We are visual creatures, but, after time away from PMO your mind will be less likely to objectifying women as just things for gratification. The world will not change and you will still see but you will be more able to just acknowledge what you see as nice and move on in a normal socializing manner. No more staring
     
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  4. FortuneMan

    FortuneMan Fapstronaut

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    Thanks Guys.
    Whenever I stop watching porn, it is coming back again after one or two week gaps.
     
  5. That is normal also, your brain is scrambling and trying it's hardest to get it fix, but it will calm down and you will get through this. Don't give up.
     
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  6. seaguy44

    seaguy44 Moderator Assistant Staff Member Moderator Assistant

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    I have the same issue! Its not easy. Girls are beautiful. I'm still struggling with this
     
  7. Ossyblaz9

    Ossyblaz9 Fapstronaut

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    I'm also so guilty of this but since I joined nofap I vowed not to look at women or ladies more than once
     
  8. J Arthur Rank

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    I spent weeks looking at adult woman's (all ages!) asses to work out sort of underwear they were wearing, which lead to other bad thought
     
  9. Ossyblaz9

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    That why u need to start building up ur will power and stand by it u need to also identify ur trigger cause u will definitely meet them it is by building up a strong will to overcome this menace cause once u are able to overcome ur triggers that's is when ur transformation begins
     
  10. J Arthur Rank

    J Arthur Rank Fapstronaut

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    after recognizing this as an issue and admitting it to myself, it was easier to stop. the nofap, also helped a lot. I feel much better out with people in public now.
     
  11. Ossyblaz9

    Ossyblaz9 Fapstronaut

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    That's nice to know stay strong God will see u through
     
  12. Ossyblaz9

    Ossyblaz9 Fapstronaut

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    Ensure u read more of success stories in this platform that alone is a motivation
     
  13. I find it helpful to see interaction from the lady's point of view. Imagine if you were in her position, and some big meaty chunk of muscle and dick walks up and starts staring at your body, wouldn't feel too comfortable eh?

    Let me make one thing clear: there is nothing wrong with admiring women in their entirety (bodies included). You just have to know the time and place.

    For first encounters, try to stick with eye contact (check out the rest of her with your peripherals). As your relationship progresses, then you'll have to feel out the atmosphere and situation to determine what actions are cool and what aren't.

    I find imagining yourself in her position the best way to determine if your actions are ok. This requires experience with her personality though, and that just takes time.
     
  14. J Arthur Rank

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    I was doing it covertly, dark glasses and walking behind them so they wouldn't have known, but that doesn't make it better. I am ashamed, and I am pleased that I am able to change my behaviors. I have taken steps to right some of my wrongs. Doing something nice for someone everyday Some days, I don't get the opportunity, but simple things like picking up litter, out on the street for example, or putting someone else's rubbish in the bin in McDonalds. It might not seem like much, and even if no-one else knows or notices, you know you have done something good for someone else.
    That positive act, also gives you hope that you are not horrible or bad. Well, it does for me.. hope someone else can get something from that ;)
     
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  15. seaguy44

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    I'm still struggling with this. Today I was with a female friend. She wasn't wearing cleveages (thankfully), but she has nice breasts. I can't help this. It's SO frigging hard! I try to bounce off my eyes, but I"m a male. This is PRIMAL for males.

    I'm frustrated to be honest.
     
  16. Ossyblaz9

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    Sure it's not outrightly bad to admire cuz it is natural body impulse but u can learn to discipline ur eyes u vow within urself not to view beyond her eyes no matter how the urge pushes u to look below make her eye ur goal and ensure u don't look beyond dt put a reminder in ur mind that when ever u look below u might go bankrupt or u might loose something vital
     
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  17. Flimsyfryingpan

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    Even though im early on. This is something i still struggle with and putting some of the most attention in working on not doing it. There is progress made in this area and i personally am done with this kind of "Creeper" behavior as the ladies call it. Its still really tough as i frequent the gym and a crossfit member so yoga pants are a mainstay in both places.
    So in a way its good practice for me to see this behavior and put a stop to it.
    Yes i admire a womans body just like any other man can. I just need to stop admiring in a way that years of porn taught me to.
     
  18. Hitto

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    It will get better the more you reboot trust me that urge to look will always be there but you will not be a slave to it I try to not go out of my way to look and unless I am not going to talk to them or make eye contact I just avoid looking all together the gym is the hardest place for me sometimes lol
     
    Last edited: Aug 27, 2018
  19. fan_of_all_might

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    Oh man I'm at the phase in my reboot I'm looking at almost every woman under 30 thinking some socially unacceptable thoughts. This is a guy who wouldn't even bother to look unless the girl exceptionally hot. I'm getting whiplash here on the metro lol.. gotta stay centered. I'm looking forward to the day I feel like less of a slave, like you say.
     
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