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Hello there. I'm an 18 y/o male who discovered porn around the age of 12. Throughout middle and high school, my parents (whom I love dearly and always have my best interests at heart) had my devices on lockdown mode and they were able to see anything I searched up online. While I thank them for this at the time, I would often try to find ways to get other devices that weren't being monitored and PMO there. I would go through dry spells of porn, but then I would find a device that would last me a while until they eventually found out.
That brings me to now. I'm a college student now and have been given free reign over my devices. No parents to hold my hand anymore. What was once just once every few days has now become a few times every day. I've never been in an intimate relationship (Don't plan on being in one either), and I'm tired of going to sites that make me feel worse off than I started. I've seen the weirdest stuff to get me off, and it wasn't even that good. I don't even know what real sex is like.
All that being said, I'm ready to start making a change. I don't feel ready to tell my siblings, I could maybe tell my parents, but things feel easier when I'm talking to people that have no idea who I am. There is no judgement. Everybody understands me without knowing me at all. My final thought is that there should be NO WAY that pornographic sites are as easy to access as they currently are. NO CHILD should have to go through what I went through. This is not a matter of "I went through it so you should too," this is "I went through it so you DON'T have to." It is a CRIME to allow this and I despise the shadows I hide throughout the day because of them.
 
As a parent of two kids, I can see where your parents are coming from, and I see that you don't blame them for it. I have it locked down on my kids' devices, but you can't shield them from it completely.

If there is one thing I learned from my journey and reading your account: it's probably best to have a talk with them when they start hitting that age when they get curious about sex. I don't want my kids go through what I went through for 20+ years.
 
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